If this were you.....

I would stay there because of the fact that there are children. I would try to get more self involved. Career building and such. once the kis were grown and on their own i would be ready to be on my own too.

It really depend on the individual a young couple may go without intimate relation after having a baby some times for 2 or 3 month...but the love should still be there and cuddles and kisses should be share...on the other hand when couples are set into a routine love making can be boring and become a chore instead of enjoyment! when one couple/husband/wife lose interest in intimacy there is something wrong in the relationship one or the other is not happy so the best thing to do is to talk to your partner/husband/wife and see what can be done. This is how I Am attitude is not acceptable there is a need to explain why?...separation or divorce should be only considered as the last resort...but that is just my opinion any way!

ya go up and hug and kiss them you show some affection then find out whats on his mind something could be worring him big time. My son in law was like that for awhile but when things cleared up off his mind he got better my daughter said!

It feels like you are talking about me here. However, I do know that there is a reason that the intimacy isn't in my relationship anymore and it is because of the fact that my husband has been sick for the last year. When I point out to him that I miss the intimacy that we used to share, he will throw up in my face that he is providing for the children and the two of us and that he works hard. However, knowing that doesn't replace the fact that I do need the affectionin my life. With that said, in our situation, I'm trying to wait a while to see if things get better. If, however, they don't then I am going to suggest that we spend some time apart to see if we can grow together again.

I think that this is serious and i would discuss my thoughts with my spouse. It is no good to feel like that because there will be one day that i might cheat on him when someone else give me the opportunity and some attention. Divorce is difficult when there are kids in the middle but i could not just stay and pretend to be happy.I think the serious and honest discussion will shed some light and uncover hidden problems.Then both me and my spouse should decide about the future of our marriage.

My friends and I love talking about these kinds of topics. As a matter of fact, I'm pretty sure we discussed the hypothetical situation above too! The ideal answer to this would be to divorce (or separate, if divorce is not legal in your country) your spouse, because he clearly doesn't love you anymore. What's the purpose of staying married to a person who is only going through the motions and is not in love with you anymore? How could you live a half-life, a life where you know no love? A life where not even the person you vowed you will spend the rest of your life with will love you? However, you have kids. Are you willing to let your kids go through the trauma of having separated parents? On the flipside, are you willing to let your kids go through a life of knowing that their parents don't love each other? Also, are you able to provide for your kids by yourself? Will you be able to ensure that they have the best education, and they would live the best lives possible? Things and situations aren't always black and white. There are a lot of angles to consider in everything. Ultimately, if it were me, I would fight for my marriage because I love my kids. I would do everything in my power to make my husband love me again. I would take everyday one day at a time. I would do everything for kids.

First the couple should watch the movie Fireproof together. I would suggest the movie to my spouse and bring it home for us to watch. Then I would purchase The Love Dare book and begin going through the steps in the book. I would do this without harrassing the spouse to do it. If he decided he wanted to do it then I would be happy to have him work with me on it. But before asking him to change I would take a look at myself. If that doesn't work then maybe a separation would be the answer.

I suppose this happen to many couples when they reach a certain period in life where they view intimacy as a redundant chore. When one partner still have the strong urge for intimacy while the other is not compromising then the end result will be disastrous. They are quick to rush to the exit door and find a suitable mate that can fill the void. Divorce is inevitable when infidelity happens.

At this point in time there are others to consider besides yourself. If your spouse is the male you may be dealing with that large male pride that cannot accept that there may be something wrong with him. What I would do is tell him I was concerned for my own peace of mind feel that as parents we both need a full physical just to make sure there are no hidden problems that could put the family in a serious finanacial situation. If you can get him to agree to this you can make sure that a testosterone test is inclued in his blood work. This may be his problem. Of course there could be several other things that are causing this lack of physical contact.

Hey Shar! I think there are many things to consider and it might ultimately boil down to what is right for a person versus what is right or wrong. There are a lot of reasons why people might become emotionally detached. Work, health, worries and then the all to common...boredom. Kind of like a rut. I would get to the bottom of the cause and do what I could to spice things up If it didn't work and I felt like I needed more...I'd move to last resorts.

it feels very bad when your spouse start neglecting you after the a year of marriage. but according to intimacy is not all the thing.sometimes we have to compromise with some thing.there is lot many things in marriage to do.but it is also truth that it matters a lot. but it was me then i try to understand my spouse feeling and that what hid desire about this and i explain myself that what i expect from you.but i will never break my relation at all if i love my partner. but if there is no love involve in that relation then it is good idea to break from relationship.

This happens to a lot of couples. I do not think divorce or separation is that easy, if kids are involved. but such situations often give rise to extra marital affairs. If you get what you look for in another person, you may go for that and forget the faithfulness and all that. But that could lead to further complications. This reminded me of the film "hot chick", the girl turns into a guy and father feels that mother is having an affair with him/her. This jealousy makes father very "desirous" for the woman he ignored for so long. May be jealousy would be a good treatment.