My Nerves Have Gotten The Best of Me...

oh my goodness! thats terrible! are you ok? i thought you moved for the better because your husband got a new job? i take it that didn't work out? i really hope you are ok. when times are hard it's easy to lean on people, and sometimes when we lean on people, we transfer our aggression and anxiety out on them, and vent our issues at them, rather than with them, thus leading to arguments between you and your husband. please always remember, everything happens for a reason!!

I just saw you commented on my response to another one of your discussion, so I hope that you're feeling a little better today. I hope that your husband's workers comp came through already. I've been feeling stressed too! The bills are never ending!

I'm sorry you feel so stressed out, I find the major stress most people have is due to finances..I do sometimes, but if I can't do anything about it, I just keep following G♥d and giving it over to Him..I pray you find some peace soon..

In my community a person can get what they call 'script' and can use it for appointments and either have a van pick them up or call a taxi. I would check with the H & W in your area to see if they have such a program. And some will give you a free bus pass also. So he can't file for unemployment until you find out about workman's comp? H & W in my area will give a family several hundred dollars in such an emergency situation. Sounds like this is the case. I would check with them.

I thought that you had heard from your lawyer that your husband would be receiving workman's comp. Or was this an earlier discussion that I did not get to? Take a deep breath and hang in there you will get through it.

first thing in this situation you all have to do is calm down and bit inorder to get thing in place you have to take a rest. then start counting the options availabe for you as you know that you do not have money so you can borrow them from someone, this is what you can do and one the dark clouds gone then you can back the borrowed money why paniking and fighting with each other

I'm fine. Girl Take him by the hand and sit down and just look at each other and Remember all that you have gone through. Hang in there. You have each other and the kids . Never let this set back, and that is what it is a set back, tear you apart. I know you love each other , You Just have to remember!

So sorry that you haven't heard about his comp yet...hopefully you will get results soon. I am fine right now.....nothing too stressful...

Difficulties do bring in stress related issues and that is what is getting you. You know how deep you are in and only you can get out of it. So, clam down and start being rational about it. I know it is hard but, have the confidence in you that you can pull it off. So there is no gas to go about doing important work, that is no reason to abandon work itself. There is public transport, which can provide the transport, maybe inconvenient, but not inconvenient enough to skip therapy or a job. Make do with this till you are financially comfortable enough to afford your own transport. You need to lose some to gain some. Just try this once, you will be surprised and will be thrilled with your success at things you had not done before. The emphasis now should be on saving money so that you have a little something behind you if you happen, God forbid, to find yourself in another sticky situation. So use the compensation wisely and be comfortable. We all are stressed, to different levels and due to different circumstances. It is on us to deal with it and come out unaffected. This is the hard truth about life.

The system is hard. Especially when neither spouse can work because of the evil word "money" It took me almost 3 years to get my SSD and then I got a measly 559.00 and have worked up to 652.00 a month with our just raise. Do you have an attorney? I hope so for the workers comp claim. If not look into one. They do not charge you and may be able to get you more then they take a percentage off what you get from the claim. Even though you have no gas, take your husband and babies out for a walk. Fresh air can sometimes do good. Get help from a local church, charity, food bank etc. I was in your place once only husband dumped me 7 months pregnant with a 17 month old toddler. I have probably been through one of everything and now I just don't care anymore. I realized I am a person just like anyone else and I do for me now. I had 5 children and Lord knows I had to pull inner strength when I did not even know I had it. US mothers tend to worry and stress more than any man on this earth! Make me a friend here and I will follow your discussions to help you get a bit more money. Just smile at something you like. Or do something you like to do. Everyone needs a me moment just to drain the stresses away and be themselves even when surrounded with all the world falling down around you. Bless you hon

I think you both need a time out. Don't drink no coffee either. That will make you more nervous. I feel your pain and stress. Maybe you could ask your parents for a little help to get through this rough patch. I feel for you and your husband. I assume you live in more of a country setting where buses and trains are not close by. I have been stressed now for the last 4 years. I am in therapy but I don't find myself getting any better. I also have depression and some physical problems. I cannot work and I have nothing either. I am lucky that I live in my parents house in my own apartment. They are currently helping me until I get word on my disability. It takes a very long time. I am trying to hang in there, but it is not easy. I am in bad shape so I understand your pain.

Hi lovingMyBabies, I feel so bad for you...I will pray for your and your hubby tonight.. I have had a few rough times in my life but fortunately, God has always been there to pick me up when I have fallen...I know the light is looking very dim now but you must believe that its going to get better and sooner rather than later...No one likes to be stress but we are sometimes pushed to the boundaries beyond recognition.. Just continue to hang in there..I hope life will change for you and hubby soon, very soon....

I am just seeing your post now, and I do relate all too well with your frustrations. Are you able to apply for Unemployment Assistance - Medical for your husband? How long have you been waiting to hear back? Is there a number you can call, or a worker assigned to your case? Failing that, if this isn't standard procedure, I would be calling an Ombudsman for your community to find out what they can do. Do you have an Advocate's Society? I know we do here, and have used mine, and let me tell you, they do get things moving.

Remember, some things that are good in life take time and patience. I know it is hard to hang in there right now and I also know how it feels to be frustrated. I am going through a rough time in my life right now and really wish you the best. Just try to be a supportive person in all of this. Take care.