Church or civil wedding?

You know what I hate with the kind of mentality and the concept of people? That when it comes to Church wedding it is expensive but then in terms of Civil that is for couples who are lacking of budget. Again that is a BIG NO NO!!!! kind of mentality. First of all the Church will never require you to wear a gown and prepare something big like a fairy tale. They don't even care about the reception especially for having cakes, toss, catering, dove kissing and other traditional things as we actually have seen on the usual weddings. The Church would only CARE! that the couples should be blessed for being LEGALLY MARRIED. In fact nowadays there are Catholic Churches who are offering wedding rite, it is like a baptismal that you are not going to march but you will be directed to the altar. But then it has no mass, I think it is just like wedding vows. In fact even Manila Cathedral offers that kind of package especially for those couples who are in budget. Aside from that there are some Churches who are offering FREE wedding but just to remind you it is not the solo wedding that is what you call KASALANG BAYAN (Wedding of the Town). Just keep in mind that having WEDDING INSIDE THE CHURCH is all about FAITH and CELEBRATION OF LOVE within the couples. You know why it is becoming expensive? Just because of the demands of people and the couples. Because of the materials and the suppliers as well. Whereas you can think of innovative ways on how to budget expenses when you are going to have wedding inside the Church. There is an article about Manila Archbishop Luis Antonio Tagle regarding his opinion about Church wedding. http://ph.news.yahoo.com/tagle-scores-gimmicks-weddings-145138450.html At some point I am totally agree with him that being so much dramatic is not necessary in Church weddings and it has nothing to do with the faith. As for me the concept of Civil Wedding is only recommended if your religion is different or the two of you has different religions that one of you doesn't even want to change it. That is just about for the sake that your marriage will be legal. Another thing to remember here is that RECEPTION is just like a celebration of thanksgiving because your visitors were able to witness your marriage. So treat also your visitors as your WITNESSES and choose all the right person that you want to become your witness for your marriage. Always remember what you are celebrating here is MARRIAGE! and again and again and again all over again WEDDING is about celebration of MARRIAGE. This is not family reunion, gimmick of your classmates and friends, nor fiesta that you are even obliged to invite all people in your baranggay. What you can do here is that leave your wedding inside the church then you can have your own party at the reception. Therefore my advise here is that CONTINUE YOUR WEDDING INSIDE THE CHURCH! and change your point of view regarding having wedding in Church and Civil.

Congrats on your engagement, and I'm with your friends. I would say if you can't afford it right now, get married in a civil ceremony and then when your budget allows it, have the wedding of your dreams. It can be like a renewal of vows for you guys. Much blessings on your intended marriage :)

could it be possible to have a minister to perform the ceremony and have it take place outside? that's what my husband and i did. we got married in our front yard and had the minister come to our house. or maybe there's a place that's very special to both of you and try to have the ceremony there. good luck to both of you. congratulations

hi there, everyone dreams to have a church wedding but you can't force it if you don't have that much budget. you can have it in civil. it doesn't matter, it is still the same sacrament i have just been to a very wonderful wedding 3 weeks ago. it is the best wedding i have been to, so far. they spent $42,000 and that is about P2,000,000 already. the venue and how much money you spent on your wedding doesn't really count in a long and lasting marriage. but i advise you you can have a civil wedding for now and when you have enough money for it and are ready for the church wedding, then go for it and anyway, congratulations to you both and i wish you happiness in your marriage

It depends on how much money you can afford. If you have enough money, marry on the church. But if you don't have, just go for a civil wedding. But in some cases, partners go for both. They first marry in the civil and and they'll go for a church wedding when they already have money to afford it.

It does not matter if it is a civil or a church wedding,What matters most is you love each other.Nowadays we sometimes need to be practical and make big sacrifices.If you ask my opinion,I'd rather save the money that intend for the church wedding for the future.Civil weddding is fine.But if you really want a church wedding,you can do that later if you have enough money to spend.

You can always get married in the church if you wanted to. A priest will reject to celebrate a sacrament of matrimony because the bride was not wearing a gown. Neither he won't allow to marry you because you don't have a cake or a big reception. Just work around you budget. If you have P20,000, then I think a wedding can be held. You can always buy a simple white dress for the occasion, have close relatives/friends (around 20 to 30 pax) to witness the union. You can eat at a nearby Mcdonalds or Jollibee or any establishment that offer P100/head meal. "ïf there's a will, there's a way".

If you don't have the budget for a church wedding but needs to get married now the civil wedding is the most practical way to do it. Church weddings are expensive you need to really prepare for it. Your friends are right, have the civil wedding first, then when you've gathered enough funds, then have your dream wedding. Congrats!

as much as possible do your wedding once. sometimes if you make the civil wedding first, you may not be that interested or thrill with the church wedding after. you may have a simple church wedding and you can save by personally doing all the details. you can make your invitation, souvenirs and other details. i personally do all the details in my wedding and for doing this you need months of preparation but its all worth it.

In my country the only legal wedding is civil. If you are married in church it's not legal so officially you are not married. Now the question is what is important to you? Although you don't have the money for it now you can also decide to first get married in church (if religion is that important to you) and later (even if it's years later) have your civil marriage. Or the other way round.

There are many things you can do if you really want a Church wedding or to go through a church. One you can save a lot of money by doing it yourself. Like by sale wedding dress that is a sample size. I got my wedding dress for $112 although me and my husband did choice to get married earlier then we planed and did do a civil wedding but that was what we wanted and it made us happy. Now we are planning our big wedding when its our 5 year anniversary 3 more years till then. We are having our kids in our wedding so that will be nice but we are doing it all ourselves since we are already married we don't need to pay for a certificate to get married again. You can find a lot of things online for really cheap. There are books to help women plan there wedding I would check those our. We are doing our own cake for our wedding making it ourselves and letting people decorated them there selves since I have frosting.

hello friend, Every women have a dreaming to had a church wedding but sometimes it is only a dream because of lack of financial,but if you are creative and full of clever your wedding is in a church,but if you are a practical women and youre thinking future maybe is it okay to a civil.

Both of them are ok for me.....As long as they will wedd.

If both of you feels like it is the perfect time to get married then get married. Whether it is church or civil , it would not matter. I assume you are Catholic,that is why you are having this dilemma. I know that when you are catholic , you would prefer to have a church wedding and yes it is very expensive to get a church wedding. The cheapest way is the civil, and yes you can save for the wedding later. But sometimes when you get married in civil and start the married life, priorities change and the money you save for the church wedding might be diverted to the other needs. That is the reality. It is up to both of you. Marry if both of you are ready and if not then you might want to postpone it in the meantime.

It does not really matter if it is a civil or church wedding. What matters most is the love for each other. If you know you are in a good relationship, it won't even matter where the ceremony is held. A church wedding can really be expensive so you should be practical. Many have found themselves in deep trouble for being in debt just to have a grand church wedding. You will be starting your married life in trouble if you try to pursue something which is not affordable. The marriage contract is the same whether the ceremony was held in civil rites or in church. There is no difference since the contract is legal and binding.

As long you exchange your vows it's good enough.