Why We afraid to loose someone .?
By helpinghands
@helpinghands (55)
India
February 10, 2012 2:36pm CST
I am getting this horrible feeling of loosing someone , and I don' t know why it is happening to me , can I call it love or it is just because I care for that someone. ?
14 responses
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
We are afraid to loose someone because we have accepted in ourselves the realization that the said person " is important".
and the feeling is that you are truly loving a person or which whom you are referring with. Care is always coordinated with love in all forms.. They cannot be separated distinctively. That is the reason why the common romantic lines you can observe that in movies are " I care for you because I love you" and some show cares first then you will observe they will reveal in the end that they love the person..
If there is any person who will say to you that " I am afraid to loose you because " I care for you but I do not love you? would you believe that statement? This statement is a denial to humbly submit to directly tell and express that you really love the person and actions speaks that is why you are afraid to loose him/her" 
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
Precisely yes, what you felt is real love because despite of the horrible pasts about the street of love? you still have that realization in yourself that " you love this person this much and far you cannot imagine yourself leaving without her".Am I right for that? That is the fear that you cannot admit yourself loosing her.. and which the bearing of love you have for her is "important". There are people who have experienced a horrible past in the street of love but manage to overcome and let go of that person and just move on.. But, in your case, you have realized you cannot move on without her even you tried it.. It only answers some of your doubts to the point you realized you really cannot go on life without her presence and companionship and you feel your life is incomplete or something is missing, that is why you are afraid to loose her, not because there is a beneficial thing but the FEELING OF having yourself to love a person the way you like it in your own way.. The question goes far to the extent of "what about her? does she feel the same way like you are? can she live without you or even afraid to loose you? if the feeling is mutual then I guess that is the reason that you are truly in-love with a person that gives you going in this life
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Thanks for the BR.. A blessed day and life ahead of you.
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Thanks for the BR.. A blessed day and life ahead of you.@helpinghands (55)
• India
11 Feb 12
Really you all think it's Love??
but we both have a horrible past in the streets of Love ,and she always was precious to me it's just now I am realizing when there is a thought of loosing her....
@horohoro01 (290)
• Philippines
10 Feb 12
What you feel is normal. We are all afraid to lose someone who is very special to us like family member, friends, and even sometimes our pet animals. Also, once we get too attach to a person or to a group of people, we sometimes think that life would be hard without them. Just stay positive and don't think of losing that person. Use each day as an opportunity to show how special that person is to you - whether it's just a friend or more than that :))
@helpinghands (55)
• India
11 Feb 12
She is so precious to me and I care for her and now when I am feel like loosing her, it's killing me out..
I have no Idea what to do ??
@GemmaR (8517)
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11 Feb 12
Whenever we love someone or feel close to them, we feel as though we are attached to them, and we get used to them being around all the time. When we think we're going to lose them, it is hard because we have got so used to having them in our lives, and the concept about them not being around any more is a little bit hard to deal with. When we lose someone, we normally find that we get over it in time and, although this is a little bit of a cliche, time really is the best healer and most of us manage to realise that at some point.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
12 Feb 12
I think that we rather tend to feel that it reflects rather badly on ourselves in a way. Where we personally have no idea what we did wrong, if we did anything wrong, and really what happened. We feel like things are going to slip away and really out of our control to say the very least. Where we tend to feel like something slips right from our hands.
The feeling of loss is sometimes is really just going to really be something that is going to weigh on us. Especially when we feel like it is really just going to come up, really just sneaking right on us, in an attempt to rather deal with us and it is quite problematic in a great number of ways. However, there are times where it just doesn't work and we must take some times to figure ourselves out.
@arianne_mae_2012 (243)
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10 Feb 12
why youre afraid,maybe you like her and turn to be you love her and u care for her now. Only your heart can answer. Be true to yourself and you will find out the real answer my friend
@helpinghands (55)
• India
11 Feb 12
I don't understand why I am afraid of loosing but it hurts....Looks like someone just stabbing me....
@jellygator (76)
• United States
11 Feb 12
When you're afraid of loving someone you care about, it can be because you're afraid that it says something about you. Maybe you think you're unlovable, or that others will see you as a failure. This happens when we love someone sometimes, but it doesn't have to. Plus, it can happen with other relationships, too, even people we don't feel love for, like our boss at work.
Ironically, by NOT being afraid, and by KNOWING that you are being the very best person you can be, you'll be less likely to lose those relationships that mean a lot to you.
Fill your life with activities and people you enjoy, be a positive, happy person, and practice showing appreciation. If you constantly do these things and still lose in love, then you're better off without a person who can't value you.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
10 Feb 12
It's because you love and care for the person that you are afraid of losing them. Losing their friendship, them dying, etc. Totally natural. I think about that sometimes - dream about it - like one of my good friends OR family members spontaneously dying and how different and sad life would be without them. I try not to think about it though. Everyone leaves at one point or another, not to be pessimistic, but you just have to learn how to make the 'best' of the 'present' rather than dread the future.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
10 Feb 12
you should weigh what you feel. only you can say if you love her or you just care for her. sometimes when we are always in the company of a person or a friend and we almost depends on them, losing them is such a tragic moment for us. because first, we lose a friend, a companion. you will feel afraid that you will not see her and that makes you feel sad. but it does not necessary means that you love her. think and feel it first.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
We are tend to don't want to be alone that's why we are afraid in losing someone.Whether you love or you just care to a person,if they are really close to us,it is really hard to accept that we lose someone.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Feb 12
I would say yes you do love that person. If you don't want to see them hurt or in pain and don't want them gone I believe that is more then just care. There is different forms and degrees of love but love is love.
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
Loosing someone we love will be a very sad moment for us. I think it's a normal feeling. Are you inlove? why would you ask yourself if it's love? yes i think so. If you'll feel sad when you lose someone, probably you love that person.
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
hi! helpinghands,
tell her what you feel maybe she feels the same way too.
@johnkipler35 (1)
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10 Feb 12
it is truly love man, caring is something else...love is thing which we want to bring closer and closer and due to posesivness we always fear of loosing him, because we cant imagine life without him or her..it is always a good feeling.
