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Hi Doryvien! I, too, married late and had my first child at age 33. My boys are now 23 and 24. There's a lot to be said about having children later--all your partying is done and your wild oats are sown and you're ready to settle down. You've lived enough to be able to give your children really good advice because you've been through all the same things. Any wrong your children do at any age you've probably done yourself and you can be more understanding about it and know what works as discipline or guidance. I hope your move goes well and your family thrives in your new home!

@dragon, At first I didn't want to get married coz I didn't want the "burden" of having children and having to live with a stranger for the rest of my life. But I as go near the age of 30 I was beginning to falter in my philosophy, started feeling scared of growing old alone, and started imagining how it is to have children and a family. So eventually I decided I wanted to get married. Good that my (then) boyfriend agreed to marry me. I'm glad I did marry, have no regrets so far. The best part is seeing my kids grow. You're right, when I decided to finally settle down it was because I felt I have "been there, done that" and it felt like, what's next for me now? My family gave me a new perspective in life and losing the "freedom" is sure worth it.

Helo Doryvien, where are you moving to? How exciting! I married early, to early. And as dragon says, it's better to wait. But I try and find the positive, I was young enough to remember, to relate to what my kids were going through when they were teenagers. We kinda grew up together. It is good that you found a career that brings you fulfillment. I am in the midst of a career change myself. I was a medication technician, passing meds. in a nursing home. Now, I am in school studying business technology, and working part time as a medical records clerk. It is a bit stressful at my age, learning so many new things. I'm hoping to get an Associates degree in business technology. One more reason to get all that behind you when you are young. School is harder when you are old. lol I hope you and your family find your new home to your liking. Thanks for responding. I hope we can become friends.

Thanks to you dragon, for being the friend you are to me here on myLot. I have a bit of Scots and German too. Some Italian and a wee bit of Native as well. Here in America, it all blends together nicely. I am with you on the cockroaches! Had to deal with them for the first time in my early married days, when all we could afford was a tiny tiny walkup apartment in the city. YUCK Enjoy your new grandbaby! I look forward to hearing all about her/him soon!

I don't think I can ever love reptiles, no matter what kind. They scare me like no other. Cockroaches are so common where I live so they don't affect me that much, except when they fly - that freaks me out.

They FLY???

I am like SCG on the politics...I really hate them and have often not voted because honestly...I don't trust any of them and also often have second-guessed myself on that. I have at times voted for whom I feel is the least harmful but not sure that does much good. I really do hate politics and can't remember the last time I felt good about my vote and continued to feel good about it after the election. Rock is my main choice of music. My boss insists on making us listen to country while at work and I will grudgingly admit that some of it has gotten me. Here is a perfect meeting of real rock and country. I stumbled upon it on youtube quite by accident because I do not watch the CMt awards... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jbbIvGVQqKk

I am sorry to hear of your divorce. I've been there and I know how you feel. For awhile after I divorced, I dated. But I found that there was no one worth changing who I am. I am Christian too. That helps me a lot, when I am lonely. I would love to raise a big garden. I did for a few years. Had a small one last year. But this summer is going to be so busy, I don't know if I'll have the energy. lol Good luck with your dream, trust God to provide and do what you are doing to make it happen. I love some country. The Dance is one of my favorite songs. I also like Red Rag Top by Tim McGraw. And You're Not My god by Keith Urban. Country music sometimes makes me cry. It's all over the radio here in Missouri where I live, and I listen to it when I need a good reason to bawl. I understand about not wanting to vote for the wrong person. I have that fear too. But after 9/11 I decided I could not complain unless I did something about it. So, here I am doing what I do. I'd like to see more of you SomeCowgirl. I'll try and post more varied discussions so you will visit more often. OK? Thanks for stopping by and hope to see more of you.

