deny and deny??
By chum24
@chum24 (569)
Philippines
January 31, 2012 7:30am CST
me and my boyfriend, have been years so far.. you know what is hurt? when many people (especially some of his friend) ask him is that your girlfriend? you know what he answered he said "NO" in front of me gosh!! and sometimes my friends will told me. however, i love him but i just want some of his friend knows it. he always denied me.why? i think there's nothing wrong if he will tell them nothing will change.
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17 responses
@kedves (728)
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31 Jan 12
really? he will not acknowledge you in front of his friends?
ok sorry to tell you this.. but stand up tun around and walk away .. he does NOT deserve you and does not deserve your love.
he has no respect for you or your feelings and if he is like this now, he will never change and he will end up breaking your heart even more.
walk away while you still can and find someone who will appreciate you respect you and will love you .
@kedves (728)
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1 Feb 12
i would never call anyone stupid. all i say is maybe you are the only one loving and caring .. it is one sided.. if he can not say to his friends you are his girlfriend in front of you he is making his statement quite clear.
i worry you will lose yourself because his attitude will make you feel lonely sad and you will lose any self confidence you have. it is a form of manipulation so please be careful. also for me his denying you to his friends is trying to show everyone he is single and can still date anyone he wants ..
do you want to live your life in the shadow of someone who can not respect you and will hurt you ?
i think you deserve better than that.
sorry for the long rant but i have seen control freaks like him before and i seen women destroyed inside their hearts by them.
@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
thank you so much for your comment..perhaps you are right but i love him eventhough sometimes he will deny me the love still there. do you think im stupid? i dont want i will regret but i want he will regret after what he did. may be im stupid i will handle these until my heart would be tired and stop loving him
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
31 Jan 12
I don't think you'd like this response but in my honest and sincerest opinion, you should end your relationship with your boyfriend, no matter how much you love him. It's apparent that he no longer has the same feelings as you do. If you really love somebody, you never deny your relationship in front of your friends, and especially in front of your girlfriend or boyfriend. That's an outright insult.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
31 Jan 12
I completely agree with him. Why would he deny you in front of his friends. He isn't worth it. You need a boyfriend who will want to tell everyone he is dating you and not deny you in front of his friends.
@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
to beamer88
if i will our relationship perhaps i will regret. ;[
yeah it hurts and insult me a lot but thats the only reason should i break up with him? maybe there are still some reason. ;]
besides i dont want to brek up with him but instead i will wait that he will break up with me because i know he will regrets. i will give him another change this time if he still do it to me ..im sorry to tell him .its time to say goodbye.
to soulish
may be you are right he is not worth for me.
to kedves
i already commented .;p
@Bibispark2 (195)
• Nigeria
31 Jan 12
you know the answer to the question yourself,when a man denies having a relationship with a lady, it means he doesn't love her, wake up!....this guy is probably gaining something from you that's why he is still there, either cash, or u are good in Bed, thats why he is still there,if u get pregnant, he is going to deny it and he will leave you standing alone with the kid,u just pretend to him u are pregnant and u will see he's off. A guy who truly loves a lady can tell the whole world he really loves the gurl, if you love him so much, give him some space for a little while,and make sure u look really good whenever he sees u, but make sure u give him space, if u want to make this work, let him be the one to come for you sweety,good luck in your relationship.
@Bibispark2 (195)
• Nigeria
14 Feb 12
cool...but you have to be careful and believe me...exactly what u said and your relationship stuff actually happened to me, i mean exactly everything that happened, and beleieve me, I handled things my way and things turned around and worked out!!, by march , my relationship with him will be 6 YEARS, and now he can tell the whole world am not just his GIRL FRIEND, but his FIANCEE...I took a lot of steps for this to work out...u wanna know what i did? will tell u if u want, but not here...
@princess296 (33)
• Philippines
4 Feb 12
If he really loves you he will tell everyone that you are his girlfriend,no matter what other people say.So if he denies you in front of his friends maybe he`s hiding something and you have to know what is it.Goodluck...
@smacksman (6053)
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1 Feb 12
It is really old fashioned to say this today but here goes -
MARRIAGE
there, I said it! 
It doesn't solve all things, I know, but what it does say is 'Here - look at my ring on my finger, boys. That man is my husband and we are a team'
Let him try and dodge that one.
I hate to say it, but seems that you love him - and he knows it and can get all the sweeties in the jar for free!
It doesn't solve all things, I know, but what it does say is 'Here - look at my ring on my finger, boys. That man is my husband and we are a team'
Let him try and dodge that one.
I hate to say it, but seems that you love him - and he knows it and can get all the sweeties in the jar for free! @sid556 (30960)
• United States
31 Jan 12
Hi Chum,
I'm sorry but I'm afraid that I have to go along with the others here that are telling you to break this one off. Without actually knowing your boyfriend, it would be impossible to say just why he denies to others that you are together but I really can't think of one reason that would indicate that he does love you. You may love him but it will never be anything but hurtful if he isn't returning that love. Think about this. If he is telling them that you are NOT his girlfriend then that is like announcing that he is single. He sounds like a player.
@Annrose21 (161)
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31 Jan 12
First of all, you must have to confront and ask your boyfriend why he always deny you to his friends. You don't deserve to be denied when he really loves you. And if he was not able to answer or just take you for granted, then ask yourself if he also deserves your love. I myself did not experienced being denied but I think that really hurts. So if you still have a respect for yourself and the deed of you boyfriend continues, then think again, freedom or another year of heartaches?
@littleyuyu (41)
• China
1 Feb 12
I used to meet a guy who had girlfriend but made effects to date others. For quite a long time, he tried his best to chase one of my best girl friends. We were almost touched by his action when his girlfriend came to us and told us all the bad things he had done. Oh, my god. At that time, we was really shocked. How could he do this and how could he treated his girlfriend like this? Then we went to ask him all about it. To my surprise, he just denied and went away. I can't understand, no excuse, just deny, why???
@eunife (165)
• Philippines
31 Jan 12
maybe he is thinking that you don't want his friends to know. maybe he does not want his friends to know. maybe ... maybe ...the question "why" has endless answers even in a very simple setting. the best thing to do is ask him why he denies you in front of his friends and tell him that you want to be acknowledged instead. there is nothing better than being open to each other.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
31 Jan 12
I would really be hurt if my boyfriend would do that to me. I would think that he is ashamed of me and he don't really love me. You see, when you love a person, you want other people to know that you love him/her no matter what he or she is. I think you have to ask him why he deny you. I advice you to think it over, maybe he does not really love you. I hate to say this but it is time to think it over. Find out the reason why he is doing that to you.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
31 Jan 12
in thing that really love may be done with their lover, and in front and behind should say i love that.
