Men are ALWAYS right?
By MissPiggy
@MissPiggy (1748)
Indonesia
January 27, 2012 10:20am CST
A friend once told me that no matter how wrong a man is, they will never want to take the blame. I mean, ok, I respect men. That's how my parents teach me, that's how my faith teaches me, that's how my culture teaches me. I don't deny it, I don't regret it. But, this often happens. When my close friend and I have a quarrel for example. He's the one who's wrong, but then, he won't talk to me. He ignores me all the time. He doesn't answer my calls (he even turns his phone off!). He doesn't reply my texts. And it will go on like that for days until (maybe) he has felt cool down. I know I should let him alone for a while to cool down because I'm also the same type of person. But somehow I feel like I can't sleep if this matter hasn't solved yet. At least getting "I'm busy" text or something. But nope, he won't even do it. Today anyway, it happened again. We have made a plan and somehow it has to be canceled. I wrote something on my facebook and apparently it made him angry. I mean, hey come on, I should be the one who's mad! :(( And again he didn't reply my texts, kept ignoring my calls, and even turned his phone off!!! I wasn't the one who canceled the meeting, and he created a new idea which I agreed but then he replied me "I can give u 20 minutes". I felt like "Wth!!" And after I wrote something, he's mad!!! Dang! Why can't he take the blame sometimes? :( Now I feel like a fool.
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19 responses
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
27 Jan 12
well..it`s long story
why i think this story is like a piece of FTV in SCTV?? or this is general situation happens in our generation
what can i say??
iam man..but i think there are few statement that i really disagree..
i dont really agree 100 percent that only men always think they are right
sometimes i found the woman too
why i think you should be calm down, when he always do like that for you??
i did not know the source of your quarrel with him..but as your friend here, i try to guess whats happen with your relationship with him..
is his habit for turned off his phone after you and him quarrel?? had you ever talked to him, that you don`t like his bad habit, because it can`t solve your problem??can you talk to him, if he do like that, it make you are sleepless and he make you suffer because of it??
why you dont try to talk heart from heart with a cup a coffee or tea and remember why you like him and he likes you too?
why you and him did not try for remembering when both of you like each other??
sometimes times and problem can change the habit our beloved one..maybe..
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
i see..maybe iam wrong understand your first discussion
i think you are frustrated because he is your boyfriend...iam sorry
i think give him so many time for cooling down..maybe some of man like woman, need a time for being alone..
is him your campus mate??and your friend more than 5 years?? if yes, maybe you will know exactly what his character..
so your planning for have a dinner (cup tea or coffee event) was cancelled this week??
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
Lol. It's ok. But I've known him only for a year and he's not my college mate. :D I know I have to give him time, but oh no, I won't give him too long or he'll get even angrier and think that I don't care anymore. :D And yes again, my meeting must be cancelled, but we planned (before he's got angry) to meet next week. :)
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
Ok, first, I know women are not always right too. But men are created to be women's leaders. They have this so called "pride" that make them can't accept the mistakes when they know they are wrong. I mean I want to say that I know that my friend actually feels guilty, but he's got mad because I posted it on facebook. And I mentioned one word that he hates the most. So yes, I know that I too have a mistake this time, but I was hurt. I called him all the time because he didn't reply my text messages. Well, I mean on the day we had the quarrel, he always did it because I terrorized him. :) I should have given him time to cool down actually, but I never want to do it. I have to finish my problems as soon as possible. We live in different cities, so I can't just take him out to have this coffee or tea easily. We will discuss it and talk about it after he cools down. We're not boyfriend and girlfriend, lol. So there won't be this conversation about why he likes me and I like him. :) I just wish that he'll cool down as soon as possible. :(
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
We are close friends, I hope u know what I meant. :D And yes, he didn't want to take the blame. This time I'm glad I didn't use temper when I text him like I used to do, but I'm exhausted as I have to "beg" him to think about what he did. :(
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
Ok, I won't beg. But how can I make him understand? :( I mean, I've told him that I'm sad because of what he said, and that's how he replied me. At least he replied. I mean, it makes me think that he actually knows that he hurt me and that he's actually sorry. It's just the pride I think. :(
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
29 Apr 12
I must be a guy. When a person angers me I stay away too. I hate phones so they can never speak to me And I am not on Facebook. So.. they either write me an email or we don't speak.He may not be right in your eyes buy to him , he is right. So, if you can't agree to disagree, then leave him alone period.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
30 Apr 12
I'm more like him. Once angry I write people off but completely. so he would realize I wasn't talking to him and wonder why. But unlike you , I would have moved on! I hope you both can clear the air.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 12
I usually keep silence when people make me angry. But he is my close friend, I can't keep silence if he's angry. But you know what? I finally paid him back! Lol. I was angry with him recently and I'm always cold when he sent me messages. Finally he realizes that I've changed so he keeps on trying to make me smile. 
