Do you think saying "I Love You" is cliche?
By MissPiggy
@MissPiggy (1748)
Indonesia
February 9, 2012 3:21pm CST
Since this month is - what people say - a month of love, so there's "love" everywhere. What is "love" anyway? Is it enough when a boy or husband says "I love you" to his girlfriend or wife? I don't think it is. To me, "Love" is an action, not a word. I mean I can say "I love you" to everybody in the world but it doesn't mean I would do everything for them right? I'm not against love itself, I'm just being realistic. My mom once told me that my dad, since the beginning of their dating until today when they've got married for 35 years, has never even once saying "I love you" to her. Not even to his children. But what I see, my dad shows what "love" means. He does everything for my mom, he does everything for his children. For example: my mom asks him for a favor to go to a store to buy something while he's sleeping (!). He doesn't complain, he gets up, and goes to the store. Just as he arrives home, my mom tells him that she forgets something and asks him to go again. He does it. Well, yeah, he usually will say "it's always been your habit: forgetful," but he goes anyway. My father is a short-tempered man. But one thing that I always love from him is that he's honest. And also helpful. He never lies to my mom, he never lies to his family, never lies to his children. Ok, he's not a perfect man, but he's a perfect father for me. Isn't that enough to show what the real love is? Even now I don't like it when there's a man who says "I love you" to me. I don't think it comes from his heart. Trust me, when he says that, it means there's something wrong. :)
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
9 Feb 12
I think people say it too much and overuse it in general. You hear people saying LOVE in every other sentence - "OMG, I LOVE these new Gap jeans..." "OMG I LOVE [insert celebrity here]" etc. I think it's important to hear when you're in a serious relationship but like you had an example for - it's better to SHOW it than say it in my opinion. Words are just words; they don't necessarily MEAN anything.
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@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
10 Feb 12
So agree with you. People today don't "show" their love, they just "say" it. It's really hard to find someone who really understands the real meaning of "love". :(
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
29 Apr 12
Wow! And I thought I was bad by saying whenever a guy sends flowers he is hiding something. It is a false apology. I don't remember hearing my dad say the words but I Knew I was loved. He doted on me . I lost him when I was 12. But my mom would say it often. I said it rarely to her but she Knew I loved her. I lost her in 2005. Now that is my back history. I always thought as long as a guy Shows me he loves me I will be fine... until I met my guy. He shows me he loves And says those three little words. and I must say that to hear him say it And know he means it makes All the difference.It fills me with joy. and I say it at least once each day we are blessed to be together. So for it is Far from being a cliche.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
1 May 12
It will happen. Just keep doing things you Love to do and just be you and he'll find you. Hint: he may not look Exactly how you dreamed but the right on will have the connection you want. and then when he says those three little words it will not be a cliche.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
1 May 12
Well, I guess it's because I haven't met the right guy who can say it to me from the bottom of his heart yet, that's why I still think it's cliche. 
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@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
1 May 12
You sounded like my sister-in-law about this "he may not look exactly how you dreamed". 
But thank you, and I say Amen to that. I have faith in it, so I guess I'll just have to wait. 
But thank you, and I say Amen to that. I have faith in it, so I guess I'll just have to wait. 1 person likes this
@GemmaR (8517)
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10 Feb 12
I don't think that there is anything wrong with saying "I Love You" in the slightest. If anything, people should be encouraged to do this more than they do at the moment because it is amazing to be able to know that there is somebody out there who loves you and would be able to be there for you if you should ever need for them to be there. I know that I regret not telling certain people that I love them, and it is something that you tend to regret but only when it's too late. Don't forget to tell people what you think of them, and we are only on the Earth for a short time, so it's important that we all know who loves us.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 12
Hi there, GemmaR. I think if someone really means it, the word "love" will mean something. Just like what you said that sometimes we have to tell certain people that we love them. Ok, you're also right. But I think if we show them that we really love them, sometimes words are not needed.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Apr 12
everyone had different experience
i really understand your opinion here was based on your situation in your parents marriage
it`s normally
same with me, i never see my father always say i love you, to my mother..
maybe its their privilege i think..
but they always show to us, that they love each other, not only say in the mouth but applied in their daily life
now many new couple only say i love you honey in their wall of facebook, but in their daily life, they are break each other..so what is the urgent say love honey in front of another people, but in the fact both of them never speak since one week ago?? its irony..
