Would you defend them?

i'd like to defend my friend yes. but i hope that people will understand that we have different opinions and hoping that those who disagree on a certain discussion would not be rude even though we don't each other face to face.we may still hurt the feelings of others.

In essence, yes, I would defend a friend from a rude member. But I oftentimes don't. I feel that those rude members are just attention seekers, and I wouldn't give them the pleasure of a comment to their response. That's usually what I tell my friends here when they encounter rude members. Just ignore their response.

Hi Loving, I DO defend m friends if I see someone has been clearly wronged. I would also defend a virtual stranger if I saw that he/she were wronged. I'll even stand up to a friend for a stranger if I think my friend is wrong. The thing about the discussions that complain about someone being rude to them is that we are missing actually seeing just what took place. We are only hearing one side when there are usually two very different perspectives. And the problem between the two of them gets worse when everyone jumps in to console the person starting the discussion because in the process of consoling that person, they are also putting the other party down while not even knowing who that other party is. So now that anonymous other party who does know who they are is sitting there reading insults from a lot of people he/she once thought weree friends which makes the problem between the two of them worse. I wish these personal issues would be dealt with in PMs or by reporting to admin.

I have noticed that here on mylot that a lot of people are going to argue about other people's opinions. It is human nature for us all to want to be right, but some people seem to miss the point that these discussions are based upon "Opinions". Everyone is entitled to have his/her own opinion and to express those opinions without being ridiculed, disrespected, and belittled for them. I will always defend the rights of others to have their own opinions, even if I should disagree with them. We are individual people, with individual beliefs and ways of thinking. I have ran into a couple of people on here that I will discuss things with up to a point that they start acting all "holier than thou" and try to make me mad. I do not set out to shove my opinions and beliefs on anyone else, and refuse to allow anyone to do that to me. I defend people on here that I do not even know if I believe that someone else is being too rude or degrading to them. As I said, these discussions are suppose to be based on opinions, not hard, cold facts for the most part.

I would stick up for one of my MyLot friends. But it depends on the discussion. Like if I was one that replied to it and saw someone knocking them, I would say something. But I would not be nasty. But at the same time, everyone is entitled to their opinion. I have no problem if someone said something nasty to me. If they do, they are messing with the wrong person.

This sort of discussion is somehow misguided in the sense that, we are not here to defend each other but to reply to discussion with quality responses whether you agree with it or not. We are not fighting against each other here in Mylot and the question of defending each other is not applicable. I think some people just come here because they want sympathy from other members and once one member disagree or give a different opinion, they tend to think that person is rude and disrespectful. I have gotten a lot of those negative reply but I never take it as a form of rudeness or disrespecting. What we need to do is to learn to be more tolerance and stop complaining when people give their opinion on different issues and as you know, the administration is here to do their work incase they notice someone is getting out of control. By the way, do you think we will have a productive discussions if we all support each other opinion without differing?

Unlike life mylot has rules for a reason and they are different, friend or no friend I will not interfere because in the end it is not my place to keep order here it is the moderator's job to see it resolved. If you get involved then you will only be making it worse for yourself and possibly for the person who started the fight.

To tell the truth I don't read other's post enough to know who is being bullied. All I can do is say my peace and hope I'm heard and move on.

I run into this issue a lot and I just ignore the person and pay them no mind. They usually wan to be your friend after that. I just had that happen today with my roomates daughter who is really rude you have to forget and get over things sometimes and sometimes keep forgiving.

I tell it like it is. If I think something is wrong or stupid I tell the person that. That is what you can depend on from me. If I seem rude I am alittle sorry but would rather be honest and upfront than to say what I thought you wanted me to say. Life is just too short. Don't ask for my opinion if you don't want it.

I think I know what caused this discussion. I remember responding to another post of yours, and there was this rude comment. I was about to put something in (as I wanted to defend you), but I was interrupted by my annoying real job. I'm sorry I was not able to get back to it. And yes, I would like to think that I defend people I know.

Well, to be honest, I don't like being in a situation where we must have an argument in public or at least in front of some people. However, if my friend has some kinda of problem in which he/she is correct then of course I'll defend them. If someone talks to me about my friend behind his/her back, then I usually try to find a diplomatic answer to defend them without starting any argument with the one who speaks. Then, I talk to my friend to check whether or not that opinion is correct. If my friend is wrong, then I'll him/her that he/she's wrong. :)

Hello Loving... I am guilty of it. I find myself defending what I believe and it turns into an angry response. I think that we all have those heated discussions and I should not make any excuses. I agree with you. Even though I have a few friends, I will defend them if someone hase been rude. Have a great day. :)

I would tell them that if their not in their right mind to say something to uplift well the best thing to do is to not post that day and wait another day that you don't claws instead of fingernails,we are not here to look for a fight that is for sure. lets just have nice and bright discussions.

I have always tried to be kind on here, and speak for people who are being picked on, whether they are my friends or not. I try to do it in a non confrontational way, though, because you can get into flame wars and get in trouble yourself. I dislike any kind of stereotyping. It has changed over the years, but there have been discussions that have said "anyone from such and such a country is a cheat" or " all of a certain group of people are dumb" and I have spoken up. Sometimes getting myself chewed out in the process.

I will defend my friend if they are rude in the course of an a reply.Sometimes some discussions invite trouble and some of us out of exasperation might be rude.But i will not defend anyone who is rude without a good reason.If my friends have been at the receiving end of rude behavior,i will defend them.But the problem is we do not see all the responses and discussions of our friends so some may escape our attention.

Hello LovingMyBabies, Yes there are few Mylotters who become irritated when they see someone getting against their opinion which is wrong as one should be matured enough.In discussions one should expect both type of opinions and we must not feel anything bad for it. I would always defend if i see someone being rude to my friend or to an innocent Mylotter.

I wish we didn't have to take sides. Certainly we will make friends and want to treat everyone with respect. Sure, I want to feel like I am part of the social side to mylot but at the same time don't want to bud in either. Rudeness hurts everyone and sadly even if I am not involved hurts me too when I feel a connection to people that come here so yes I guess I might feel I should say something, yes.

As i have experience in my little days in mylot, there are friends who defend and give some nice advice to stay longer in mylot. But i respond in one of the discussion, i disagree in what he post, he got angry and report me as abuse. They want a positive action in what they post, but sometimes on the experience we posted a negative reaction to correct his belief.

That's what friends are for. We look out for each other. I'm not gonna just let you talk down on someone that I consider a buddy. When people are rude to my friends, I intervene. The person being rude doesn't know the person as I do so they shouldn't say such things.