Paternal or not Paternal?

If you adopt a child that's mean you be ready to be he or her parent.You really accept them even though you're not their biological.As long as you consider they your child and love them,so you will see they will love you so much..

I have actually heard that biological grandparents are closer to their grandchildren than their own kids..lol. I think that one could love a child they adopted as much as their own. I think that love has a funny way of surprising us and we are biologically set up to accept other children if they are in need. It is a survival of the species kind of reaction but the gene spread thing is a bit stronger if there are genes to spread. In other words, if there are no other children..the ability to love a child as your own is normal but if there is a biological child introduced..there might be a difference in the way you felt about them. I think that people are adopt might be special kind of people too though.

Missy, one of my ex-friends before ever adopted a baby girl. She treated her like her own daughter since she can't have her own child. Now, twenty years had passed and her daughter is going to get married soon. I am happy that her daughter accepted she and her husband as her parents although they are not her real biological parents. Indeed, that baby girl is lucky to have found a very good parents.

I guess it really all depends on the person. Personally, I would probably consider it my own, if I was the one who raised as my own. I am definitely not against adoption I am actually all for it, it's not the children's fault that they were brough into this world with irresponsible and/or unfit parents, children need to feel loved, accepted, protected, unfortunately most kids in the foster care system aren't shown that, so if there is any slight of opportunity that they can be shown how beautiful the world is then I am all for it. But I do understand and know a few people that have the same mentality as you "If it's not biological that it's not really my kin" and trust I don't think there is nothing wrong with it.

If you decide to adopt a child then you you decided to be that child's parent. There would be issue here if it was your decision to do so. I do not have a child but there is a high chance that I might not have. If I can afford to adopt a child I will do so and treat her/him as my own. A lot innocent children born in circumstances they dont want. If I can give them a home, and a solid environment then that would be enough. They do not deserve to be their because their parents are/ were irresponsible. I just want to give them the bright future they can have.

Adopting is just an option if you were not able to have a child. However, if you are not at ease on this one I would suggest not to adopt one. This would be a disaster on your part and also on the child's one also. You should first think it over and willing to accept the consequences of having or raising a child that is not biologically your kin. About the question if it would be your grandchild, meaning if you don't have a child, that would be the son or daughter of your niece or nephew, correct? So it will still be biologically related to you,right? (Please correct me if I am wrong). Anyway, the answer would depend on your decision... You will be the one to decide since you will be the one that would take care and raise that child... But if you would ask me... I will take care and raise that child but I will not adopt that child legally so that if in case that child reach its age where he or she can decide for himself he still has a choice whether he would go back to his or her biological parents and since that child is my grandchild I will consider that raising my own grandchild... That is just me... :D

Personally there have been times in my life where if the situation presented itself, I would adopt. Even at almost 48 if I knew I could give the child a good home life, I know I could do it. Personally a child is a child, whether it is your own flesh and blood or not. I Love kids, and was never able to have any, but did have miscarriages. But financially except for God children, there has been nothing much I can do.

I lean the other way, family is in your heart as much as it is in your genes. That is how we were raised.

If my son had not been able to have children and had adopted, then his adopted children would have been my grandchildren just as his own children are. If someone adopts children then they become parents to that child, regardless of blood and genetic connections. It follows that their parents then become grandparents.

If my daughter adopted a child I would consider the child to be my grandson. Family is family, even if they are not biologically related. So, to answer your question, yes I would consider the child my grandchild.