Can they take them?

I don't think that could lead into separation with your kids. The reason you want to talk with a therapist is because you want to unload some hidden feeling that you never find someone trusted enough to share with. Besides, you're not doing bad things to your kids- so there is no ground/s for them to be taken away from you -all because you've talked with a therapist.

Many people go to a therapist or counselor or they have "chats" with their docotor or people who experience the same as they do. They can help you to put things in order, advice you, or help you to find solutions or think in a different way so you can help yourself. I think there is nothing wrong with asking for help if you need it, no matter what kind of help it is. It depends on what it is if they take your children away from you. But as long as you treat them well I don't think they will (or you must have a very mean counselar). This besides of the fact that a therapist, doctore etc are not allowed to talk about you or what you said. They have to keep secret what you tell them during counseling. What you can do is this: write down what is bothering you, no matter what it is, no matter if it's a huge problem or just something small annoying. See if these things have something in common. Is it actually the same "problem"? How do you feel and what would you like to change about it? What can be a solution to your problem? (you probably can find a lot of info/advices on the internet as well. Same with self helping groups). Make time for yourself, to think, to be with you, to grieve, to get angry or ... This is all part of life. What is your goal? Write down possibilities to get there. Be aware there are many ways to reach your goal but it all will take time as well. Keep focused on your goal (no matter if it's small or big), not at the holes in the road.

I;m not sure, but I don't think that that alone would be reason enough to take your children away from you.

hi lovingmybabies I really don't see thow they could as tons of moms have things happen in their pasts they need a little help on. this does not mean a person is nuts at all. I think you would be very safe in talking to a therapist as you are an excellent mom and nobody thinks otherwise. I have never heard that before and I too am here in the US. See a counselor as it could really help you and do not be afraid anyone will take your kids from you at all. In fact moms who see therapists are generally the best of moms. I think whoever thought that is a bit nuts themselves not you.Sometimes mylot can offer therapy but sometimes you need more help than that. Talking it out to a counselor could be the best thing you ever did for yourself.

Your kids would never be taken away from you if you go to a therapist or counselor. You should definitely make an appointment with a therapist and get the help you need and don't worry about your kids. The therapists are there to help you find your inner strengths and to help you solve your problems by yourself. They can really help you to increase your inner strength, your self-confidence and basically help you move on. It is the social services that sometimes take away the kids from their parents but that is only when they deem that you aren't a fit parent or that the kids are in danger with their parent. So, I really encourage you to go to a therapist and get the help you need...

Loving - I daresay your 'source' left a few things out of the story regarding the children being taken away. The therapist would have had to have genuine concern for the children's safety in a legal manner for the visits to have resulted in the children being taken away. You should feel safe in the knowledge that the most sane thing you can do is to go and talk to someone about your problems. Fair play to you.

I do think they can turn you in if they feel that the children are in danger or being abused. I have always worried about the same thing.

Unless you tell them you harmed your children or that you think of harming them, I don't see how they could take your children away.

My uncle married a girl who is Schizophrenic & it only showed up after she gave birth.One time,she assaulted her daughter so her daughter escaped & sought refuge in our house & we kept her because we felt that the environment she lives in is not healthy & she also had counselling sessions because of the trauma she went through with her mother.You are making a correct decision in seeing a therapist because you wouldn't want to make matters worse for you not like with my aunt,she didn't accept her disorder until one time BOOM!She started hurting random people & even assaulted her daughter.If you haven't done anything like that to your kids or if they are growing up in a healthy environment,then I don't see any ground why they'll be taken away from you.

If you have problems and need the help of a professional that is all important. You would have to really act strange and not be responsible for the authorities to take your kids away. I have been to counselors and they have actually given me guardianship of kids.

Well! if it is some baggage from the past you want to get rid of, I am sure that no one will take away your children. If you think that, it is too much of a risk, please talk to your pastor. These are good people who listen to you, pray for you, give some practical advice and help you out of your situation, all of this unconditionally. I have found that talking to someone about some of my problems lighten my burden, hope you experience the same too. Good luck!

Just go ahead with your plans.If you would like to talk to someone to sort things out which have been bothering you then do it. I don't think that anyone who seek the advise of a therapist or counselor could mean he or she is crazy. These people are professionals and could really help us to have peace of mind. I guess they will only take the custody of your kids if they found out that you are unfit to care for them.

I would assume that depends on what the issues are. I have a therapist and I go regularly. My evil ex has custody of the kids. SO I guess for me I would not have to worry about that. I would have to say as long a it has nothing to do with hurting your children or anything like that, then I cannot see a problem with it. But, that is your decision.

I there! The first thing I did was look to see where you live before answering. You are from the States like me :) They cannot take your children away just because you go and talk to a therapist or phycologest. I have young children myself and have talked with one because of issues in my childhood and problems I have to this day with family. It really helps to talk about it and think about the thngs they have you think about. I was so messed up from the past and they listened and we talked. No one jumped to conclusions and my kids were not taken away. I think if you feel the need to talk with a therapist, then you should go. See if you can find someone to watch the kids so you can talk freely and not be interrupted specially if they are so young that they have a hard time sitting still. It is also best, if they do not hear what you are saying if your children are old enough to understand. If you must bring them with you, then see if you can have a friend come with you to care for the kids in the waiting room, this way you can talk. Good luck. It will be fine.

I believe the only time they can break the confidentiality thing is if you tell them you ARE going to kill yourself instead of just saying you feel like it. Also if you tell them you ARE hurting your children then its possible they could be taken away but if you are just depressed or something and need to talk to get help there is nothing wrong with that and it is not grounds to have your kids taken away. In fact they view it better usually that you are trying to get help.

Hi lovingmybabies. It's my understanding that anything you talk to a counselor or therapist about is patient counselor confidential at least with psychologists and psychiatrists which would mean they aren't allowed to tell anyone. That should protect your children.

Honestly I haven't heard of that but I doubt it if they will tray to take your kids away from you. The only thing I could think about that if you are totally mentally ill, and it is not because you are counselling. You have the reason why you want to talk to a counselor or a therapist just because you want a peace of mind about your past.

NO I do not believe that your children can be removed from your care for speaking to a therapist. You would have to be deemed an unfit mother to have your kids removed from your care.