I exploded!! I can't hadle this anymore!

Yes, it sounds as if it is something that they can work through together. Sounds as if she needs a little time outside of the home and hopefully he will care enough about her happiness to be accepting of that.

I was mad when I said that, I am calm now and still crying. I think my husband had decided already. I am totally gone now We've been fighting a lot.

yes I also suggested not to divorce. thinking about that for fun is also wrong. I wish she reconciles and gets along with her husband nicely. if necessary she can take up a job --part time or so --she keeps herself busy.

maybe because in the earlier , both of them only think their need and ego

Hi 2004cqui, I am totally feeling like in hell. I wasn't like this before all I do is understand everything. My hubby seems don't understand and really I'm running or mean runned out of patience I think we are still considered as newly wed for a year of being married and both of us are only 24.

Oh 2004, Thank you for this tech problem( it's somehow helped me) I'm going to cruise, I'm going to find my hubby. I will try my best,. My eyes are burning

@kyle : ask your self if you can stand up without your husband in one day

i think it was not done like that.. why give the suggestion like that? i think the temporary separation can be done if both of them really did not understand each other and they must separate in some time for being alone and feel that they need each other

I am so confused of what to do now,. I am alone here right now and I think MAEZEE's suggestion will be better. Maybe separating apart will do

i see kyle i understand your sadness.. sometimes you never believe that your husband now is not like your boyfriend when you are still date.. right?? but maybe he thinks the same things like you

You're right adhyz, He was totally different now and then I feel like my body will fall apart

Hi adhyz, I never thought how was this marriage life:( I thought it is sweeter than bf/gf but why this is happening? huhuhu I feel like my body will fall apart

We are going to talk tonight if he come home. I hope will come home if he really want to save this. He decided but I can tell he don't like what he said.

Hi rav, thank you for somehow making me calm. I feel like my body is going to fall apart We've been fighting frequently. And I exploded last night. I am really on the edgeMy husband had decided

why dont you tell the suggestions offered by many of us -- some as parents and a few as friends. Think. Both of you should give one more chance to the other and decide not to get anger over the other for the next few months at least. Give, give, give. do not ask, ask, ask. then problem may not be there.

@kyle2 Maybe your husband is still hurt or angry. Don't give up hope just yet. I will keep you both in my prayers so that you may find a resolution to your problems without having to get a divorce.

Hi misspiggy, I was out last night looking for my husband. If you ask me how I am right now? Well, I am crashing down. My husband had decide. We're going to divorce. Still your friend story was worst than mine. I was mad and really really mad that I exploded last night

Kyle, I'm sorry to hear about that, but I agree with Deedee. Don't give up. Calm your mind and wait until he also calms his mind. Maybe he also exploded before. I think you both need time to talk with clearer minds and without anger. I do really hope you won't need to end your marriage like this. I'll also pray for both of you.

Hi marriedman, I never thought this marriage will be like this. I am totally crashed down. I don't know what to do. I don't know if this is what I really want

Hi sid, I am hoping still that we can settle this down later if he come home. I told him to come home so we can talk if this is what he or I want I am willing/want to save the marriage

That's what I've been thinking the whole night Why I get married I never dream this kind of marriage life.

Hi lyn, We've been fighting a lot frequently. I had quitted my job after 2 years. I've done my role to be the perfect wife. We fought last that made me exploded. And I think this is and end. Husband already decided.

He is not emotional. He will never be! He is so bossy and always want me follow what he want. We fought last night and I exploded. And right we are at the end of this marriage life.

Hi cutie, I absoluteely feel what you said. I feel like I am nailed here at home. I have change totally different after marrying. And we are at the end of this marriage life now.

Hi nurseclear, I really want to fix this. I will go cruise find my hubby. I'll be back later

hi,.,.hows everything now?

Hi ollie, We tried to talk already last night that I was gone after making this discussion. My husband had decided. I never dream this kind of marriage.

Im sorry to hear about that, I hope that you sort everything out and be happy and again.

