Do you really not care?

I only care about the opinion of people important to me. If someone else has a problem with me I really don't mind. I think the "trick" if you want to call it that, is to be comfortable with yourself. If you have a good image of yourself you know that the bad things they're saying about you are wrong.

I really think we should all just care for ourselves first...not pay attention to other people's opinion because no one knows everything that is going on in our lives...I don't know if there is a trick...I am older now and wiser....I used to be like you..now I just do my own thing.

I care but only to a very small extent. . I guess having self-confidence and/or a strong sense of self helps. But I know people who care WAY TOO MUCH about what other people think - a lot of my girlfriends are SO concerned about what guys think about them especially. I mean REALLY badly. Like, if one of their boyfriends said "I like you better with short hair" or something like that, I feel like MY normal response would be "Well that's too bad because I like it LONG!" whereas some girls I know would, in a heartbeat, go change it to appease the other person. GAH. It gets so annoying after a while. We should do things for ourselves not for anyone else. Of course I think it's normal to care what people think of you - to a point. I don't know that there's anything you can do to change this - it's an inner problem I guess. It's funny that you feel that way, because I am about the opposite - I don't care enough - which is actually a big problem too. Maybe once you figure out how you can care LESS about other's opinions of you, you can let me in on how I can care a little more.

I suffer from that as well, and I wish I can give a good solid answer but well, there's really no easy way to answer these kinds of questions, us humans are complex beings and we all think and react differently. I am, however, learning how to stand up for myself and to no be afraid to speak my mind, and accept that not everyone is going to like me, but it's a real hard thing to accomplish. I'm still struggling in that area, but thanbkfully I'm getting better. Best wishes to you

Hello lovngmybabies I too have the same Issue. I care way to much what people think about me. I'm constantly trying to please. I think it is true some people naturally don't care what people think. I don't think there's a special trick to learn Its base in part who you are. I think its also about learning how to manage it. If the person is concern and trying to help you then it would be good to care what they think. If there are no good intentsions just critisim then don't pay them no mind. After all If they are not participating in helping you why should they matter?

yeah i don't care about what people's saying or thinking about me.because if i started caring about what are they talking about me then every time i thinking about that person and don't concentrate on my work. and if you also wanted to enjoy your life then you will stops caring other person thought about you.

I really don't care what others think. How did I get to this place? As a child when I was teased I just ignored it. I Never would do anything I didn't want to do save a project for school here and there! But not being in the " in crowd" made me fee to be me. Now I have friends who like the real me. You are a great person , I like you . Just live your life and be happy.

I care what my family and close circle of friends think. Rather than that I REALLY don't care what others think. In their twisted minds they can think whatever they like. I don't answer to them. How do you stop caring what they think or say? Strengthen your self-esteem and self-respect. Then they can't touch you.

I am not totally apathetic..but i can ignore it off. I mean, if we keep on thinking what other people think of us - we will never be ourselves. So as much as possible i try to ignore it. how do you do it? well think of things that are good in you and if people does not like it. then it is their problem not yours. It is just like dressing up and if you feel like using cordoroy or some unfashionable things then do it if it makes you happy right?

It is only natural for you as a human to care about what other people have to say about u or what they think about u....I had a bad experience once I was in a relationship with a girl that got around a lot and eventually I found out...people laughed at me called me a idiot and this continued for months...at first I was really hurt emotionall abt this bt after a few weeks I just didn't care what people had to say hell I dnt live my life to please people I live to please myself....all I can say is that dnt let what people think or say about u get u down

I wish it would be easy not to care about they think of you. It would affect me of course but I won't take it seriously. Just be yourself and enjoy life as long as you are not hurting others by doing so. Let them be until they get tired of saying this or that about you. Don't let them bowl you over

I am a lot like you. I am always concerned and worried about what people say about me or think about me. I am very self conscious and critical of myself. I try too hard. I worry about things that I have said or not said to people. I apologize unnecessarily and explain myself excessively. It is very stressful. I wish that i could relax more. In many of these situations, the other person is often someone who is not even close to me or someone who is not very important to me.

