do you choose your friends to be?
By eunife
@eunife (165)
Philippines
February 28, 2012 10:20am CST
i always hear people saying "you should choose good friends". yet in my experience i have not been in a position to choose. like i would say "i choose this person to be my friend so i go with him/her." my friends came into my life unexpectedly. my best friend is from my childhood neighborhood. of all the kids around me that time, i remember being stuck with her all the time and we enjoyed each other's company. as we grew older, the friendship grew unnoticed until i realized that she is what i can call my "bestfriend forever" like we say it. when i became a teenager and until now, i do not choose the people i mingle with but as i interact with them, friendship grows. there is a bond that is slowly engulfing and tying us together and i find them leaving foot prints in my heart.
can we really choose who our friends will be ? or are they like gifts that are wrapped in different ways and it is for us to discover what's inside?
11 responses
@theblackblood (18)
• United States
28 Feb 12
1- Good Friend hard to find , harder to leave and impossible to leave
2- true friendship never end Friends for ever
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Mar 12
I think that the friendships that we have in our lives that grow into being the friendships that will last for the rest of our lives are friendships that start by chance. For example, my best friend and I have been friends since we were both teenagers. We were acquaintances at first, but because I was dating her brother at the time, we also spent a lot of time with each other.
Well, we lost touch for many years, but when our paths crossed again, we were able to pick up right where we'd left off and from there our friendship has grown even stronger.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
29 Feb 12
I guess your are those lucky ones which have good friends landing in your doorsteps, which your should cherish and keep , good friends are rare nowsdays because many will abandon and disappear because of own family commitment , betrays, jealous, infighting for girls moneys and such and sooner will argue and fight.Howeve, only few have close good friends.
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
Hi eunife,
By "choosing friends" you observe certain people first and then decide if you'll befriend them. It sounds prejudice but I'd say that I might be doing that unconsciously but I try not to judge them with my first impressions. I don't want to be rejected as a friend also but I won't force myself to someone who doesn't appreciate me. I usually get true friendship in people whom I least expect it from so try to get to know them a little further even if they seem unlikely to be your friends.
@constabularyid (151)
• China
29 Feb 12
Hi! Personally I have got a lot of friends. Some of them are only casual friends, while I also have some close friends. I do not choose friends on purpose, but I will think it over before we know each others :)
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
we dont choose the people we meet but we choose the people who became our friends. Because we cant form a bond with another person if in some ways we dont have something in common or something in him/her that draws us closer. We may not be aware of it,but we are choosing who to be or not to be our friends.
@gypsygoth (244)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
i guess the expression "you should choose good friends" would mean that you should look out for friends who will always be there for you and accept you as who you are and help you get through everything from the happy times to the sad ones. we meet a lot of people in our lifetime and only a few remain and stick to us like glue and we later then learn which ones matter the most to us because even in our lowest times, they never left us and helped us to become the better person we are at the present. :)
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
I used to be picky when it comes to friends. But I realized if I keep on being picky I might regret that the one whom was in front of me would be a good friend of mine. I find it to be so wonderful when I met someone who I didn't expect to be my friends.
@vt689586 (584)
• India
28 Feb 12
well i think if we take such patient and concentration to make friend then i do think this friendship last long because it is look like a finding a business partner who always help you to grow your business.but if you want a good friend then don't worry you will find them automatically and you will become friend without any hard work.and if you are good from inside then why are you thinking about your friends?
@mauve02 (133)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
it is true that friends comes unexpectedly. They are surprised gifts that are given to us to help us a better person. But there are some people who comes into our lives whom we thought friends. There are some who only uses us or what we call friend with benefits, and there are also friends whom we can really call true friend. I think this is where choosing good friends comes in. It may take a long time to know who are true friends.
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
28 Feb 12
i've only had 3 best friends stay by my side no matter what went down we were always there for eachother but everyone else we once new in our childhood neighborhood and hungout with at school aren't the same anymore they dont say hi to us or want to hangout and have lost complete contact with us, we never knew what happened we had a pretty tight group of friends back then but i guess its just different in most towns cause thats what happens to every group of friends here after highschool they all just move on with there lives without us anymore, its weird but im ok with it i dont get out much anyways.