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
9 Apr 12
Well, I think it's not an irony, it's just people don't know the sacred thing about "love". They easily say the word without knowing the deep meaning from it. They just say so they don't have to show it. That's the ironic.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
12 Feb 12
Hi Miss Piggy: I agree with you on the fact that words are not enough but expressing your love both with actions and telling exactly what you feel is very important for a relationship. So the words are not important but how you really feel and what you are demonstrating with your actions.
ALVARO
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 12
Yes, and you said it's how we really feel that is important. So if you just say the love without feeling in love then it means nothing, right? Because that's what often happens right now. :(
• India
10 Feb 12
Ya i think that I love u is cliche.This word is really gives an overused expression................
@MandaLee (3764)
• United States
9 Feb 12
Miss Piggy,
I agree with you. Love is not a cliche. I think love is an action word. Love has more to do with a person's behavior. Is someone honest, kind and respectful? Do the needs of others come first? In my opinion, these are the things that characterize what love truly is.
Have a wonderful day!
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 12
Thank you for agreeing. I'm just concerned how people so easily say love while they don't do anything about it. :( People have forgotten the real meaning of "love" these days.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
10 Feb 12
In some ways, it is very much cliche for sure. Obviously when you deal with teenagers especially you get some lovestruck teenager thinking that they are set for life, thinking they are love, proclaiming they are in love. Of course, in one case one party is blinded by love, in the other case, the words "I love you" is just a ploy to get into the other party's pants. I'll leave it up to an exercise to anyone reading this which is which. Although it might not be always be the gender that you think.
I think the concept of love and relationships in general has been something that has been kind of thrown off of the rails. It never really is what it used to be. There are a lot of times where certain words are quite frankly thrown around a bit loosely. Sometimes the best sentiments are left unsaid and if someone needs to be reassured with words, the relationship might be in trouble.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 12
You're right. What concern me is how young girls are so happy when their boyfriend say that they love them. Look when they have a fight, and then the boyfriend would say "I won't cheat on you, I love you. And if you love me too then you'll trust me." And then the girlfriend will bite it. That's so silly. I don't even know what's the real meaning of love anymore since people are so easy saying it. I mean, I'm not being sarcastic, I'm just trying to be logical.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
9 Apr 12
No, I dont think say out "i love you" is cliche. My mom and my dad never say it to me but i know that they love me so much, they just dont say it out because of my country life style. But if you dont say this sentence to me, so how i know that you love me? it is same as in relationship, even my bf and i are being in relationship for 1 year, but sometime, if i don't say this sentence to him, he will ask me and my answer is it and whenever my bf told me that sentence, I am always happy to hear it especially in the early morning when i just wake up, sure my day will be nicer because of that sentence. Just say it whenever your heart tells you and i am sure a listener is very happy to hear it.
@bambang1987 (23)
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10 Feb 12
good article , your article make me know much about true love.
true love not just say " i love you" to someone but we must be showed by action to show that we love to someone .
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 12
Thank you for your compliment. And yes, showing is so much better than just saying. :)
@abby1221 (71)
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11 Apr 12
I definitely understand where you're coming from and agree with you that "love" is something that should be shown or demonstrated in that person's own way, and not just said off the cuff. But I still love hearing it from my boyfriend and maybe that's just because I grew up with two parents who constantly said it to each other and to us kids - daily! My boyfriend, however, grew up with parents who stopped saying that to him when he was a kid..so he was not used to it at all.. in fact, the first time I said it to him, he responded with "likewise"...LOL that did NOT go over well with me at all. But he has gotten used to it..I still look to his actions though because I don't just want him saying it to please me if he doesn't really mean it.