Wow, Steve Tyler and Carrie Underwood. What a pair. lol Never thought I'd see that. Hello Sid, thanks for responding. I'm hearing that a lot, about voting and not feeling good about it. Perhaps I am on the wrong path. I try so hard to educate people about the issues. Lately, I've been feeling that there really is no 'fixing' it. But then my father's words haunt me. Don't complain if you did nothing, or something to that effect. You're lucky to get country, we get MUSAK. Canned music, they call it.

I remember when I had a house full of little rug rats. lol Boy, was I ever tired. all the time tired, are you like that? I played down on the floor with mine, we made up plays and sang and did all kinds of fun things. I also homeschooled. That was real fun. My boys were all born the first five years I was married. Real close in age. I did not sleep for years. ha ha You seem to have a bright outlook on life. You mention cervical cancer, I had the same, and had a hysterectomy at 36. It was scary, I was so afraid of leaving everyone behind. Make sure you do exactly as the doctor says. ok? I'll pray for you that all will be as it should be. I know Adele's music, and you're right a BIG voice. I like Rolling in the Deep. My granddaughter's sing with and dance so cute when they hear it. Alexa is six and she is a dancing fool. lol I grew up Catholic, went to Catholic school for six years. I give the credit for any good that came out of my education to those nuns. I'm told I have very pretty penmanship, lol...you better if nuns taught you to do script. I thank you for your kind, nice words to me. It is very sweet of you. Being online comes natural to me now, it didn't back ten years ago when I got my first computer. Tell your mom I said come on and join us here. lol Hope to see more of you jazel_juan. God bless.

@Pointless, Haha, I like this iine so much: "They (politicians) tell you what you want to hear to get your vote and then do what they want." Same here in my country. They promise everything and once they win, they give nothing.

I am glad to know you pointlessquestions. I too, live my with my daughter and son-in-law and their four precious children. I am blesed to be so loved. I didn't follow politics either, until after 9/11, and then it all changed for me as it did so many other Americans. I do not trust as easily as you do, but I wish I could. I truly wish I could. God has blessed you with that. I worked as a medication technician up until recently. Now I am in school studying business technology, working part time in medical records at our local hospital. Years and years ago, I started in LPN school. Divorce happened and I did not finish. I did work as a CNA, certified nurse's aid, for over twenty years. Came to find from observation, that I was glad I never finished nursing school. THE STRESS, how did you ever manage? lol I am a student of alternative medicine now, my fondest dream is to become a naturopath. It will happen only if I win the lottery. lol My eyes are brown and my hair is salt and pepper now, it was auburn, dark brown when I was younger. Thanks for your response!

Sounds great, the hair I mean. lol I quit dying my hair cause it grows so fast I got tired of all the bother. lol I'm hearing of all these writing gigs online from you guys and wondering how to get involved, any clues?

I like to watch that too but I seldom saw that series we don't have a cable, I sometimes watch it online. I forgot to tell you that I'm a Filipina and I know you already knew some info about my country. I have a retail store before but unfortunately even the store runs good I got tired and it seems the effort I put in the business does not worth what I earn. So I decided to quit and concentrate on my part time job as a dance instructress. Thanks also for a great discussion it was a great pleasure to meet you even it only online. Take care and have a nice day always.

I have thought of trying to open a business. I'd like to run a preschool. I taught for four years in a private school, I homeschooled my children as well. I love teaching and yet, I am afraid the government here would make it most difficult to make it profitable. So, I settle for teaching my grandkids. I love the people of your country. I've known many and respect them all. And I'd love to visit the Philippines.

