Ive started putting signs up. !!
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50973)
Holiday, Florida
February 23, 2012 2:51pm CST
I dont know if C,daughters bf, is just stupid or if he trys to get on my nerves deliberately. 
When doing another discussion I thought about this. how ive had to put signs up in the house. 
If theres anything i hate its going into the laundry room to wash and finding clothes in the washer that hes stuck in there and stinks.from being over night. and even sometimes more clothes in the dryer. I mentioned it several times but to no availe Ive never seen any person as lazy as him! and ive lived 64 yrs. and known some pretty lazy people in my life. I put a sign up over the washer and dryer. DONT PUT CLOTHES IN if you dont intend to take them out! and its helped some. I was going in there finding clumps of lint just laid up on the counter instead of thrown away. i saw him the other day start to do that. its another thing ive complained about. not emptying the lint trap. it could cause a fire. so once he got that down, and i saw him laying it on the counter, i said you know its only a few steps over there to the trash. Have you ever known anyone that lazy? and no he still dont work at a job! anyway, have you ever tried putting up signs? its rediculous for a grown person to have to be taught common sense that his parents should have! going to have to put signs every where i guess. that likely why he cant keep a job. people wont pay you for goofing off.
When doing another discussion I thought about this. how ive had to put signs up in the house. If theres anything i hate its going into the laundry room to wash and finding clothes in the washer that hes stuck in there and stinks.from being over night. and even sometimes more clothes in the dryer. I mentioned it several times but to no availe Ive never seen any person as lazy as him! and ive lived 64 yrs. and known some pretty lazy people in my life. I put a sign up over the washer and dryer. DONT PUT CLOTHES IN if you dont intend to take them out! and its helped some. I was going in there finding clumps of lint just laid up on the counter instead of thrown away. i saw him the other day start to do that. its another thing ive complained about. not emptying the lint trap. it could cause a fire. so once he got that down, and i saw him laying it on the counter, i said you know its only a few steps over there to the trash. Have you ever known anyone that lazy? and no he still dont work at a job! anyway, have you ever tried putting up signs? its rediculous for a grown person to have to be taught common sense that his parents should have! going to have to put signs every where i guess. that likely why he cant keep a job. people wont pay you for goofing off.6 people like this
21 responses
@crimsonladybug (3112)
• United States
23 Feb 12
We used to have little signs all over when I had my apartment. Things like "cover your plate" on the microwave... There were more but that's the only one I can remember (because it was my microwave and I'm pretty sure the note is still there several years later...it's in storage now). It felt a little childish having them up but we also had friends who would come over and use things and not be respectful so it was as much for them as for the people who actually paid rent.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Feb 12
thats a good idea. the thing is that altho childish, its there for people that cant be gotten to any other way if they are childish and thoughtless also!
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
25 Feb 12
You read about this sort of thing in student dorms with shared kitchens and facilities,but you'd think you wouldn't need to do this sort of thing in your own home! I'm not defending the Guy,but I can appreciate being jobless can't be good for his self esteem,which seems to be being expressed in behaviour like this, not doing what needs to be done to help out and get himself out of the rut he's in..
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
26 Feb 12
4 jobs in that length of time,and blew all of them? yikes..he's got no job skills he could use to keep a Job he liked,if there was one?
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Feb 12
I can understand that. but when they first came several months ago, he got a job from nassesity for his drinks then they let him go. he said they had no more work? then he got another for another week, same story. then my son got him on where he worked. they said he was caught asleep on the job
then my son got him one down at the car wash and we even bought him a bike to go back and forth and he messed that up in 2 weeks time. !! so, no, hes just lazy period!@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Feb 12
im afraid if he has to work there isnt one he would/could do. 
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
5 Mar 12
yup.i had to write "empty after each use!" directly on the top of the lint screen.
and it's sad i have to do that with adults.
"change empty rolls of toilet paper" is gonna be next.
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
6 Mar 12
yup.i must tell them to wipe the counter 24 times a day easy.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
5 Mar 12
omg, sounds like you live with ones like this.1 person likes this
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
24 Feb 12
I used to have a lazy azz landlord that did that all the time. He would leave his rags in there many days. I had no one i could complain to because he was the landlord. I would just take his stuff out clean the washer or dryer. Use it then put his stinking rags back.
