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Egypt
February 7, 2012 2:51pm CST
So as I said in my previous blog my husband likes to go out with my friends from around like sometimes 10 pm to 3 or 4 in the mornin or that's what's happening tonight. It bothers me so bad and I don't know what to do about it because I don't have friends here where I live cause I don't speak the language and he wants me to sit with his familyand just stare at them. The sad thing is, is that I am leavin to go join the military and to be able to help pay for him to go to school and finish his masters in law because his family won't make enough in his country to pay for him. I want to sacrifice but I just thought because I am leaving he would be more considerate and want to be with me in like everyday possible. I just feel like his friends are everything to him. In his culture women stay at home and have babies and listen to their husbands not saying my opinion is not taken into consideration it's just not in the consideration that he is a husband and he has a responsibility to be at home with his wife. He is a really loving person but his priorities are just not in line and I have talked to him about his friends I just dont know what to do. I feel like the best thing is to just leave join the military and let him live his 20s so I won't be such a disturbance and he has also sai he wants to live his life as a college student. Do you really think we would make it?
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deedee328
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
12 Feb 12
I will be praying for you. The success of your relationship doesn't sound very promising to me. If he is wanting to live like a single man, and like a footloose and fancy free college student, then, I say, there is a problem there. I don't think he has the right live his life as a college student since you are already married. He should be taking your welfare and feelings into consideration when he makes decisions that affect you. It doesn't sound like he is taking your opinion into much consideration if he is out with his friends till the wee hours of the morning while he has his family "baby sitting" you. Why do you not go with him? As his wife, you should not be made to feel like you are a disturbance in his life. You should be made by him to feel that you are a major part of his life. How long have you been married? I think there is hope for all marriages if both partners want it to work and put their marriage into God's hands.