Can you a stray cat to become friendly?

Select an area where you feed every day, make sure that it stays the same each day. Don't move it and make sure that it is in a open area where there isn't anything that would threaten the cat and there isn't much going on around the spot. When you put out the food, stay near by and stand or sit quietly. Keep doing this so the cat gets used to your being around. Then the next week move a little closer to where he is eating. Keep this up until you are very close. Don't try to pet him yet, but let him know you are there. You're trying to build up trust. Finally, slowly reach down so that he can smell you. Don't try to rush him by trying to pet him right away. Just keep letting him smell you and get used to your hand close to him. He'll let you know when it is okay to pet him. When that happens have some sort of treat for him, like a bowl of milk, a piece of meat, a kitty treat or whatever he might like as a treat. Don't rush making him become friendly. Sometimes it will take a month or better for gaining their trust. If you can manage to feed him when he is around it will make the process much easier. Also when you feed him, call "Here Kitty Kitty Kitty" so he gets used to the sound of your voice and associates it with something good. When you reach the point that he is eating with you standing there, softly talk to the cat. It doesn't matter what you talk about, but do it in a soft soothing voice. It gets the cat used to your voice and also associates it with something good...FOOD! The biggest point is to gain the cat's trust. I have worked with lots of stray cats and gotten them tame to the point that I can pick them up and pet them. But it took nearly two years for me to be able to pick up the last one, Ralphie, and hold him. DON'T TRY THAT RIGHT AWAY, YOU'LL GET SERIOUSLY CLAWED AND WILL NOT BE ABLE TO TAME THE CAT!!!! Ralphie isn't very comfortable with my picking him up and carrying him, but he will tolerate it on occasion.

I have the same problem when it comes to elusive cats.Why not try this.When he's eating catch him & make him familiar w/your scent so that you could touch him.

Cats go where they are wanted. Soon this cat will adopt you! We had a cat that had strayed in. He was a mere kitten then. He disappeared one fine day never to return. But lately he came here but our dog will not have him.

If you really want to adopt him some day, just keep doing what you're doing. Like someone else said, he'll decide if he wants to stay. Don't force him into anything. He'll come to you when he's ready. Good luck!

How cute! I actually have adopted two feral cats before. My first was was a very bold one and simply approached my back yard stairs to the house for food. She came every day and eventually warmed up and slept on the stairs during the day time. My second one was a kitten that got abandoned by his mother at the back of my shed. He hid in there for several days and I simply put food in a bowl near the shed and sat far way to watch. Several days later, he warmed up with my presence there each day and I adopted him! Just take your time and keep your distance and move a little closer each day.

It will take time and patience. My STormy Blue was a stray kitten who hung with a couple feral cats I feed. He would run when I would appear with the food - only coming out to eat if I stood a distance. Over time, I was able to get a bit closer. Until finally he started coming out when he saw me appear with the food. But he wouldn't let me touch him. then, one day,a few weeks later, I was standing there while the cats were eating, talking to someone, when I felt something on my knees. Stormy had his front paws on my knees! I reached down and petted him and he didn't run! Soon after, he became extremely affectionate, as if to make up for lost time. He is fixed, shots, in my home now. And you would never know he once was a feral cat! It's easier to "tame" feral kittens. But with your brown tabby- give him or her a name. Stand still - but from a distance - while he eats. Inch a bit closer each day. and don't forget - once he is used to you, you'll want to trap him or her and have the cat fixed, and get shots. If you do that and bring home the cat during it's recovery,chances are the cat will be sleepy for a day or so from the anesthesia. That's another good time to "bond". It's not impossible - just difficult at times. Usually a cat on the street has been mistreated in the past. It takes time to trust.

Even if he's a stray cat, he comes from a line that has already been domesticated by man for centuries or maybe further back to the time of the Pharoahs and beyond, so it's already in him to be friendly to humans, it's already in their genes although being animals they still have that wild instinct for self preservation similar to us humans. So why not? He can become friendly and trusting with love and patience.

I just get 2 cats like that try to saying mew mew while he is eating and try to touch it but don't let him afraid from you do that for some days SO Congratz

You've been given some really good tips on how to capture your stray cat's heart :). Patience, consistency, and most importantly respect. He sounds clearly timid due to abuse, poor dear :(. I've had strays show up and my grandma and I used to put out a small bowl of cream and it always kept the cats around LOL! My grandfather even had one; we named him Tom he was this gorgeous Black and White cat. Well Tom used to love to lay along on my grandfather's shoulder's! It was rather sweet, as granddad used to show us how upset he was about the cat, and here he was making friends with him lol.

There is this cat, she is so aggressive! She comes and get food and I feed her. When she is around I don't give her my look, because for her it is a threat. I walk but my peripheral vision is with her, lately she is not so aggressive like before, when I sit near her, she does not do all her riots. :)

We used to have a stray cat that came to my mum's house every once in a while for feeding. Eventually he got comfortable with getting closer and closer while we watched him eat. It took many months, but ultimately he became another of our cats, spending inordinate amounts of time sitting in the kitchen windowsill. The desire for food often overrides the fear of humans in feral cats from what I've seen.