I wish you luck with yor signs. If they dont work you could just leave them ina pile on the floor.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
25 Feb 12
Another thing if he is just hanging out at home you could approach him and ask him to kindly remove the clothes NOW because you need to use YOUR washer. One time when my daughters family was staying with me. My son-in-law always would get on my grandsons case about not picking up his dirty clothes but he himself would always leave his dirty boxers on the bathroom floor. One day he did that i hung them on the lamp in the living room where he would be sure to see them as soon as he came home. When he came to me and asked why i did that i explained to him what a hypocrite he was being. I never saw his boxers again.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Feb 12
thats another idea. if only daughters clothes werent in them and she works so much.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
29 Feb 12
I do not have to deal with anything like that. It sounds like he is a small child. I know my kids make messes and leave things all around. But they are kids. I know about being lazy myself, I sometimes do things like that but with the intent to throw it away. Like, if I am doing something, like maybe collecting all the recycled garbage and bagging it, I might lay a bag down and then get caught up in something else. In the mean time I forget about the bag. But I do eventually get around to throwing it away. But all the time, I do not get it.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
5 Mar 12
me either and it seems he grows lazier every day and if i mention something to daughter about it she just says well she pays for him and/or just ask him to do it, but i get tired of asking and getting the look. then, sometimes shes started doing things herself and she gets no rest!
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Kids do have a certain kind of lazy streak to them. I know from when I was young and from watching my cousins. When they hit a certain age, they have energy for the things they want to do, but not for the things they have to do. I think it is all part of growing up.
@thornhunt (57)
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23 Feb 12
i would dream of doing any of this in my gf's house! the way i see it is if he doesnt accept your house rules then he's out. no hesitation. have you tried putting that to him ? or does he not live there? if thats the case then just dis-allow him from stopping ove until he can respect you
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Feb 12
sadly he lives here and my daughter works her butt off as manager of a subway sandwich shop. she pays some of the bills so she uses that to keep him here. i will admit her working outside the home helps. now im going to see your profile... you got a girl?@thornhunt (57)
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24 Feb 12
Ahh, maybe a comprimise with your daughter, even thought she pays his and her way its still your home ? Aha thanks for looking though sofar its abit bare, still testing this site :D, awwhh dam and yehh I got a girl, she has her own house (I had to move back with parents since I couldn't keep my house while I wait for the army), I stop at hers a lot and try as hard as I can to clean up my mess and help her out around the house, the way I see it, its the least I can do. Hopefully your daughters mister see's his ways and bucks up his actions. :)
@SViswan (12051)
• India
10 Mar 12
That's real real lazy! I can understand it happening once in a while and people forgetting but not always!I've never had to put up signs...though I've wanted to sometimes :-P My husband is one of the lazy people I've met but he is getting better now after more than a decade of living with me.....or maybe I've just grown to ignore these things.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Mar 12
yes scarey how you start just ignoring it. but i notice that if i ignore it, i will soon blow up. better to get it out when im not quite as upset. 
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
27 Feb 12
He'd be out in the yard if he acted that way in my house... the roomie and I wash our clothes together, we can share tops and no way we can share bottoms! 
but if I find the other roommate (not the blind one) has left clothes in the dryer, I'll take them out and treat them the way she treats ours!
but if I find the other roommate (not the blind one) has left clothes in the dryer, I'll take them out and treat them the way she treats ours!@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Feb 12
at first we was putting clothes in together for whole family and him and i both shared working on them, folding, putting in drier, etc. but as time went on he stopped helping except to just put them in the wash and expect me to do all the rest for everyone. then son started complaining his clothes didnt smell good. so i took over just doing ours together and telling him to do theirs. but next thing i know, hes leaving everything full and not done and over night. expecting me to do it all. no, thanks, he needs to help, not just play games all day. 1 person likes this
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Feb 12
Instead of putting up a sign, how about if you dump the wet clothing on his bed?
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Feb 12
i would if my poor hard working daughter didnt have to sleep there also. 
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Feb 12
It sounds like you have people there that are related to my granddaughter. She is so very irritating. I don't put up signs. I spit fireworks. lol
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Feb 12
i did that but only to listen to my daughter make excuses for him. and keep telling me i was a nit picker. 1 person likes this
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Feb 12
I would do what the gal below this one did. These people are using your home and you make the rules. If they can't go by the rules they need to move on. If you get to the point where you can't handle it anymore you should speak to your son and make arrangements to tell these two they need to find other arrangements.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
25 Feb 12
I haven't been able to respond for a couple of days, but I saved this one. How's it going? Since C seems to need constant 'upgrades' in behavior-modification efforts, maybe have another sign or two around that can be 'accidentially' seen? Something like 'Garments left in machines will be disposed of immediately and without warning, at owners expense'?
