Lack of respect from family?

I totally understand what you're talking about. I know for a fact that my mother likes to lay guilt trips on me. My father is a passive man and he will be there to help me. But my mother and my brother always look to me to do basically everything for them. Look, I am not saying I don;t mind helping, but not all the time. Then there is my aunt, she kept some things secret from me when my marriage was breaking up and she never told me anything. I found out like three years later. So, yes. I feel lack of respect and misunderstood.

You are not alone in this situation.I know your pain and frustrations,but you know what,train your mind with motivational information materials and above all read the bible to get inspirations and ideas.Folks behave this way,because of lack of understanding and maturity.The most annoying thing is that they claim to be Christians but they are doing the opposite of what Christianity represents.How sad.Please like said before go motivational,do not allow anybody,i repeat anybody to look down on you. People are disrespect you because of being so materialistic and money conscious,they equate success to possessions.You need information to rise above this.Also use the science of psychology to assist yourself so to be able to predict people and control them.Know also that people are not perfect,can express themselves no matter how stupid their ideas are be yourself and to do not dance to everybody's wihs

Hi my friend! I am sad to hear you feel that way. It's really not good not be respected by anybody especially our own family. Have you tried talking about what you feel to your family? Maybe they don't know that they are already doing it to you. Or they are already used to it since you are so kind to them. Sometimes voicing out your feelings will make them aware that they are already hurting you unintentionally. I don't feel that way to my own family but I feel that way to my in-laws. I don't know if it is just me who feels that way 'cause my siblings said they are kind to me. I can't explain it,I feel they are not sincere. But some of my in-laws are truly kind,I can only point a few of them who are not respecting me,in a way. My hubby told me to not think of it that way,he said it's just all in my mind.

I never felt disrespected by my family. Maybe they don't disrespect you, but it is you taht disrespects them, and that is reflecting to you. It is just what I believe, so you do not have any reason to get angry, I am just making a poit here. I am sure that if you care for them and respect everyone, you will get that respect back. This is a proven fact. Mostly if they are your family, and you haven't done anything wrong to hurt them there is no reason for them to hate you or disrespect you.

First of all yes I do get disrespect a lot mostly from family members. I think it is unfortunately a growing trend in the world. I do this to take care of them, I giv up my time for them and they will still treat me poorly. Or act as though i am irrelevant. I hope your situations have improved.

well, i used to feel if somebody in my family does not love me and for that hurt me many times.... i did not think of respect for that one in my family... but for formality i used to respect ...

In my case I have family member that I just dont talk to because they want to tell me what to do . I have uncle that feel they make the law in the family and I dont listen to them and they would run and complain about my brother and I not respecting them . I also have family member that only call me to ask for favor and they are no where to be found if I should ever be in that position .

I feel that my younger brother has no respect for me. Whenever we are in the same room as him, he will sit listening to his music and won't bother talking to the rest of the family at all. Whenever any of us tell him about this, he claims that just being in the same room is enough to spend time with us, and that we should get off his back and leave him alone. We care for him, but he doesn't ever seem to want to spend quality time with us and it looks like he prefers to listen to his music than talking to us.

I know how you feel. Sadly, my Dad does not respect me. He treats me like a child and talks to me like I'm 6. You are not wrong for feeling this way. You can love them without allowing yourself to be treated like a doormat.

Guilt trips are always hard to deal with coming from anyone, but when a family member makes you feel bad for telling them no that you can't or won't do something for them, that's the hardest slap in the face to take. I can feel ya on this, my husbands side of the family like to do this crap to me. They like to call me or just up front tell me that I NEED to do this or that for them, never asking always telling and expecting it done. When i put my foot down, it always makes family gatherings and socials have alot of tension and everything is always my fault. They act very childish and it's hard to deal with but I have learned to just go with the flow and take everything with a grain of salt and move on with my own life, they aren't worth my time of worry or hurt feelings, but it's taken me 12 years to come to an understanding with myself over things that they do. You are not wrong for feeling this way and you yourself will have to find a to be able to just move on and deal with everything they dish out with out feeling guilty or feeling like they are being the one who is starting problems. Best of luck!

Sometimes I feel like this too, with certain members of my extended family. They just don't seem to have respect for anyone. And in return, I don't give them my respect. That's the most you can really do. How can you have respect for a person who doesn't respect you? Especially when there is nothing that has warranted that kind of dis-respect? *shrugs*. Hopefully it's not someone you have to be around 24/7. I'm lucky in that the person I am referring to I only usually have to see & tolerate on major holidays. Hopefully your situation is the same. Best of luck to you.

you are not wrong, sometimes people didn't respect for us because they have their own reasons, maybe they are busy with their own thing, or they only feel lazy to response something, my brother often keep quiet when I ask him something,if he didn't respect to me, I leave him and ask with another people.

The part of the family who never payed any attention to me, stabbed me in the back and never showed any respect I deleted out of my life. It was the best thing I could do for me. What is left over is a great family. We are close, trust each other, have fun and are able to respect each other (incl. each other's choices). If someone (no matter if it's family or not) is not willing to do me any favour, if I always have to be the one who does, it's over for me. I am not willing anymore to invest good energy and time into people who don't deserve it.

I think, they are only concern to you. But it is still your call, making decision what is really best for you. Most of the time, it is really frustrating and feeling disrespected.

Though I have not experienced this in my life but I have seen my cousin brother going through similar situation . As you may be knowing that in India we stay in joint families . He is the son of my father's brother . Since he was not good in studies and got low grades in exam he was ridiculed often . I knew how bad he felt . I used to pray for him . He never told anyone directly but he was always upset . It's God grace that slowly but steadily he cleared his law exams . Some family members still ridicule him but I know he will succeede . You are right in your way so keep faith you will overcome all this and prosper in life .

Though I have not experienced this in my life but I have seen my cousin brother going through similar situation . As you may be knowing that in India we stay in joint families . He is the son of my father's brother . Since he was not good in studies and got low grades in exam he was ridiculed often . I knew how bad he felt . I used to pray for him . He never told anyone directly but he was always upset . It's God grace that slowly but steadily he cleared his law exams . Some family members still ridicule him but I know he will succeede . You are right in your way so keep faith you will overcome all this and prosper in life .

o yes i had a cousin who i helped all the time then when i needed it nope couldent do it i asked him to stop swearing all the time when he was at my place it not only buged me but i was babysitting a niece who was learning to talk. he wouldnt stop so i havent seen or talked to him in 3 years we grew up togather

You are not the one experiencing that problem prospectboy, it is also happen on me. My youngest daughter is like that. Sometimes they want a vacation with their friends, i say no, because i don't who is there friend to be accompanied. But like you i am frustrated because what she wants are fulfill. She walks without my permission. When she comes, apologizing to me, that i accept because his my daughter.

When going to family gatherings I always get ridiculed one way or another. The reason for that is that my father and my uncle have this grudge against each other and somehow that turned into the competition of whose son is the most successful one. So yes, I receive little to no respect from some family members. I don't think it's wrong for you to feel that way, but I'm guessing you'll have to help them most of the time to keep the situation liveable.

I am lucky to have family that respect me for what I am :d but unfortunately in my hubby's side, there's one person there that don't respect me that much. :( I dunno why but who cares? as long that the rest of their family treated me well it is enough for me to say that I deserved to be respect. :d