Afraid in School..

Philippines
January 18, 2012 10:48am CST
My sister just told me recently that my nephew, a grade 1 student will cry and will not talk to every one else in his classroom. Every time his teacher will ask him instead of answering his teacher he will cry?But at home he is very playful and you never can see him crying. I wonder what's wrong with him? I'm still single and never had a baby so this makes me confused. Have you had encounter a situation like this with your kids? nephews perhaps?
6 responses
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
I think that this is just normal for kids going to school. Maybe he still have separation anxiety to her mother. I think a lot of kids have. Your sister need do more encouraging to your nephew and if she's not busy, she could stay at the school. She should guide your nephew and explain that everything is going to be alright, and also try to encourage her son/daughter to be friends with his/her classmates.
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Anxiety yes, for he used to, that his mom will watch him the whole class period, but lately, his mom been letting him go to school with some of his cousins..thanks by the way.
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
19 Jan 12
I don't think you should be overly concerned about his shyness and hesitation in school. I don't think there is necessarily anything wrong with your nephew. There are many explanations as to why your nephew acts differently at school than he does at home. Many children are less talkative away from home. Both of my sons were shy in school. They did not want to speak out. I chalked it up to self conscienceness. They were afraid that they will give the wrong answers and other kids will laugh at them. In the case of my youngest son, he was rather sheltered before he went to school. He was always around just family. If he wasn't with me, then his older sister baby sat. School was a whole new, strange world full of strangers to him. He wouldn't talk to anyone. He was very hesitant about being left alone with anyone at school. If your nephew had not been exposed to crowds away from his home before going to school, then, he is just needs time to adapt to the school environment and dealing with all these people all at once.
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
hi there deedee328, being not always in the crowd maybe is one reason, his mom really will never allow them to go outside or let them play with some other kids in the neighborhood. But yes you're right, it will take time, and i hope sooner he can adapt the situation. Thanks.. G'day..
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Yes, there are really kids who are like your nephew. I remember when I was in grade school, I also have classmates who cries every time their mother will go. they want to see their mother around for the whole duration of the class. I don't know but maybe they are just adjusting to the situation. Soon they will adapt the new environment and will no longer cry if left by their mother or father. I'm glad my 6 year old kid is doing well in school, he's very independent and I don't remember even one instance wherein he cries at school.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
18 Jan 12
Hi there, that is a normal situation for kids who are just starting to go to school and even for kids that are transferring schools. Give the kid some more time and he/she will like it eventually and may even have some best friends. I have 3 kids and 2 of them have gone through that stage. Something that you should not be worried about. Cheers!
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
I agree with you muelitz. That's how many kids started in school, including my daughter when she first went to kinder. She would cry if she didn't see my face in the window, watching them go on with their classes. That went on for i think 2 days. After which, i leave the monitoring to our helper, until she has friends and our helper would just send her off to school (it's walking distance from our house) and go back to fetch her on their dismissal. And she won't readily go home with the helper because she's still paying with her chosen friends.
@indi15 (888)
• India
19 Jan 12
This situation will be handled by the time only. I had to sit for the whole week in my child's class when he joined nursery, after that also he cried for month and now he is finally settled down. Teacher's support and love for child is more important here.
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
i am a single mom but didn't really experienced that to my kid. but we had a schoolmate that has similar situation like yours. the kid gets mad everytime somebody will talk to him. and the teacher said the boy has psychological issues. i'm not saying that the kid is insane, it's that he is bothered by something. the school recommended that the kid be checked by a psychologist to fully understand what he is going through.