Hey Buddy I would only say if those people matters to you then only bother or else there is no point thinking about them in the end you ll waste your time that's all. If you really care about their opinion then just ask then or talk to them. Unless you wont talk how they will get to know right ???

I don't think there is a way to stop caring what people think or say about us. It is a fact of life that everybody, including us, do have an opinion on everything. We don't have control over what others think or say. I guess almost all of us wouldn't mind if the opinions and comments are favorable to us. It is a different story if they are not. As it is almost unavoidable that negative comments on us will surely happen, we can take it positively - we make good use of the "bad" comments/opinions to improve us. The comment may not be nice but it may be the truth. If we don't like it, we change! If we don't change, comments like that will always be there. If the comment is not the truth, if the people who say it is close to us, we should clarify it. Other not so close ones we just ignore it. I believe self-confidence is a strong factor to determine the degree of effects what others comments and opinions on us. We won't feel secured if we feel we are inadequate. So one way to build up our self-confidence is to improve ourselves. Personality is also a factor but it is more difficult to change unless the person can think deeply and be more open-minded. Smile more. Don't get angry. Always accept all comments as if they are real. Think about it. Forget it. Change it. Improve it. Talk about it. After awhile, we will feel more peaceful and calmer. We will find lesser and lesser of the negative comments if it is not the truth. But if what they say is true, and we can't change the fact, then we just have to accept it. Life is not perfect.

This shows that you are a very sensitive person and that other peoples opinion matters to you very much.In one way it is good because it gives you an opportunity to correct yourself whenever required but on the otherhand you can also get hurt and your selfconfidence could get undermined and you could get an inferiority complex.Maybe this is part of your nature which you are finding hard to resolve.In my case i have never bothered about what others think of me nor am i sensitive,therefore i never get affected or hurt.If i do something then i take full responsibility for my actions.If what i have done is a mistake then i take it in my stride and see that i do not repeat it.You can say that i am a 'natural'.If you believe in God then surrender to Him wholeheartedly and pray to Him daily and ask Him to change you for the better.Your problem is of the mind and there is nothing on earth that God cannot do,you could get transformed, believe me.

Hi there! Well I can't say that I really don't care on what other people have to say about me specially that I know that there are really some people around who are watching, and I also know that what I am doing will affect my husband. Before I use to worry about it that I can't act the way I really am, but as time pass by, I just learn how to deal with people around me and still be the real me. I learn that as long as I am not doing anything wrong to other people and I am just minding my own life and business, I have nothing to worry about. I know that I can't please everybody, but atleast I know to myself that I have done my best to be in good terms with everyone. Now, if after all our efforts, other people still say not so good things about us, then its not our problem anymore. At least our conscience is clear and we are living at peace. Just be confident, be natural and just do what you think is right and let people think hat they want to think, we can't control other people anyway.

I could have sworn I already answered this, but I was wrong. Anyways, I can say all I want that I don't care what others think of me. And I feel like when I'm talking that I don't, but when something goes on or I'm in a situation it turns around and I'm upset or hurt or whatever so apparently I do care or I wouldn't get upset in the first place.

I am very logical. Its why things don't affect me as much when they are said about me. It has to be something really bad to affect me and I mean really bad. Otherwise I am very logically when it comes to things such as someone saying bad things about me. I can't bring myself to actually care. Its bad I guess in a sense, but I can't. What I did was basically stop looking at things emotionally and more logically as I said. So for example if someone stated I was nothing more than a "loose woman with no morals" and so on. I usually just look at them and go along my way. People who need to judge and control, in my opinion, feel like something is missing or the equivalent in their lives.

Well, i just wanna say that we must care what other people said sometime. It is can take as concern on us, or just for a words only. Depends, sometime i don't bother what other thought or said about me. Talking bad on other people is commonly we seeing everyday and just try to avoid it.

It really matters to me also what others think of me or say about me but only those people that are close to me. I don't care what the rest of the world says or feels, they are not important enough in my life for their opinion to matter at all. I am very happy with the way I am and with my self-image that what others say doesn't really have alot of effect on me. As for the people that matter in my life and are close to me, they won't say anything to hurt me but say/do what they think will be in my best interest so I don't mind them giving me adive or saying something because I wknow that they care about me and that is why they say/do it.