Let us try LOVE instead of HATE

@chiwasaki I say Amen to that! I have ran into a couple of people on here that seem to have no respect for anyone who has a different point of view from them. If we would all make a conscience effort to show respect for everyone else, it would be a much more pleasant experience. I think that these haters, regardless of what claims they make, are lacking God in their lives.

I believe you can't have a positive without a negative. So let people be who they are unless they are actually effecting you in some way.

People are not taught to respect others and not to focus on the negative. People are afraid of the unknown too. Gays and such. I think a part of this comes from the fact that generational families are a thing of the past. Children seem to be more apt to see things and people with more objective when they have granparents in the mix. They teach them respect and how to treat people. Parents don't seem to very often.

It's really very hard to see the positive side of someone you hate since our emotions might have already blocked our logic. I mean, in order to see someone's positive side, you need an emotions-free assessment of the person you hate, and that's really the challenge for some of us :) But I would rather just keep silent about someone I despise. I mean, I feel that finding out the "good" side of a "bad" person is not worth my time. Sorry, I'm just human :)

I'll meet you about halfway, and say we should tolerate or understand people or at least their perspective a lot better. A lot of bad feelings comes from the inability to understand that there are two sides to every single story. And that there are just many times where it can be averted, avoided oh so easily by just trying to find some common ground and understand. Sadly, it is not as easy as it seems. There are times where people just go right into the negative, just embrace a lot of the hate, a lot of the agony, and a lot of the problems right in life just happen because of our easy fall into hate. There are times where it does take a bit of effort to understand but it can save a few headaches later.

make love, not war :)

To use the word 'love' in this context demeans the value of the word. In practice you cannot go from hate to love. I suggest it goes from hate to ignore. I don't hate religious and political fanatics - I just ignore them.

Yes, i agree with you , hehe... let's give the postive side of human a chance to be judged, instead of continue to focus on the negative side. In other word, don't always look at a person at his/her front, sometime you need to view him/her from the back too to give you a whole picture on that person, so that you can have a more wholesome personal view. Even though you may not have so much love to spread around, it is no harm at least try not to hate so much on another person, so that we all can get along with each other in this ever smaller and inter-dependent world.

It's just like "Always see the good in everyone". Admittedly, I'm the type of person who easily got pissed about something which I don't know and which makes me feel so insecure. I hate because I envy others who succeeded and who are so happy with what they're doing. I am proud to say that I had changed. Instead of hating others, I made it as a way to be inspired and to appreciate with others. I do know have a different perspective when it comes to life. I'm trying my best to see the good side of others.

I agree. We should try to see the better side of the persons and not be focused on the bad one. It's also good for us, if we treat on this way. This is a goal to achieve. Probably we'll never achieve it altogether, but the most important thing is to know that we've put our effort to reach that goal.

yes, you are right, in order to hate someone, why not we try to look at his or her positive attitude? even it is hard to us, but we really need to learn about it. when you hate someone, you are the one who cant live happily but not the one that is being hated by you, because he or she maybe dont realized that you hate he or she. even he know, maybe he feel nothing too.

yeah right, that's true most of us looking the negative side of other people why don't we look for their positive side with their good attitude and their kindness. Why are we living in the hatred just look for the forward and forget the negative things happened in the past . Isn't happy if we living in the world with love? Everyday you wake up with a good smile and fresh look its priceless. Be thankful that were here still kicking and a live be thankful what we have and be grateful of what we see that is LOVE

Yes there is harm in trying to understand everyone. You simply can not love everybody, because not everybody loves you. And most of your fake friends would forget all your history if you stand in their path to succes, money, or something else that they crave for. It is a proven fact that in those situations the animal within man, the animal that man has evolved during hundred of thousands of year emerges to the surface and those ancient impulses are more powerful than the impulse that tells you to love everybody. That is why there is hate in the world. Because if it was no hatred and only love, even to the wild sword-teeth tiger that would have shred men in half, there would have been no evolution, or maybe we would have been extinct.

As JESUS CHRIST said in the HOLY BIBLE in John 15: 12-14,"My command is this: love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends. You are my friends if you do what I command". In 1 Corinthians 13:5 says," Love is not rude,it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs". I think, if you love one person you don't need to curse or hate him. Where is the love there as JESUS CHRIST commanded us in hating or cursing others. Hating and cursing can lead into different disease like hypertension or heart diseases and others. It is better to forgive as what GOD wants us to do. In fact HE said that if we cannot forgive the sins of others, then our sins are not also forgiven. Note, we are all sinners. In forgiving,we have to forget everything what others did to us because love keeps no record of wrongs.

Hello chiwasaki. I am very interested in this topic of yours and I totally agree with you that love is far better than hatred. If all of us think in a positive way of someone, there would be much less hatred. As to me, I don't hate anyone, but to someone annoying, I still try to be friendly to him ingoring his annoying sides. I think that life and work would be more meaningful if we live and work in a peaceful and positive way. This is what I usually do in my daily life and work. Thanks for your discussion and take care.

you words and though just seem like ones coming out of hubby's mouth for he is that way, i dont know or understand how he manages to see a person's positive side over their negatives, but for me, in spite of having a living example in my own house, i tend to see only their negatives first and only then their positives and sometimes the negatives are so bad that i completely tend to forget their positives...i do want to change my view on that, have tried many a times, but always fail!

It is very difficult to eliminate hatred to someone. I'm trying to remember all the good, by the people I hate. Still, the hatred is difficult to remove. I am very disappointed, and angry, making it difficult for me to control. I always try and keep trying. But, I could never succeed.

Nice post. I think we should talk and think of love more than hate to build a better world.

I also feel like you people should love instead of hate because life is short and then after we cry but when the person is live we are fight with them and after going we cry why? Now life is short so everyone should live happy life and solve the problem by smiling and with love.

I think that's what Lord Jesus Christ was saying with the words "Judge not lest ye be judged; for the measure with which ye mete a man is the measure with which you will be met ... shaken-together, running-over ..." or something. I interpret that as saying 'My path looks to me exactly like your path looks to you. Now my path might not look to you as your path looks to you, and my path doesn't look to me like your path looks to me; but my goals look to me exactly like yours look to you.' And "extrapolate" that difference-of-views to everybody else ... i.e. change 'me' to 'you' and 'you to 'everyone else,' and you'll see what I mean. Everyone thinks that they themselves are the good guys ... and the 'comic book'-villains who claim to do things because they are evil---that's one of the reasons why they're "comic"-books. So when you understand WHY they think they are good, then you can destroy the sin without destroying the sinner.