friends after love???

@salma07 (639)
India
February 14, 2012 6:34am CST
hi i find the idea of being friends after breaking up with your ex is weird, what you think?
7 responses
• United States
15 Feb 12
Well, I had to stay friendly with my first husband because we had children together, but I've always preferred to be friends after breaking up whenever possible. I think if two people liked each other enough to call it "love" then they should be able to be friends! I'm still on good terms with several exes. I don't hang out with them or anything, but if I needed something or they needed something, we'd help each other out and we sometimes have conversations. I still get together sometimes with a man I dated for five months, and he and my husband are very respectful of each other. If they weren't, I'd have to stop being friends because my relationship comes first always, but as adults, I think we can be logical about these things. I don't visit him without first inviting my husband, and I always tell my husband about any conversations with the other people or have those conversations in his presence.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
15 Feb 12
Well it most certainly can be awkward to say the very least. Oddly enough however it has happened many times. There are people out there who have been married, got divorced, and actually got along much better than they really have going to be. That is really just going to be rather amusing. It just goes to show you that there is only a certain level where many people can get to and then beyond that, they don't get along. Of course, for some people, that is really not just going to be something that is going to happen. It is always going to be awkward. Especially considering many break ups rather end rather nastily, with a lot of harsh feelings and harsh words to say the very least. There are just going to be many times where a relationship is shattered forever with a break up.
@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
hi there i don't think it's weird being friends with your ex :) It only shows that you haven't been recovering from what ever happens to the both of you when you were still a couple.Being friends with your ex means you accept everything that has transpired when you were a couple.But it's a case to case basis and it depends on the weight of the things that your ex has done to you for you to be friends with him/her :)Having new friends and meeting old flames as friends is not a bad thing.Give it a try if it didn't work out then let it be :)
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
hello salma07! for some, it can be weird, but i think it all depends on how you two get along with each other. if the other is still bitter, he/she can't befriend his/her ex. but if you really accept the fact that you are both not meant to be, being friends can be fine. relationships start from being friends and can also end in friendships too. two people having loved each other even they don't have feelings as partners anymore can still be friends as long as they want to.
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
Some people still think it's possible but in my case, I don't think so. I really find it weird as well to be friends with someone you had an intimate relationship with. It's just going to get complicated and weird when we talk or something like that. It's not that I have a hard time to move on or whatever, but it's just that it's not possible. I think that there was pain in any breakup and more often than not, I really find it hard to trust anyone who has hurt me once or twice in a lifetime. Maybe some people can find it in their heart to look past it but I have my doubts. I think that it's either they didn't really love each other back when they were together or maybe one or both of them can still be in love with each other and just settle for friendship just so that they wouldn't take the risk of losing them.
@smtsmt (9)
14 Feb 12
Friend ship is very compulsory in the life of all the human beings. Friend ship play a vital role like blood in the life of human beings. According to my thoughts friend ship must be stronger likes mountains.If due to devil friend ship breaks the it is best for the friends to apologies with one another and rejoin to each other once again.For example if friend ship between A and B breaks due to some reasons and A is falter and B loves with A then B need to apologies with A.
@maclanis (2406)
• Belgium
14 Feb 12
I think you can definitely be friends after breaking up. Breaking up doesn't necessarily mean that you don't like that person anymore. It can just be that you don't really feel in love with that person anymore. Especially when this feeling is mutual, I think they can definitely stay friends.