Sorry for the drama

Hi godmom So this is what has been happening at your end and I was unaware. Okay, no worries. Now that it isnt a secret anymore, I can put a pile of reasons for you to enjoy this and celebrate it... but I wont as this is not the right time... Time is the best healer... yes, it is and you have to be strong to get to that time. You are already keeping yourself busy and that is one great thing right now. The other thing that you can do is get drunk... and shout, yell... and yes louder (as loud as you can or even more, it sounds silly but yes it helps.) Take out whatever pain you have within you and I am sure, I am around, and many of your well wishers here are by your side who will surely listen and understand (some will also come up with better solutions than me) Respond here at this box only after you have taken at least 5 shots... 5 not more or less.... (just because 5 is my lucky number).

First off, let me say that I know this situation is very painful for you, and I thank you for trusting your mylot friends including me as someone who might be able to help you work through your pain and arrive at making some sense of all of these. You get plagued by the guilt feelings and the why now, if only, etc.. but it is better to be honest with yourself and make the clean break up, whether you or he has the one initiated, or both, than to stay around because you feel obliged to. It will only lead to more resentment in the long run. And yep Mylene, Big Girls don't Cry....So you better stop crying and cope for it. Accept it. Quarrel that feelings and don't allow to escape from your hands. Be sure to defeat it. If all of these were succeeded brilliantly in taming, then, you will start to move and shine again.

Hi enelyn, you have been with this man for years, so even though it was't working out, now that you are no longer with him, it may take more than a couple months to get over it. You are going through a grieving process, because he was a part of your life, good or bad, for so long. The best thing to do is if you can keep busy,spend time with friends, or make new friends, (Not guys, you don't want to start a relationship while you are still hurting from the last one). another good idea would be to find a new hobby, or take a class or two, learn something new.. Anything new, that won't remind you of him, will help you through this time..In the meantime, here are some hugs from me...

Sorry to hear you are sad. I had no idea you had just broken up with someone, but you must have done it for the right reason. If you have been with him for a long time, then it's like a bereavement and only time can heal it. Eventually you will move on and find happiness I am sure. As Groucho Marx once said, "Time wounds all heels"

No need to apologize. That's what we are here for, to help our friends here when they need to talk! First here is a hug which you probably need right now. Second, it is always so hard when you have nothing to do but think. When I am sad or stressed I absolutely HATE sitting around doing nothing because you do think about things more. =( I'm sorry your sad. I hope it will get better soon. Unfortunately, it usually takes a LONG time for our hearts to heal. Which is the one thing no one tells you when they say time is the best healer... I really hope you fill your mind and time with other things and I hope your heart heals soon!

I know what you feel friend, just keep your self more busy and time will come and you will never know, that you already got over him. That's love, when you fall in love, you have to be ready to be hurt, just be strong, all the things that is happening to us is given by God. And I believe that God eliminates person in your life for your own good. So just be strong, I know you can get over him soon. You always have a friend in here. ;)

Don't worry about that everybody us here has a drama in life. In your situation time only can tell when to heal your wounds. But while healing that wounds try also to compose your self. Think of the positive side of the break up. You said that your been arguing so much and it became worst. Do you think if you did not break with him before you can stand arguing all over again until now? It is only in your mind, we all know love is very hard to forget but if you let your self be affected to much it is not love. Love your self before anyone else.Time will come you find your great love and by that time you will not cry.

You let it out, that is the best thing to do. Breaking up is never easy and it often lasts longer then one wants to admit it. You will be fine, and you know you will be, it's completely natural to think of him from time to time, just in those times you've not got your normal distraction, distract yourself with something else. Come here and listen to music at the same time, REFUSE to think of it.

Hi enelym: Don't worry. It's just ok. You have these feelings that are affecting you. But you have to think, is it worth it? Is the re a possibility to go back? Is it good for you as an adult person? Why do you want to do this? Does he deserves a second chance? If you feel that it's better for you to be single then you just have to give yourself your time. Understand the reasons of your pain. Is it rational? That's the way you can overcome these bad feelings. ALVARO

no need to apologize dear. the decision taken b you is really correct. if you don't get that happiness in love,there is no point in holding that love for a long time.i know that it is really a hard decision and many of my friends keep on crying after their breakups. one day everything will change and you will find a better life partner who really cares for you. you will get a better life partner who share everything with you and who cares for you always. dont try to think about that guy who really hurt you for a long period try to keep your mind filled and go for some meditation classes. believe in god and go regular outing with your friends. try to avoid the situations and things which remind you about that guy. all the best for your future life.

