Valentine's Day: Is it important to your relationship?
By AidaLily
@AidaLily (1450)
United States
February 10, 2012 1:12pm CST
Hey everyone,
This is just a discussion I was having with a few friends and I decided to ask everyone here what they thought about it. Is celebrating Valentine's Day important to your relationship?
My one friend who is single says its important for her to have a date on Valentine's Day because that means she isn't some single, lonely person who has to sit at home and be bored that day.
My other friend who is recently married says that she would consider a divorce if her husband doesn't get her anything for the day. She also thinks that I should divorce my husband if he doesn't celebrate it or want to celebrate it.
Another friend (who is single) and my husband say its just a wasteful commercial time of the year and it makes the people without valentines feel like crap while other people spend lots of money on things just for this day when you should show your partner you love them year round
While I am sure the holiday is nice and all, its not a necessity. I am not all for flowers and chocolate anyway. I don't like the taste of chocolate really and getting flowers is pointless unless they aren't real since they die within a week maybe two if you are lucky. I don't like crowds of people so going to restaurants and such is also pointless to me. I agree with my hubby and friend that you should show love year round or make that special over the top day your anniversary or something like that.
Of course my other two friends completely disagree with this and said I am missing out.
What do you guys think?
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6 responses
@jellygator (76)
• United States
11 Feb 12
It's definitely not important to mine. But I can understand where someone who thinks it *is* important would be hurt by her partner ignoring it.
@crimsonladybug (3112)
• United States
10 Feb 12
Honestly, to me, it is kind of important but not in the way most people consider it to be important. I kind of look for a partner who agrees with your husband and single friend... that it is a commercially driven excuse to sell candy and cards, that without it there would be too much time lapsed between Christmas and Memorial Day (or whatever holiday is next in countries besides the US).
I hate that people (especially women) believe there needs to be a specific day to be romantic. That there needs to be a specific day for partners to share how much they care about one another. It should be an everyday thing. Personally, I'd rather get flowers and a romantic dinner on April 16 than February 14. At least then I would know some effort went into the gesture. He may still have stopped off at the grocery store on the way home from work to buy a bouquet of flowers and $4 candy bar (because he knows I don't like the 79 cent ones) but it was his own idea, not Hallmark's.
Also, I hate that we celebrate (commemorate?) a man's execution by saturating the world with paper hearts and empty calories.
@pebblez8989 (321)
• United States
10 Feb 12
well as for me i would always love valentines day .i love when i get a teddy bear and chocolate and flower from my husband. i also buy him a gift for valentine also. i love valentines but i won't get angry or make a big deal if my husband doesn't get me anything or if we don't do anything that day. because he always show me how much he loves me all the time.
@mhimi_viduya (140)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
For me, this day is very important for couples specially for the girls..
Like me, I have waited for a year for this special occasion and Im expecting something from my lover.
@OliviaS (23)
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11 Feb 12
I don't think it is necessary to take Valentine's Day as a very important day. After all, chocolates and flowers are not the most important things in a relationship. For me, I would like to spend time with my husband at home. Watching DVDs and having a great dinner at home may be the best choice for me. I won't be happy to go out on that day with lots of other couples. I regard we being together as the most important thing in our relationship. If you are in a great relationship, every day can be Valentine's Day.