I like to watch Dancing With The Stars (a show with ballroom dancing in USA), as I wanted to be a dancer before I got married and had children. I love to watch, but probably would not be so good at it now. I was born in the city of Chicago, lived on and off in the city and I too prefer the country. It is much less stressful. I was a victim of violent crime when I lived in the city. I moved as far as I could, as soon as I could. I just cannot understand the violence people do to one another. I gave up on finding the perfect mate. I am living my life alone too. At times it is refreshing, at times I am lonely. I've learned to trust the emotional place I am in, and just go with the flow so to speak. I am hoping for you, that there is someone and you find joy. What type of business did you run? And I can definately relate to having pets as part of the family. If I lived by myself (I live with daughter and her family) I would have several too. My daughter and son in law have a Great Dane, and she is definately a part of the family. So sweet and gentle she is. She will stand for a long time with her head in my lap letting me scratch her ears. I think she wants to crawl up in my lap, but that would be a disaster! lol Thanks for your response lynboobsy. I'm glad to meet you.

I've read so much on the paranormal and also religious beliefs from various religions and my take on it all was very similar. In the end, I know for certain no more than when I started. I prefer to just keep an open mind to the possibilities. History...used to be my "sleeping" class. I think so much depends on the teacher. NOW I find it facinating and love it. I'll have to look up Dave Mustaine...never heard of him but the lyrics are great! I can certainly see the link to Obama. I have to say again that I am loving this discussion. Talk of the music brings back so many memories. The Beatles, Creedence, Neil Young, Doors,Led zep, Pink Floyd etc etc.

Ok, I read the link and found it very interesting. Must add...He has amazing hair! now I'll go to youtube and check out his music. Thanks!

Hi sid, on the 60 & 70s, adolesent and teen memories flood my mind. Like I said above, I was a bit rebellious and don't like to go into all that.but the music did shape who I am. I try now, because some of it has gotten so...nasty, to limit what I listen to. But I definately can relate to even the music my grandkids listen to. I try to talk to them about the stuff I feel has crossed the line. My marriage was to my high school sweetheart, like you, very young. It ended (the first time) after 7 years. He quit drinking for a year, we remarried (my Catholic conscience) and almost immediately he began drinking again, I still tried to make it work. I think it was about 10 years I stayed. By the end of those years I was a mess. But thanks to my Faith in Jesus (new found) I pulled through, but it wasn't easy. Had some real serious problems with anxiety and depression. Went down the medication road, but found that alternative measures worked better, and I could function better. My oldest son is a Dave Mustaine fan. I lived with him after his divorce, to help out. I was on here myLotting, he was listening to music and reading. I was, as usual talking politics and Obama. lol Symphany of Destruction was playing. (Dave Mustaine) and the words just fit what I was feeling about Obama... You take a mortal man And put him in control Watch him become a god Watch peoples heads a 'roll A 'roll, a 'roll Just like the pied piper Led rats through the streets We dance like Marionettes Swaying to the symphony of destruction Sorry, but it just seemed to fit. If you take a look at the link, Dave Mustaine is a conservative and a born again Christian now, after years of wild living. That is why I feel that deep down he is a thinking man. Most rock stars could care less about politics or God. Anyway, I have family on the east coast. Would love to visit there and cross the mountains, see the capital and take a tour of civil war battle fields. If you don't already know, I love history! lol My personal opinion on the paranormal is that most of it is bunk. BUT, believing as I do in spiritual things, I do recognize that the unexplainable DOES happen. When it does, I am quick to try and find out what it was. I believe in miracles, and I believe that energy can be effected by the human spirit. Dose that mean I believe in ghosts, not so much. More so I believe in positive and negative energy. Like on those battlefields, so much fear and suffering does put out a vibe that probably stays there for a long long time. Like 'sacred spots' around the earth, something changes the energy. Whether it is good, or bad depends though. I do believe also, that some, a very few, do have an extraordinary sense and can discern when there is a change in energy. I believe in good and evil and that there is a battle for the mind and spirit of mankind. So, not knowing enough about it all, I tend to shy away from the paranormal. Thanks for stopping by and feel free to do so again. I am finding you ALL very interesting people!

hi jazel __juan thanks that so sweet and I try to be nice, honest I do.lol

and Ms. Hatley is very nice!

