Chatty or quiet

@sishy7 (27167)
Australia
March 1, 2012 11:50pm CST
In forums such this, do you think we can accurately tell if someone is chatty or quiet in person? When I see many postings from a member, I wonder sometimes if the person would actually be someone quiet in real life. Perhaps writing is an outlet for someone quiet to express their feelings?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
24 May 17
@sishy7 Good question actually. An ex friend of mine was very....blah when it came to text talk but in person she could talk quite a bit. I know for myself, I can be both quiet or chatty online and offline. But it depends on who I'm talking to and / or what the subject is about.
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
24 May 17
I'm definitely more chatty online... I don't talk much offline... I tend to just listen when others around me are having conversation...
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• Perth, Australia
23 Oct 17
@sishy7 I tend to be the listener as well. I'm not usually in the mood for talking unless it's a subject that really intrigues me. I usually find it relaxing listening to people talking around me than having to talk myself.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
23 Oct 17
@sishy7 I can attest to her online interactions. She can talk your ear off if she is on fire or just become a ghost.
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@Mashnn (4501)
2 Mar 12
I think it is hard to tell whether someone is a chatting or quiet type just by looking at the posting. I think you would probably be able to guess the personality of the person more depending on what type of discussions a person like to post and the type response or comments that she or he respond with.
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@Mashnn (4501)
3 Mar 12
Time will always be a factor. Most people will only show you the best side of them and unless you spend sometime to understand that person, it is really hard to tell.
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
3 Mar 12
You're right, we could only guess at best. For me, it's hard enough to tell someone's personality even face to face. Time would also be a factor; the longer we know the person, perhaps the better we would understand about the person's personality.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
I'm not really good at reading people's personalities. But I think it's still difficult to know for certain if they are quiet or talkative in real life based on the number of their posts. I mean, there are people who indeed use writing as an outlet. They could express themselves more in writing than when talking. On the other hand, some people who have a few postings doesn't also mean that they're not chatty in real life. There could be other reasons why they aren't able to post that many topics.
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
2 Mar 12
I didn't mean we can tell necessarily just by the number of posts; I suppose if we can tell at all from the content of a person's posts as well. Oh well, like you said, it will still probably be hard to tell.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
Yes, I know what you meant. I forgot to include the totality of a person's participation, and not only the number of his postings. Sorry about that. And I still think that it's quite difficult to tell if a person's chatty or not base on this as what I've previously explained :)
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@fantabulus (4000)
• India
25 Jul 12
I am chatty person and I like talking talking and talking till the person is not boring haha....just joking. I like talking but not everytime and with everybody. But I not like quietness.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
26 Jul 12
Sounds like you are just a fun person to be with... Do you chat online as much as you do offline? Or do you just prefer to be chatty with someone face-to-face?
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
30 Aug 12
Hi, I think we can not tell accurately if someone is chatty or quiet in person from his responses or discussions. I am very talkative but I feel sometimes uncomfortable while giving responses but my son is less talkative. But he can express his ideas very well than me.
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
30 Aug 12
Hi there, I know how your son expresses his ideas through writing... I follow his many interesting topics here... So he is more reserved in person, isn't he?
@Shavkat (140053)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
It depends, we can't tell the behaviour of a person through this forum. It is more essential to read the person up close. In my opinion, not all are like this kind of type.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
15 Aug 12
Yeah, it is so easy to add some degree of disguise online. Face-to-face interactions are more accurate to grasp a person's behaviour. Someone we meet online could possibly be totally different when we meet him or her personally.
• United States
2 Mar 12
it could be hard to tell accurately about someone's personality. as for me, yes i am quiet in person, till you get to know me, then i never shut up. :) mylot gives me the opportunity to "speak" to others that i may not say anything in person. plus, having two men in the house, i'm always being overspoken or what i say gets ignored.
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
3 Mar 12
I think it's safe to conclude that, yes, it's hard to tell accurately. Now I start to think perhaps these forums attract quiet personalities more than the chatty ones. Real life interactions maybe more interesting to those who are talkative.
@succeednow (1633)
• Singapore
2 Mar 12
Hi sishy7, I don't think you can tell for sure whether someone is chatty or quiet from the number of posts he or she makes. It could well be a person who is quiet by nature but because he or she wants to earn some money he /she is 'forced' or 'motivated' to write as many posts as possible. But I think there's a high probability that that person is more talkative if he/she writes a lot especially on all kinds of topics. Just my opinion. Have a nice day.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
2 Mar 12
That's what I meant; I guess I didn't make myself too clear when I started this. I meant from one's posts (number irrelevant), could we guess if the person is quiet or chatty in real life? Enjoy your week end.
@xiaobing (235)
• China
3 Mar 12
It is a very interesting topic. There exists what you mentioned in this discussion. Someone often post many discussions and give many responses to other's discussion, but they are quiet in real life. The reason is that it is easy to find more topics they love in forums like Mylot than their real life.
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
3 Mar 12
So forums such this can be an outlet for those who are having problem socializing in real life. Here they do not have to confront the other party face to face when they are expressing their opinion; something that is probably hard for them to do in real life. Sorry if I don't really make any sense; it's half past midnight here and I should be sleeping already
• Canada
2 Mar 12
I am generally a very quiet person, I usually am more of a listener than someone who is chatty you learn much more by listening that you ever could talking is how I think about it. It's nice to post and get different points of view from various people someone unbiased to the situation.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
3 Mar 12
Sometimes I just want to simplify that writing=speaking=chatty and reading=listening=quiet. But I know it's not that simple.