Why do people remain in loveless relationships.

I have my suspicions about that guy being insane. If he did buy those things for her then it could be a defense mechanism called 'undoing' wherein he makes up for his misdeeds by doing something good, usually through buying material things for the one he has wronged. Your friend needs to wake up and love herself instead of this guy who is not treating her kindly. Everyone deserves to be respected and loved. She should take care of herself. Attaching herself to this guy is not really doing her any good and it is robbing her of the chances of a good relationship she might have with another guy who is much better than the one she is currently in a relationship with. I feel sad whenever a girl is treated like this. I will gladly donate this punch to people who hurt others like this guy did to your friend.

I feel sad for your girl friend. Continuing with their relationship is pointless. I guess she needs to stop it. The longer she struggles fighting for it, the pain gets more intense. That guy doesn't deserve your friend at all. She should find another man soon.:)

That is life! We love those who doesn't love us back! There isn't much you can do about it unless she realizes how she is wasting her time on that jerk. It is funny when there are people desperate for having love in their life and there are these fools who doesn't appreciate what they are blessed with! Sigh!

I don't know if I want to shake your friend or her boyfriend to get some sense into them! I understand how frustrating this situation is for you seeing your friend allowing herself to be "bullied" by this guy. He clearly considers her as a fallback. Maybe you friend can find someone else who loves her genuinely. Maybe, you can help her meet someone who deserves her. Maybe then, she will realize this guy is not the only one in the world.

It's not easy to accept that he doesnt love her anymore. But I think the best thing to do is to deal with it and move on. The guy is not worth because he treats her disrespectfully. In a relationship, there should be mutual respect. In my opinion, your friend is so in love and attached to the guy that it'll be hard for her to let him go. As a friend, you know what to do and you just hope that she understands that you are doing this because you love your friend.

Sometimes relationships need a change. He may want her to bring a little spice to the relationship. Sometimes men want something but don't know how to ask. If he is disrespectful to her than she must put her foot down. People will do what they can get away with. He may need a reality check. She should not allow him to mistreat her and he has to satisfy her needs as well. Change it up a little bit and I'm sure things will go in a whole different direction.

It is sad when you have to sit back and watch a friend hurt in this way. I do not know the answer to this perhaps she is living in the hope (false hope) that oneday he will change and become loving towards her. Hopefully in time she will have the strength to walk away on her own accord. He sounds very controlling and although he doesn't want her can't bear the thought of freeing her for someone else.

It may be that she is afraid she has no chance of love elsewhere, especially since this man doesn't seem to. And it becomes a routine and hard to get out of. ANd you don't know what he is saying to her when others aren't around. He may have brain washed her into thinking she is no good and no one else would have her. Sad but it happens all the time.

Many reasons: convenience, fear of being alone, fear of not knowing what is out there and them having to face the world alone, disrespect for ones self. None of them make sense except to the people that are going through it. I know a lot of people who stay together because they have a house and don't want the other to have it, or because of the kids, and so on. Many excuses and many reasons why they stay and suffer while they could be having the time of their lives. But really it's their loss and now way for anyone to really reach them and make them leave because this is something that they have to do on their own. If you push them, you run the chance of losing them from your life.

it really is hard to be in that kind of relationship. even though your friends tell you and force you too leave the boyfriend, it won't be easy because of the feelings. but we know, she is the only person who can decide about that, but it is good to have friends who advice you and not force you what to do, but rather just make you understand the whole picture and enlighten your mind because in the end, it is only you who can decide. if my boyfriend treated me bad, i would probably keep giving him chances to change but if he doesn't and even gets worse, then i think it would be enough. it won't be a healthy relationship and we are just going to be hurting each other all the time.

It is painful to watch your friend been treated like this. In most cases, these kind of people have problem with self esteem or something happened in life that make them believe that she deserve to be treated the way she is been treated.

That is very sad. Try to cheer you friend up. It is very hard to convince someone who is in love. Like your friend, she love that man so bad even he didn't treat her right anymore. Your friend didn't care and accepted those things coz she really love him. I used to be like that with my friend. I was very stupid tried not to listen to my friends that my ex didn't love me and had another woman already. But I ignored my friends because I still want my bf that time and I want him to choose me. But right now, I learned from it coz friends are the one who sees what's going on. I hope your friend will realize and wake up soon that she needs to dump her boyfriend.

I myself have a relationship where my boyfriend who talks to me in a disrespectful manner infront of or without people around, not meaning he's a bad person or nothing and it's not all the time, but I am aware of the fact he does it and I'm completly head over heels for the man, so I can see somewhat where her point of view and reasoning may be somewhat the same as I feel. I myself just can't come myself to ever really do something like leave or anything like that no matter how disrespectful a conversation may have been. Because, no matter how many or how bad the bad things were, it's the ONE good thing you always look for that makes you stay..because once you care about someone so much and are with them for so long, you're used to having a life with them, you get used to it, it's your every day and that is just hard to let go of! I'm not sure what to say about whether the gifts she got were really from him or if she bought them herself. I never buy myself anything, very rarely at least, so she may have or maybe not. If she's happy in the relationship then that's all that matters, but if he doesn't wanna be with her he shouldn't be dragging that on, that's just gonna make it harder and worse of a breakup..I hope this helped any at all, I hope things work out, wish you all the best of luck!!

i pity your friend.. just don't stop giving her advices, maybe one day she'll wake up and realize you are right.

Hi Nikhabele, My daughter is in such a relationship now and it tears me apart. They have a child together. My grandson is 14 months old. Throughout her pregnancy, he was so uninvolved and when he was involved, he was just plain mean. Can't tell you how many times I picked her up crying her eyes out because he "kicked her out" of their apartment. He is such a jerk and yet she is in a spot where she doesn't feel she can leave him as she has their baby to support.

I don't know your friend age and condition. How old is that guy? Who have any other girlfriend before he meet your friend.If not,maybe he don't how to deal with kind girl. and even he don't what real love it is. What mean is it? He can't get outside from single world and just pay attention himself feeling and benefit.As his gf, she must do decision and activity to leave away this.If she don't want, she also let him know how to deal with her.Maybe she can choose leave and spend herself vacation.For love, somebody who always receied much from others don't understand and ususlly to care about others. That guy just ask for and says" I'm pitful" It is selfishness. So let bad relation go, look for new world. Don't hesitate,move on.