Do you have the patience to live with drama and argument lovers?
By divineathena
@divineathena (1746)
United States
February 7, 2012 5:57pm CST
Some people love drama and arguments. They have a need for those things. Do you have patience for such people especially if they are living with you?
I don't have much tolerance for them. They make me feel sick
. When they don't stop making dramas and arguments I usually either cut them from my life or just go in silence mode. I must admit that my sister is a big drama maker for which she has no friends and relatives hate her. Since I live with her under one roof I often become her victim. So I just go days and even months without talking to her.
What actions do you take against drama makers?
. When they don't stop making dramas and arguments I usually either cut them from my life or just go in silence mode. I must admit that my sister is a big drama maker for which she has no friends and relatives hate her. Since I live with her under one roof I often become her victim. So I just go days and even months without talking to her.
What actions do you take against drama makers?1 person likes this
6 responses
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
8 Feb 12
I have to admit that I love a good debate. That is why mylot has become an addiction for me. There is however, a difference in an argument and debate. I have no tolerance for people who want to constantly argue and stir up drama. I certainly could not live with a drama queen (or king) in my house. It would drive me crazy. I would let them speak their peace, give my opinion and move on if they continue to argue and cause drama.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
8 Feb 12
You are right, debate is different than argument. But it can turn into an argument if curse words start to get added to lines
. Do you have any drama maker in your house? Or have you lived with one before?
. Do you have any drama maker in your house? Or have you lived with one before?@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
8 Feb 12
I refuse to continue to participate in debates that turn into arguments and shouting (cursing)matches. There are no drama seeking people in my home. Yes, I have lived with a drama queen before, very briefly, as I have no patience for people who want to stir up trouble or want to indulge in their own little pity parties.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
9 Feb 12
A debate with argumentative person is a very difficult job. Debate is good when two parties respect with each other and have the interest to learn from different viewpoints. But those who argue think that debate is rather a part of competition in which they are to win anyhow. It is a clash of egos 
. I noticed it. At the end of the day, the whole debate with them goes nowhere.
You are very lucky that you don't have drama queens and kings in your house. Your life must be very peaceful.
. I noticed it. At the end of the day, the whole debate with them goes nowhere.
You are very lucky that you don't have drama queens and kings in your house. Your life must be very peaceful.
@picjim (3002)
• India
8 Feb 12
People who act dramatic are all around us.Some are argumentative too.We find them at work and among our siblings and friends.I either ignore or walk out of such a situation whenever I am faced with awkwardness or unpleasantness of this kind.At times i might argue with the argumentative type but i feel we are hurting ourselves.
@picjim (3002)
• India
8 Feb 12
You have put it aptly when you have said their true colors are revealed in front of friends and relatives.The reason i ignore or walk out of such situations is because these people aren't amenable to reason.When a person doesn't listen to logical reasoning it is futile to argue with him as in the end we lose our cool and balance.I discuss or debate with people who can understand our view and reason with us but not with someone who doesn't listen to logic.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
8 Feb 12
Oh my god, at work, they can make other employees' lives miserable. But usually, people try to keep it minimum outside. Their real faces come out at home and in front of friends. Don't you feel it is sometimes totally useless to argue with such people? They simply don't want to hear anything logical.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
8 Feb 12
It doesn't matter to me if it's family or friends, or just acquaintances, I can't stand drama and/or argumentative people. I will either cut them short on their conversation, or I will leave. I don't allow it in my home either. Life is too short to only be happy if you have drama going on in your life. But, there are those that are not happy unless they are unhappy!
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
8 Feb 12
Yes, life is too short and we should look to happy side instead of making drama. Why is it that they don't get it? There is nothing in violence and arguments. Such things only create enemies and loneliness. People usually don't want to trust drama makers. My sis was fired from her job because of her this bad habit.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 12
There is enough drama that is going on in my life, and it isn't drama that has been created, it is instead drama that has happened because of things that are going on in my life because of my husband's medical state.
With that said, when it comes to other people that are trying to bring drama into my life, I really can't put up with it too well. So, I will instead try to keep my distance from people that seem to always have drama following them.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
9 Feb 12
I hope your husband is fine. Have faith, everything will turn out to be good in the end. Such things are not in our control. They just happen. This is the thing that drama makers don't get. Life is too short to be wasted on "creating" problems. We should cherish what we have now.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
8 Feb 12
Nah, she usually doesn't hide anything from us. Apparently, she did tell me at least that she loves creating problems between people. It makes her feel good. Of course, that is a different evil trait. But what I am trying to say is that many people are very intuitive. They can tell what a person is just by looking at them or by analyzing their talking style. My sister is loud and yes, you are right, she loves attention. But you really don't want each moment to look dramatic. That is what she does. And at one point, it gets really annoying. Do you tolerate such people?
@Blkqueen (85)
• United States
8 Feb 12
That is true, I know someone who loves drama. She always has to get into someone business and start stuff. It's like she doesn't have a life other people business is her life. I don't like drama, I try to stay away from the person. I would cut all communications toward that person. I believe if you hangout with someone who loves drama they would suck you into that drama also. I wouldn't want to be no where near that stuff. I'm not friends with that person who loves drama but if I was, I would tell her in her face to stay out of people lives and live your own.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
8 Feb 12
You made a good point. I do notice that drama makers tend to get into other people's business. They suck their surrounding people into drama is also true. One of my friends did that with me and at one point, I had to take the hard decision of getting rid of her.
Did you ever get into trouble with any drama maker for pointing out to them this bad trait of theirs? I see that they usually do not want to hear that they are wrong. The consequence of that is usually them lashing out against us.