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Feb 12
he wouldnt care. he has mostly even stopped doing laundry. i think daughter is likely going to do it today on her day off. their laundry that is, not mine or sons. i do those. even though she went in for a couple hours this morning just to make sure a 6 foot sub got done right. shes manager now and makes better money, but works more hours
she pays some on the bills so figures we shouldnt wonder why he dont do anything. she treats him like her son when her son was 4yrs old....i dont know when she will ever wake up from it. all i do is bide my time since shes so good a person in every other way and hes lucky she is our baby in the family. we all love her so much.
their laundry that is, not mine or sons. i do those. even though she went in for a couple hours this morning just to make sure a 6 foot sub got done right. shes manager now and makes better money, but works more hours she pays some on the bills so figures we shouldnt wonder why he dont do anything. she treats him like her son when her son was 4yrs old....i dont know when she will ever wake up from it. all i do is bide my time since shes so good a person in every other way and hes lucky she is our baby in the family. we all love her so much. @JenInTN (27514)
• United States
24 Feb 12
I think those signs are a great idea...although you shouldn't have to do that. I have known some pretty lazy people but not quite as lazy as not being able to make it two more steps to the garbage can. I'm glad that the signs are helping a little at least.@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Feb 12
yes thats pretty lazy i think. again mylot was not delivering my notifies so i didnt find these comments till today. so they skipped a day again. 
@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
24 Feb 12
I used to put up signs too but it was when my kids were younger. To remind them to turn off lights, lock doors, etc. Sorry you have to go through it with an adult.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
24 Feb 12
It is really time waste to tell some one those who are lazy. They can not learn and don't have minimum common sense.
how many time we will say to them.
It is better to let them live like that.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
24 Feb 12
fortunately i never have to do this... i always want to treat other people with respect and as adults... so unless i really have to resort to putting signs up to make somebody understand and do something, i won't do it... take care and have a nice day...
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Feb 12
that usually the case. but this guy is like a child in his comprehention of things i guess. maybe hes just slow in more ways then one. 
@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
23 Feb 12
I had to leave signs like that for staff that i supervised in people's homes. I will say, my kids do empty lint traps. They get the laundry out of the wash, too. May not fold it, but it is out of the washer and dryer. I think he may be just a bit on the dumb side.
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
23 Feb 12
I lived with a bunch of pigs awhile back and often find clothes in the washer and dryer that had been there at least one day and sometimes longer, like you.
Know how I stopped it? When I went to do my laundry and found this, I'd take their clothes out, dump them on the floor and not say a word to anyone. Usually, my laundry was finished and put away before the owners of the previous clothes even noticed that theirs was on the floor. I didn't deny doing it, either. I told them that I needed to do my laundry and they weren't around. I was not going to finish their laundry for them as they've never helped me with anything and I was not going to wait for them to get back to theirs.
Well, that's not entirely true. I did finish their laundry ONCE. I told them I did it but would not do it again. I guess they were hoping that I was a sucker and would do it again but they were sadly disappointed.
I sure hope your daughter wises up and gets rid of this looser soon.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Feb 12
good idea. never thought of that approach. problem is my daughters clothes was in there also. anyway. sins have helped a lot.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
Good for you bunny. Let's see if he knows how to read it 
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Feb 12
surprisingly he does know how to read and the sign has helped some. 
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
24 Feb 12
My grandparents had a sign over the dryer saying "Please make sure that Sackie is not in the dryer before using". The cat loved going into the clothes dryer and loved to sit on wet clothes. I thought this sign was helpful because the cat liked to hide in there and we did not want to see Sackie get hurt. Sackie was a male siamese cat.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Feb 12
ohhh! thats so sweet. yes ive found out they come in handy @MommyofTwo (4)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Hi bunnybon7...I've never had to put signs up for others just for myself. Especially things not to forget for my son and school.
I think when you are dealing with signs for an adult they aren't going to read it and do what you ask. If they were so lazy to not do things without the sign they surely aren't going to do them with the sign. I think it's a sad day when you have to put up such signs for another adult that should be smart enough to figure these things out for themselves. I've had the experience with the wet clothes overnight and that is the worst smell possible and so hard to get out of the clothes. I had to do the load atleast 3 times to get it out and now my husband is banned from the laundry room.LOL!!! Good luck with everything but I really don't see what your daughter sees in this boyfriend. He won't get better with marriage and you can't change them.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Feb 12
very wise. at least the signs have helped as far as leaving clothes in the washer. i dont think they will marry. at least i hope not