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
6 Feb 12
To err is the nature of some men, but not take blame for the mistake also is one of the great talent ever possesed by some men ever since the creation of first man 'Adam' in the Garden of Eden. Men are not always right except that some always believe they are right and can do no wrong, it just su*k for you to have a male friend who behave in this childish manner constantly leading you to think that all men are created 'equal' inside their pea size brains. Fortunately, your close friend is no where near to majority of men in today world, you can still forget about him and find yourself other friends that are also 'men' without having him give you all the wrong impression about real men that existed before you..... 
@lampar (7584)
• United States
6 Feb 12
The right sentence is supposed to be "some immature men will leave women who are smarter than them", it is just a natural display of sense of insecurity on the part of men who had child-like mentality, just like the unruly behavior of children who depend on the nurturing nature of mother for guidance and father figure for discipline. There is no doubt it is difficult to prove you wrong, but it is not impossible and beyond the reachs of all possibilities for a man to do that if he is willing to do so. 
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 12
Woops...that's great, but I still want to keep him as a friend. And he's not always think that he's right, actually. But he sometimes he doesn't want to admit it that he's wrong. Lol. And based on those comments from other women above, also some experiences from people around me, men always consider that they're right. I don't blame them to feel that way, but it's not a bad thing showing that you're "weak" sometimes. :) And about finding another, I think it's not that easy. Not all men think the way you think. And some men will leave women who are smarter than them (-this is personal experience too, lol). I really need a man who can prove me wrong. ;)
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 12
Awwww...smiling at your "right sentence". :) I wish all men would think that way. :) But yes, I agree with you, it needs the man himself to prove me wrong.
@anaghsomanclt (25)
• India
28 Jan 12
Life isnt easy, To come out of problems , u will need to face life. Men arent always right,neither are women. Nobody in the world is perfect..... Small quarrels are just a part of life. You said that this problem happens often and finally he cools down and talks to you again, Well that only means that he too cant avoid missing you for a long time and he again wants to be friends. Why dont u just let time wash away all the problems...
@anaghsomanclt (25)
• India
29 Jan 12
It wont be too long,there are no scars that time cant wash away...... Keep in touch with him and all problems will move away....
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
Omg, yes I hope u're right in "he too can't avoid missing you for a long time". ;( I know this is my mistake too. I was too emotional when I wrote the status. I know I didn't mention any names, but I mentioned one word that he hates so much. :( But because he always makes me feel like it. I know time will wash away the problems, but I hope this time it won't be too long. :(
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
29 Apr 12
i don't know about this men having to be always right thing. especially, if you are just friends. it seems like he is trying to train or control you. that doesn't seem like so much of a friend, especially when you are trying to reach out to him.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 12
Well, actually we are close friends. You know what I mean. He is actually like a reflection of my own character, so trying to slam him down is more like calming myself down. 
I am not trying defend him now because I have done the same to him recently. I was angry and now it's his turn to calm me down.
He is actually like a reflection of my own character, so trying to slam him down is more like calming myself down. I am not trying defend him now because I have done the same to him recently. I was angry and now it's his turn to calm me down. 
@much2say (55601)
• Los Angeles, California
28 Jan 12
Ahhhhhhhh. People (men) like that just don't know how else to be communicative. They think getting angry and ignoring says it all. BUT IT DOESN'T. My dad used to do that. He'd have one furious roar - then he'd be silent for a week - all while he stomps around the house, slamming doors, and grunting to himself. He's not one to talk things out - he shows his anger in physical ways - until he cools down and decides to come out of his shell. And perhaps that's his way to show us that "it" has been resolved. I always hated that. Now I wouldn't say all men are like that, but there are more men than women who do that (that I've known). Women seem to need an explanation of some sort . . . and that to me makes more sense - but then again, I'm a woman - ha ha.
And definitely NO ONE is ALWAYS right!
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
Yes, I know that no one is always right and in this case both he and I caused the quarrel. :( I think he's kinda different a little as we can still discuss about it after he cools down. And as I remember, he's never ignored me at all in a week!! Omg, I hope he will never do that!! :O And u're right that women need an explanation, and he still wants to explain why he's got angry and what not. But then we must make a promise not to talk about it again.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
29 Jan 12
Hi Miss Piggy: Don't talk about men as a whole. I'm sure many boys have their pride, but some other can be humble and accept their mistakes. Same happens with girls. I have known some girls that think they are almost perfect and they won't accept that they have committed a mistake. The thing is that guys are usually more competitive and for our society admitting a mistake is a sign of weakness which is completely false.