Hello Hately, good to see you! Boy I hope I am as good here on myLot when I am your age. I worked for a long time in nursing homes, and we had several of the ladies who used the computer for writing. One wrote a weekly column in our town's paper. MyLot does make one happy. I enjoy learning and boy can you learn a lot from other people. I'd love to read some stories from your life. That would make a great discussion, if you could come out of your shyness. I do puzzles too, and always buy the grandkids a puzzle for Christmas, then I can help them put it together. It sounds like you got it all together Hately. Hope to see more of you. And write as discussion on something from your life. I'd love to read and respond! God Bless. And thanks for stopping by.

Hi debrakcarey. Message dolls are these cute dolls that come with a little slip of paper. You write something on the paper, put it into a slot on the doll and then send it to friends or relatives. Manga is Japanese comic books. You read them from right to left instead of left to right in most.

Thanks for explaining that. You'd think I'd already know, I am living with three granddaughters. lol I was heavy into Superman when I was young. Watched the movies and it ruined it for me. Spiderman is big at our house now, with the girls. Imagine that.

Wow, Robert the Bruce, he knew my all time fav scotsman, William Wallace. I am most impressed. My nephew did ours on ancestry . com and he found we have noble blood, Cartwrights and Berryhills I believe. Got kicked out of the country for fighting the British. Came here to America and got rich all over again. The family must of came on hard times, cause I sure didn't see any of it. What are message dolls? Sounds interesting. I have one collection, rocks. Been collecting pretty rocks since I was a kid. My fav one is a piece of pipestone I got from the sacred pipestone in Minnesota, where my Dad was born. I also have lots of obsidian. I've polished it and I even have one arrowhead made of it. I've not always been good either dear. God is merciful if we ask for forgiveness. I find myself asking a lot. I get angry, I get fearful and I get selfish. I find when I pray about it, it's easier to keep from acting on it. Also, what is manga? I almost forgot to ask. Any way, thanks for dropping in and make sure you return. Ok?

Hello Alyssa. I've been to Minnesota. Pipestone, where my dad was born. I have a piece of pipestone that I treasure. It is the blood red clay like stone that the Natives made pipes from. Easy to carve. (you may have already known that) Yes, that does sound like the typical girl stuff for someone your age. I have in younger days been known to enjoy some of those things. Road trips especially. The only thing I didn't ever get into was shopping. I recently went out and got some new stuff only because I had to. I'm weird, hate to spend money. The only concerts I've been to are Nitty Gritty Dirt Band, Fleetwood Mac and Journey. I'd LOVE to go see some of the others I've mentioned in this discussion. But most of them are no longer together or they don't tour. I'm a BIG Steven Tyler fan, I love a guy who can reform and make things right between him and his family. I saw an interview of him by Oprah. I normally don't watch her, but was flipping through and caught it. Great story, his life. Enough of that, I'm just glad that so many are responding with the stories of their lives. Thanks!

This is so much fun! I'm getting a true sense of the people I talk to each day on here. We are the same age! lol I'm thinking its strange that those I've 'discussed' things with are so similar to me in ideas and life. I had a Welsh pony when I was a child. I used to just lay across his back and doze in the summer warmth. I haven't been on a horse is so long though. But I remember the 'connection' and wish I could have that again. My granddaughter Kayle wants a horse so bad. Maybe her folks will get her one and we can share. I think the 'connection' between horse and rider can be almost 'primal'. You already know that I love my country. Not what it has become, but what the 'ideal' is, what it was meant to be. And I agree, everyone should experience the history we all take for granted, or ignore. It is ok, about being misunderstood. I am often misunderstood, my mind runs 200 miles an hour, and I say something in a way that is easily misunderstood. I'm trying to slow it down, and think first. lol Babies should humble us. Baby animals as well. The innocence, the possibilities, the vulnerability and trust. All things we should ponder. I can relate. It's fun getting to know each of you guys. Thank you for your kind words, once again. I look forward to more discussions with you.