Hi jaininder, I'm crying right now but I will atill welcome you to mylot! I am really really confused now I don't know if this is what I really want. I don't know

@kyle : thats good if you can control yourself now..maybe you must come here if you dont know what to do..maybe some of friends here can suggest your more better and make you more calm down

@adhyz, thank you for helping me calm. I am just toattly pissed and scream I want to divorce and my hubby left the door and slammed.

Ok . What you need is a impartial third party to help you two Hear each other. if the love is still there , This Can happen. It doesn't have to be a pro . It could be a mutual friend, emphasize on mutual! I hope you two can make it. Good Luck.

Hi Sarah, We are going to settle everything down. I want to save our marriage.

Hi derek, Thank you for the advice I greatly appreciate word from expert. I will wait for my husband to come home. I want to save our marriage. I hope everything will be settle later.

kyle- i am happy you are seeing things from another angle today. Please try to save the marriage. Is the present pressure related to his work -- some problems experienced in work spot/business? if so understand that and save the marriage.

Hi alottodo, I talked to my hubby but I am confused now

kyle2 I certainly understand your frustration. We all need something that is "just mine". We all get angry. We are human. I read someones post that mentioned that your husband doesn't want you to work because it is a cultural tradition. I can understand that, but have you been able to sit him down and really speak to him from your heart? I also seen your post where you said that you don't think he wants a divorce either. That is good. I am happy for you. Its not fair if he gets to go out to work and for socializing and you are stuck at home all the time. What are your hobbies and other things that you like to do? Would he consider allowing you to be a volunteer as ravisivan suggested? That would get you out of the house and give you something that would make you feel good about yourself too. Is it possible to work from home doing whatever job you did before you got married. Do you have a hobby that you could work on and maybe sell online? That may be a solution that would keep you both happy as your husband will still have you at home, and you will feel like you are doing something with your spare time. I know what it is like to be a stay at home wife (and in my case with kids). Your wanting a little more out of life is normal and does not mean that you love your husband any less. Running the house gets tedious and dull after a while, especially if you are in a position where you don't get to interact with people outside of your home. We all need socialization. It is not healthy to be alone so much. You try to be understanding because the husband is at work and can not always help the time he has to be away, but you still need something to fill the emptiness you feel inside when you are alone and waiting for him to come home. Has your husband seen this discussion? If it would not make him angry that you have been discussing your problems here, I think you may want to consider letting him read what has been said. It would show him how desperate you feel about the situation, let him know how you feel(especially if it is not easy for you to express yourself to him in this situation) and he could see what other people have said. Maybe something that someone has said will make him understand your need to have something else in your life. I do know how you feel, as I have been there. I am sorry that I am not more help to you. I will continue to keep you and your husband in my prayers.

Hi Deedee, He just don't want me to work. I let him do what he wants and I am having hard time to go out. I feel like he's not being fair. I still want to save our marriage and I was hella mad last night.

kyle -- you are not employed. you may take up tuitions for young children near your house.

"I do love my hubby and I don't want to have a messed up marriage" This is what happens when one thinks with a cool mind. You categorically said earlier that you want a divorce. I am glad for you that you have decided to stay put in your marriage. Congratulations! Now starts the role that both of you need to play so that it becomes possible. Here is a song about love: Youve got to give a little, take a little, And let your poor heart break a little. Thats the story of, thats the glory of love. Youve got to laugh a little, cry a little, Until the clouds roll by a little. Thats the story of, thats the glory of love. As long as theres the two of us, Weve got the world and all its charms. And when the world is through with us, Weve got each others arms. Youve got to win a little, lose a little, Yes, and always have the blues a little. Thats the story of, thats the glory of love. Thats the story of, thats the glory of love.

Oh AK, Thank you so much for that song lyrics. I wanna know the title of that song. Thank you and good luck to me (us) later.

Hi allknowing, You're right better to live alone than to live in hell and that's what my mom told me too earlier but I still want to save our marriage. I do love my hubby and I don't want to have a messed up marriage

Hi Sassy, I was really mad last night and that's why I exploded. I want to work and he doesn't want me too. I was feeling like he's unfair and that's why we fight and scream that I want to divorce. But right now I am waiting for him to come home. We're going to settle thing down calmly.

I hoping all went well in your conversation last evening :). We are here if you need someone to voice to :).