Hi. I too had a very heavy heart when a relationship of mine ended and I just had to work my way through it...it took me a year before I truly felt 'human' again. Normally it takes me about a month or two but this one really had potential and I was just so shattered by the experience, it really took time for me to pull myself together. Eventually I did and now things are much better. :-) Give yourself time to recover and if you do find someone who really treats you well I honestly hope for the best. If not, get yourself out of it as no one deserves to go through all the emotional turmoil again. Be well, safe, and happy! We all deserve it!

Ah, honey it will get better. I was where you are, and I got over it, but it took a long time. Just remember why you left, and if you went back, would things be any different. Not usually. Just hang in there, time will heal you, and you will be happy again. Just be good to yourself.

Its ok. Now a days everyone like that. But you should not to like that.

I myself have been in this situation. As you have stated, yes time does heal. The true question that you have to ask yourself is, do you feel as though you deserve better? Were you happy in that situation? The pain will eventually pass. It may take a while, but when you build yourself up and improve things in your personal life, you will eventually reassure yourself that you do deserve better and the pain and sadness will eventually go away. Self growth is the cure for every broken heart.

I think many of us have been through painful break-ups, and the adage "time will heal" is true, but it doesn't exactly say how much time it will take! Back in my youth my girlfriend wanted to be together to much that we moved away because so many people were against it. It was like a dream for about 3 months and then one night we were invited to a party and she changed. She started flirting with this other guy for no reason at all. We have not had words or argued at all and I couldn't understand it. When we got back from the party she was a different person. I stayed with this for about a week feeling very confused as I had given up everything back in my home town. In the end I couldn't stand it any more and went home. I continued to hurt badly and one night phoned her up to say I was going back and perhaps we could start again. She told me that the guy she had been flirting with at the party had moved in with her. That was it. Over. I was miserable for a few months, and then one day I couldn't even remember her face. I was still a little upset, but it was a sign that my mind was letting go of her and slowly my feelings for her began to disappear too. I was then on my own for about two years and not really looking for anyone, when I met the girl who later became my wire. I hope the responses you are getting will help things to be easier for you. I know it is one of the worst feelings of loss that I went through back in my early 20s. We can move on. I proved that to myself.. _Derek

For me with some break ups,it took along time! Like years! I probaly should not of but I didn't know better! Love stinks and this on my long list of why I will not go through that again! I went through alot of therapy over the years thanks to break ups! I don't suggest anyone to do it because some of experiences were a waste of time! Love hurts but you'll get over it..........in your own time!

en I don't know what to tell you as I am not an expert when it comes to this. I also had my heart broken once-and that was real hurt. Indeed it's "time is a great healer" and time will tell. I was able to moved one- and now I can smile when people ask about him. There is no more pain left, no hatred but emptiness. As if he's never been a part of my life- although I have my kids as living proof. Acceptance is the best remedy to cure a broken heart. Accept that he will never return and gone forever- then you can moved on. You will soon find yourself free, happy and contented. You will realized that life without him is much better and freedom is the best gift he had given you. Uhmn...I guess I've said too much

Hello ene: The comment I'm writing is probably the #10, I haven't seen your response on the previous comments, which you normally do quite promptly, which means you are perhaps still in low spirits. This is a matter to be concerned about you! Especially since I haven't logged in in the last week to ten days and haven't interacted. On the specific issue, well I won't tell the cliched 'I'm so sorry for you' though it doesn't mean I don't feel for what happened and how has it left you. Yes, it is true that it is difficult to get over and take your thoughts & mind completely away from it; it is also true that time is the best healer; but if you don't try to force yourself into other pursuits, it takes a lot longer. It is a matter of mind & sentiments and if you have been intimate with someone, it is difficult to erase all the impressions that mind tries to recollect like wiping a duster. Life is like that; it is a journey with intermediate stops & stations; one undergoes different experiences along the way. Some good and long lasting; while some good while they last but turning negative at times. We must move on. To the next one. At times, we find an opportunity to revisit some place that didn't offer good first experience. We will have to take things in stride. You are capable of dealing with all and you will take control of your emotions. Wish you well.

You cannot move on unless you still cares and he's still special. It's hard and really frustrating when time seems to move so slow. I know you're strong...you'll get better soon..

I am sorry about your situation right now!I know how it hurts to be broken out of love, but you must have to move on, you must keep your self busy and don't just seat on a corners with tears spending all the tissues on the store, this will only make you in despair. Get up girl, make more friends, entertain new admirers and find the best man for you. "If love was the problem,then love will also be the solution". No need for a replacement but you need a new love from other friends.