table setting

I used to have to give attention to it as I was a banquet server, we had to set the table as it should be set, and that was a bit annoying. A lot of times we would all grab a certain utensil, like say I'd grab the salad forks, and another would grab the dinner forks, another the soup spoon, another the coffee spoon, and we would all go around the tables and set them like that. Now before this and after this, I don't care what the silverware looks like laid out, or even if I have a salad fork, as long as it's clean. Oh and you don't want to know how we had to "clean" the silverware sometimes.

I am not a party goer and I am guilty f declining invites. Whenever I attended formal occasion, I do observe the table setting to be familiar with everything, so the next time I got to attend same event, I know what to do. I also prefer non-formal parties, but with selected friends only.

My most preferred way of eating is to sit on the ground with legs crisscrossed and enjoy the meal. But at class restaurants I do pay more attention to the table setting and table manners, because the professional table setting enables us to dine with comfort.

I agree with you totally, I think this is totally too formal for me. Plus, I dont' eat with my family - like ever - unless we happen to be going out to eat for a special occasion. We aren't rich though, so that doesn't happen very often. The places we do 'dine out' to are usually bars or casual eateries, so placement of forks and spoons and the like isn't really a priority. Ha.

I've once get a table manner lesson when i was in high school. I enjoy eating with some silverware arranged at my table. But i haven't done it yet again lately, cause to have such an arrangement must be done in mostly expensive restaurants here. Regardless formal or informal, well i enjoy them both. As long as they served a nice and delicious meals.

Hi irene66.. So do i.I feel not comfortable to eat if the setting too formal.I'm rather seat that is more leisurely and casual.But i have to attend dinner feast of my company where i am working.And its must be in formal.

When my ex-boyfriend and I were together we sometimes had dinner in fine dining restaurant in our town. My boyfriend liked the place, but I never felt comfortable there. The table setting was always 100% perfect, and the waiters were extremely polite and formel, but the place was too perfect for me and I wasn't really able to relax. I know how to eat the correct way and which to do and which things to avoid because they are impolite, but it is not exactly relaxing to think about those things all the time. I feel much more comfortable when the setting is less formal like in my home.

I only learned table etiquette at school. But at home nobody gives a damn about it. My mom always said, 'It's our home so be comfortable.' And we do. It's not that we're eating like barbaric or anything, we just eat the way we want. There's no formal arrangement and as long as we keep our manners while eating, that's good enough.

If people put the silverware in a certain arrangement, I never really notice. When I am going to eat, all I care about is the quality of the food. That is the only thing that is first and foremost right on my mind. There is nothing that is going to be more important to me when I am eating a meal, than the fact that the food is rather good. I'm sure that many people put a lot of thought into this, for perhaps people who put no thought into this to say the very least. I just prefer good food when eat. But there are just going to be a lot of times where if it is a bit too stuffy and formal, it can really weigh on my mind. If the setting takes away from the main attraction the food too much, then there are just going to be times where things are a bit too much. But most of the time, I don't notice.

hi, when my co-worker or even my family or friends have a hang out to eat in a restaurant i dont observe those arrangement of their spoon and glass and plates,because like you i am also comfortable to eat when the setting is very formal.

Well,i just do not pay that much attention on the arrangement of eating things. Somtimes it is not that convenient and comfortable to use that,and it would be unformal when you just had meals with your friends.Anyway,if meeting the formal occasions,i will definitely use the formal table seting.lol

I was taught to place the silverware in a certain arrangement, and I use this arrangement at home most of the time, so yes, I notice. There is actually a reason for having them placed the way they are, and when they're just rolled into a napkin or whatever, it forces people to put their silverware on a public table, which I don't like. I've gotten used to it, but if I'm in a home or restaurant that uses traditional settings, I feel like it's a better experience.