Great FUN!!!!

You seem like a strong woman. I respect that. I too, have never been happier. It is not a bad thing to grow older. For myself, it seems like I've overcome a lot. And I hope it has made me wiser. I'm sorry about your daughter's dog, I hope he/she is found soon. My oldest son is almost 39. I have only one daughter, and four sons who try me even now that they are grown. They all make me proud as they have overcome much. My daughter is my rock. She doesn't know that, but she is a wonderful, caring person and teaches me daily by her example. I wish I could travel like you, but I have to settle for the National Geographic channel or a good book that describes other cultures. What takes you to Hungary? Family? or just a pleasure trip? What does your husband do in Africa? As for my 'Irish temper', I guess its just a covenient stereotype. The Irish have always been fighters, I guess. And quick to speak their mind. I never really thought about why I see it as that, until you asked. I do not hold grudges. But I guess I do remember if someone hurts me or mine. I try to forgive, it takes to much emotional energy to hate. You are right, many people only mouth the words 'I'm sorry'. And its easy to tell when it is not really heartfelt. I wished for my children to wait to have their own children too. It is so difficult to be a parent, but I am pleased with my grandchildren. I do worry for their futures. My oldest grandchild just turned 19. I want her to live in a world where she can prosper and be happy.

WakeupKitty - you sound strong! plus you are lucky you get to travel.. how i wish i could. I find Hungary an interesting place!

I can see you love dogs, that's a cute picture. Your puppy? Thank you for being so kind, I try to post things that people can benefit from. I tend to be to serious in my topic choices, so this was a 'letting my hair down' kind of discussion, and I'm so glad I did it. I have five of my grandchildren who live out of state. I miss them so much and have missed so much of their lives. We chat via text and facebook but it is not the same. I LOVE myLot. I'm committed to this place and enjoy it more than facebook or any of the other social networks I've been on the last ten years. Glad you are enjoying myLot too! stop by more often. I'll try and be more apolitial. lol That will be hard. But if I post one discussion a week on other topics, maybe I'll see more of all of you great folks.

Hello Anne. I have often thought I'd love to visit the Philippines. I know quite a few of your countrymen/women and admire them all. At our hospital we employ a doctor who is Filipino. Dr. Goh. He is an admirable man. I respect him greatly. I too, looked young for my age up until my health took a nose dive. Now I just go with the flow and allow nature to take it's course. lol I also admire that you have roots and are happy in your homeland. I have an adventure streak and have moved around a lot. Now I am settled and find I am regretting not putting down roots sooner. There is a lot to be said for staying put. I admire that you choose only a few close friends too. That is how I am. I love people but only let a few get real close, even though I am open and not shy to tell about myself, it is scary to me to allow deep emotions to be shared. Thank you for telling us about yourself. I hope you will be visiting my discussions in the future.

Glad to meet you MandaLee. What sort of music do you like? Jesus is my Savior too. I love Him more than anything. I pray He gives me strength to be as much like Him as I can be. Your mon is your best friend, how wonderful! I hope my daughter and sons can say that about me! You must be a wonderful daughter. Thanks for responding Mandalee. God bless.

What type of singing do you do shirley2all? I do not have a singing voice but enjoy singing my favorite songs alone in the car. I can appreciate a good voice. It is interesting to hear your plans, I hope married life and babies bring you joy. I think it is best to plan, and to not let that most important part of life 'just happen'. Good for you and your boyfriend. Don't be pushed, do it as you both feel comfortable. I do advise living alone, if ony for a short time before marriage. When my marriage ended, and my kids were moved out it was a shock to me to be alone. A big adjustment. I can relate to your thoughts on communication too. It is a nice feeling to be inspired by another's ideas. Don't be shy about crying at movies. Movies are intened to move us emotionally. Just like music. It is normal and cleansing. God bless and thanks for responding shirley2all. I hope to see more of you here on myLot.