Forgive and forget

dear Babybunch I totally agree with you we cannot forget but we can forgive specially if we love the person. It is important to have the capacity to react to such hurting situation because we must move on with our life. In my past experience I have been hurt several times but today I keep friendships and it is nice to still care in a different way for each others even if with different lifes.

Yes, I do believe that. No one ever forgets someone who has truly broken their heart, or who they have been in love with. Heartbreak is bound to happen to anyone who is in a relationship that is serious. On some notes it is easier to forgive someone, but if a break-up is nasty and brutal, like one person cheating on the other, or betraying that person in a major way, then I do not think forgiveness can come easily, if at all.

For me it is hard to forgive someone, especially when the person has been really cruel. I know there have been instances sometimes when it is Best to just avoid the person in the future as well. But if you can forgive and forget and move on, it will indeed make it easier to move on to your next relationship, marriage, etc. and most times make you a lot happier person as well.

Hi! To forgive and forget is not an easy thing to do. But our hearts must always be open to do it. We cannot move on totally if we carry that burden in our hearts.Its not easy but its possible. Ask God to help you and in time you will be able to do it. You want to be forgiven , then forgive others also.:))

I think if you already have someone else in your heart this doesn't happen from one moment to the other. It takes time for that and also I do believe you already said goodbye in your heart to someone else. But this doesn't mean you forget that person also. I don't think people forget easily.

hello babybunh327, yeah i believe this, i had a experienced to breaking up because the reason is third party, first it is so hurt but you need to move and forget, and in years i decide to forgive him because i know he is not worth it for me, and found a guy that he love me so much and i am so happy because i had him.

It takes time to heal a broken heart. Just like a wound that needs taking care of. It also depends on the person, how she/he take it. Some people choose to move on and some people don't and dwell with it. Yes, you can forgive but you can't forget the pain it cause you. It stay there in your heart and you will feel it once something or someone reminds you. It will be forgotten i believe once you have a new one that will be able to erase those pain and all you can remember is nothing and you will just smile.

That depends on how much we are hurt and what kind of mistake was ever done to us. Cheating is not easy to forgive and forget- esp from someone we trusted much. Speaking from my own experience. I've forgiven the one I love for _nth times he cheated on me. Until One day, I woke up and realized that love has gone and decided to move my life without him. I found out that, my life is worth living without someone who caused me pain and hurt.

It is normal to be hurt and the common experience is for one to nurse the hurt feeling for a long as we don't know. I understand and am compassionate of those who choose to remain suffering. But not to forgive is to continue suffering and not a wise thing to maintain. To forgive and not to 'forget' seem to diminish the completeness of forgiveness. In the Christian scripture it can be read God saying "I will remember your sins no more" (Isaiah 43:25)

from what i experienced before, i forgave the person who hurt me..and as years pass by, i've started to forget some things about it..i think when you start to forget, it's the time that you can say that you have really forgiven the person that hurt you..

It is very difficult to forgive and more than that forgetting the thing or person. I can never forget anything like that, although forgiving does takes place with the time, but it is difficult.

I know it's very hurting. I've lost someone too. Broke ups are so hard and very hurtful. I've been been hurt before, and had some broke ups, I was hurt, and said that i'll never forgive you. But you know what as time pass by, i think i've already forgotten what they did to me. I already forgive them with all my heart and also forget what they did. I don't care about them anymore though. I just want to have a peaceful mind and heart, because if you have some grudges left in your heart, you'll never be happy. So just forgive and forget.

well for me if i am in such a situation that someone broke up with me suddenly or if someone i love has some one already in his heart and then too having a relation with me then i don't think i can ever forget him and what he did to me i can ever forgive him..yes i will certainly move on.. that would be the right thing for me..

I agree with you. In order for us to move on from someone who hurt us is to forgive but never forget the happy moments that have happened between the both of you. The only thing you should forget is all the bad memories. Maybe we should learn from what had happened and try not to make it happened again. To forgive is to help us sleep well at night and prepare ourselves for the future.

Allhurts and betrayals stay with us forever infact they help change our lives because we lose something within us and we never get that back, we can forgive to a point but it is never the same for us again.