People can't see faults in themselves.

hello chyrs, Judgmental people do not accept their faults. They do realize their mistake, but they cannot digest the truth that they are worse than those people they are judging. It's like slapping their own face- and they will never do that. It's like facing a mirror and looking to their own reflection. It's their character. I always try my best to accept my fault, it won't make me a lesser person to say "sorry".

I think it's hard for all of us to find faults in ourselves. But I think admitting our faults and realizing them is really really important. Like I know that I can be really stubborn and sometimes incredibly argumentative. So when I realize I'm doing this... I try to take a step back and make sure I'm listening to all sides of the story and being fair to the other person instead of just getting angry..It's hard to do but it helps. On the other hand...There are people with tons of personality flaws who won't admit to them. I have one friend who thinks she is right ALL THE TIME to the point where she is correcting you all the time and it gets so tiresome after a while. And she's so used to being like that, that she doesn't even realize she's doing it - that's the worst part. GAH. But I agree, 'watching' yourself on these kinds of things definitely helps, because often times it seems as if we do it without even realizing we are....

Well I believe all people are guilty of being judgmental. It is so easy to see the plank on the eyes of our neighbor than the plank on our own eyes. We have the tendency to judge others not knowing we do self-incrimination when doing so. Who is faultless after all? Every one has done mistakes in his life so if only for this we should be more careful with the way we look and treat those who commit mistakes before our eyes. Indeed we are not to condone sin, we can always rebuke, remind and help those who are into sin to amend their life but we are not to judge. We can't be judge because we are sinners just the same. Only God can be a righteous judge so let's just leave that task to Him.

Yes, I know people like that. I hope they grow out of that behavior. Have a great day!

chrystaltears: Yep, we all know people like that. It is an unfortunate fact of life. I just don't understand it. I find myself fighting the urge to tape these people so that they can hear themselves and maybe realize just how bad they are. I think that we are all guilty of this to at least a small degree. We tend to find fault with others and don't recognize that we see it because we are guilty of the same thing. For instance, I find it rather irritating when my husband leaves his dinner plate unrinsed in the sink, but then, I catch myself doing that same thing. I try very hard not to judge people and say things that I will regret later. I am human, and I make mistakes, just not ones as big as others do (lol). Sorry, I just couldn't help myself there.

I myself judged others people. I judged them because I'm insecure of what they got. But I had changed. It made me realize that I have my own flaws and imperfection. I know I'm not good enough. No one has the power to judge someone especially if we don't know that kind of person.

But we all make judgement calls all the time. We decide whom we are going to like and connect with, who we will avoid, we talk about other people in negative ways. Any decision we make that involves other people is usually a judgement call. We're only human and we cannot love everyone. None of us is Mother Theresa who gave of herself lovingly to everyone she met. I know it's wrong of me to despise my next door neighbour but I cannot help myself. I have tried for things to be good between us but it just didn't work - I simply cannot stand the woman.

Sad to say,there are a lot of people like that.I try not to be like that.As the saying goes "If you have nothing nice to say,then shut up."

Hi chrystalaltears, You are absolutely right, we are all like this. We should never judge or condemn another, because the faults we see in another are also in us. Most people don't understand it, but we could not see a fault in another if we didn't have the same fault. Blessings.

hi chrystaltears I think parr of being human is to have faults but if we know about them we can change them. Yes I have known people who rant on about the faults in others , judging unmercifully but cannot believe that they too have faults.I also have ito watch myself so that I do not have the faults I blame everyone else for having.

*looks in mirror... What faults?

I know a few people like that. They're pretty stubborn and refuse to reason to anything or anyone. Regardless what we say, they'll do it anyway. It's annoying when they complaint to me later on as I already advised them prior to that. Now I tend to shut my mouth and watch. It's easier.

Hello Chrystaltears, Most of the people do that they always easily find faults in others but don't realize them faulty when they themselves do that fault.And those who don't do that are real human beings.I too can give lectures to others but if i want to apply same thing on me i find it difficult to apply.But i always try hard and in most of the cases i accept my fault if i am faulty.

Yes. I've known several people here that they think they are ALWAYS right. They don't listen, they think they are giving too much but the thing is there are just too selfish. Pff. :(

I've seen a lot of them like what you describe. It's like they don't have mistakes commited. Usually I don't deal to those kind of people I just get away from them when i see them.

I think this is common. We usually think that we are always right and others are wrong. Unless we calm down and think about it and then we may realize who has made a fault. Sometimes we also need others to warn us when we make a mistake. It is just like a mirror. Without it, we can't see whether our face is clean or not. I love China

i'm guilty also of this and i certainly regret it. so as much as possible if i can not say good about someone, i just shut my mouth. you can not please every body even if you are nice with them so forget about them. whatever you give, life will give back to you so better be careful.

sometimes i or maybe we, commit actions/mistakes like that. We hurt other people's feelings but we can't think, what if we are on their position. And also, we hurt other people, but if we got hurt by others we don't remember that we also did it to others. But for this moment, others are stil worse than me. Others are more harsh than myself. And i know some of them. :)

i'm experiencing this right now and it's very, very frustrating. people are judging me for what they think i did when they don't even see or know what they are doing to me.

Correct, since its really harder to point out our own mistake than others. That's correct the best thing to do here is to practice it out.