ALVARO
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
But I won't even take that as a weakness! Moreover when we're close friends! :( I think friends are people to whom we can act as what we really are! No pretending, no pride, no shame. I mean, yes, sometimes I feel I'm perfect. But in front of my close friends, I can't do that. And I can take their criticisms better than anyone else as they know me so they won't judge me. Am I correct? :O
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
funny that in my experience, it's women who always think they're right. If a man cheat, he admit and he was sorry, but if a woman cheat, she never said sorry, she come up with excuse to justify her action.
in your first problem, it was unclear to me what's the problem is, you just said that you have a quarrel, but what the quarrel is about and why do you think that he's wrong is unclear. The second problem is unclear too... what did you post on facebook? and why did he get angry by your posting was also unclear.
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
Yes, it's my personal experience a long time ago. i hope you guys can solve your quarrel peacefully.@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
Lol. The answer of the first and second problem is, it's too personal to be posted anywhere. But what u mentioned about women comes from a personal experience I think. Lol. Look, I didn't say that women are always right too. I'm a woman and I dare to say that there are many of us who are jerks too. We're not all angels. And when there's a woman who dares to cheat on her boyfriend or husband, either there's something wrong in her relationship, or she's just a bi***. (excuse my language) Heheheh... I know this time I made the mistake as well, but he made me. I mean, one moment he needs me, but then he acts like I'm the one who needs him the most. Something like that. :)
@flowerfest08 (1677)
•
28 Jan 12
hi:)
I think he's just a little immature because that's not how a mature man act, maybe it's better if you tell him that not all the time you will make an effort to make the first move to iron things out between you two and not all the time you can understand his ways, he needs to grow up.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
Oh boy, I can't say that he needs to grow up out loud. :( Yes, I know I can't always be the first one to make the move, but I don't know. I just don't want to lose him as a close friend. That's why I always make the first move. But I'm tired...
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
28 Jan 12
I think that there are some guys who have so much pride in themselves. Sometimes they can't just accept that they're wrong. They can't admit that sometimes. They even have some trouble saying sorry. I don't know why. I think it's already their nature. Well, about your friend, I'm sorry to hear that, You must be so affected. I think that he's just immature or something, or he wants you to make the first step or something. or maybe he need some space, so let it be. Don't text or call him. Try if he's going to call you first. 
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
Mmm...first, I don't think he'll call me first. Second, I'd have to agree that he wants me to make the first step. :( Lol. Third, yes, I agree to give him the space, but not too long. He and I have the same character, we're easily getting mad, but we're easily cooling down as well. But, we need someone to make the move. I caused him to get mad, although he made me did what I did, but I know that he wants me to apologize. :( Well, it's nature.
@tsn2458 (20)
• United States
28 Jan 12
Don`t feel like a fool. There is no reason for that. Men are not allways right. How could it be? They are like God or something? No, everybody makes mistakes. The point is how self confident you are so you could confess your mistake before somebody who is special for you. Psychologists say that men are very vulnerable when it comes to their feelings. That`s why I think they hate to apologize and prefer to act as if the women are the guilty party. I think you should talk to your friend and tell him that his behavior is hurting you. That`s your right. He is actually abusing you.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
I've told him that I'm hurt. But he always needs time to cool down...
@rubbershot (173)
• Kenya
28 Jan 12
Men are the most emotional creatures on earth, though they will never admit it. Men have egos to protect, so they never admit being wrong.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
I agree with u. A lot. But I think it won't be a problem if they show how they really feels, moreover when we are close.
@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
27 Jan 12
To me it sounds like he needs to grow up. No one is ever always right. If he does not like something you say he should just say so, and tell you why. Oh, and do not air your personal matters on Facebook, or other social media.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
Lol. First, I wrote something unclear. I mean, I started it with "Men are jerks." Heheheh... I didn't mention any names, so people won't judge one person. :) Second, he usually explains everything and we can finally discuss our problems together, AFTER he cools down in a few days. :( Yes, I agree with u that I think he needs to grow up but I won't say it out loud to him or I'll lose him. Heheheh...
@marieandtim (99)
• United States
27 Jan 12
i feel the same the guy im with if i say he is wrong the world ends if i give an opinion then im controlling men have serious flaws called acting like children
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
Lol. Yes, they sometimes act like children a lot. :( So even if I'm wrong, I should be the one who apologizes and works hard to keep the relationship going well. I didn't regret it, but sometimes I'm exhausted. :(
@rubbershot (173)
• Kenya
28 Jan 12
Men are the most emotional creatures on earth, though they will never admit it. Men have egos to protect, so they never admit being wrong.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
I agree. Is there any comments? :D I mean I need some suggestions.
@sandeep130 (1)
•
27 Jan 12
Lady........men suffer from a sense of superiority complexes. They , have a habit of considering women for granted. It's completely natural for all men........ So don't worry he cares for you but somehow he's unable to express it......
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
Wow, u really understand him only by reading what I wrote! And yes, I can feel that he cares for me too. But why can't he try to understand me as well? :( And damn this natural problem, although I know it so well. And I don't hate men for that, I just want him to admit it that he's also sorry...
