Do you always look back to those people who help you before?
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
April 18, 2012 11:19am CST
My colleague lost her mother last week and since I'm here in my town and almost 3hours of drive to the big city I did not try to come to give my personal sympathy. I just texted her and send message on facebook. I was talking to Ann the other day to call my friend also her friend too and give sympathy for she done good things to her also in terms of job. This morning I ask her again if she already called our friend, she told me that she forgot. I told her to always look back to those people who help you a lot before, only giving sympathy is not too much. They need us to support them in some other ways even we did not come to the funeral at least she will feel our present that we never forgot her. And she replied okay Mama.
I know I must not expect people who I help before in terms when I'm in trouble, but did they have the same feeling of looking back to me if I needed them? Just I a thought.
How about you mylotters what's your view on this?
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17 responses
keep it up.
@else22 (4317)
• India
19 Apr 12
I agree with you,lyn.We all live in a society where there are many people who rush to our help when we are in need.Once they help us,we become obliged to them and then it becomes our duty to help them in turn when they are in difficulty.One of my friends was a teacher.He has been my childhood friend.He helped me every time when I was in trouble.It was he who helped me to get a job as a teacher when I was struggling with financial crisis.He helped me to be self sufficient financially.Recently he lost his young son in a road mishap.I got the news and rushed to console him.Now he is a broken and depressed man and I feel it is my duty to help him in rehabilitation.I have been visiting him everyday.Now he has begun overcoming his grief.It is my duty.He had helped me once.Now he is in in distress.Now it is my turn to help him.This is what society and humanity is all about.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
Yes I totally agree sometimes even it is not our responsibility, but still it is automatic to us because our conscience push us to do. And because we have good heart we can't ignore friends who are in need.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
18 Apr 12
I do think it's important to remember those who have helped us along the way..even by sending sympathies along when something happens to someone who has been special in our past....I did however recently also forget to send a message of condolance to a friend whose grandmother passed....
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@ashveronica (63)
• India
18 Apr 12
Yes Sure Helping out others is a good deed i do it ever i get a chance without expecting anything in return...
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
19 Apr 12
My closed friend helped me a lot when i was in Korea, in my hard time at that time. I deeply appreciate about it. I am sure that he never expect to get back from me. He always help me if he can even though i haven't gave a help to him yet. Sure i will help him back whenever i can, i keep my thinking like that. We are always closed friends and sharing together.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
19 Apr 12
I have thought about the people who helped me in the past and I have sent them messages to see how they are doing and to let them know how I am doing. I like seeing how they are doing. I would be there for her if she needed someone to be there for her.
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@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
18 Apr 12
I always appreciate the friends who used to help me before. In this life, there won't be very person be there for you, therefore the one who is there for me means a lot. So far I have a couple of closed friends who never measure anything. If I am in a difficulty that I ask for help, they will always be there for me. Relatively, if my friends need help, I will be the first one there for them. This is called give and take.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
It is so nice to have friends that didn't measure anything.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
18 Apr 12
Many people come and go in my life, I do not expect help from someone I have helped in the past, what I do want is that those I have helped pass this along to others they find in need. At the same time I have faith that if I am in need I will be helped along. This has always worked for me. Other then family I have very few people who I am close enough to that I would know if they needed my help, unless they asked, then of course I would help all I could.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I'm not too close to some family members I have and I don't want to involve them either sometimes in my own experience it is better to help a friend than to your own family. But I'm not closing my door to them I just want to be nice to everybody.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
18 Apr 12
One of my friends helped me a lot when I was going through a very difficult period in my life. I never forgot what she did for me at that time and it meant a lot to me. Some time ago she had her own problems. She was getting a divorce and she tried to kill herself. We don't live in the same part of the country and I was unable to go to her place, but I tried to help her in other ways and I told her to call me anytime. She did that and we talked for many hours. Today she is feeling better and I am very happy about that.
It is important for me to be there for my friends when they need me. Sometimes I am not able to go to their place because of work and because of the distanse between our towns, but I try to help them in other ways. Fortunately we can chat on the internet or talk on the phone.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I have a friend too at we always find our way to have communication once or twice a week it depends on her availability to call me, she lives in the US. Once she is very depressed and almost killed her self while driving out of nowhere while I'm on the phone. I don't know what to do and what encouraging words to say to enlighten her mind and be calm. I was lucky that she listened to me and nobody happened to her, until she finally got home already calm. After we hang up I realized the situation I don't know what I will gonna do If she lost her life while talking to me. My conscience will kill me.
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
19 Apr 12
i think you should help others when there in need any time you can, and try and be a better person always by trying to do good for others, the more friends you make and th more you do for other people the more you will get blessed and have many new friends and old ones.. i now go out of my way to help others and i dont expect a thing back, i get ny pay from God, and is kindness to me , and i count on him daily and do my best.. God has been so good to me .......
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@blaqwynter (218)
• Canada
18 Apr 12
Life is not a 1 way street. I believe in helping others out, and i hope (not expect) that they'd help me out in return.
@cyndidaki2871 (83)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
It is a nice attribute to have an attitude that knows how to compliment people who have done good deeds to you it is a nice feeling that you are being appreciated for the great efforts that you have done to a certain person likewise it would be a great appreciation also for that person in return to at least learn to look back and say thank you.It is an admirable act of gratitude to be thankful for everything that has come in ones life.
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@luisnarvaez582 (93)
• Puerto Rico
18 Apr 12
I feel that is very important to get back to friends. Friendships are like plants they need to be watered from time to time. Everyone is busy but we need to contact friends in order to let them know we are still around. Giving support to them is very important. Not being there when something happens won't ruin a friendship. But, at least you should give them a call to let them know that you are there. Remember they have their own busy lives and they know that you have yours. The thing is that real friendships shouldn't be left to whither.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I agree with luis, keeping touch always is the way were always be around.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
21 Apr 12
Personally it is sometimes hard to take time to Thank people who might have helped you out in the past. We allow ourselves to become so busy many times we loose track of what might be going on around us, and being in contact with others. Personally from my end I think you have done the Best you can with this situation.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
I agree with you sometimes we must have still time for them in times they need us.
@butterscotsh (1012)
• Philippines
2 May 12
Yes, I still do look back on people who
helped me before. Even for people who didn't help
me before but would ask for my help, I'm always
willing to give help as much as possible.
@boboskull (49)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
19 Apr 12
I also always help a friend out when I can, and I do not expect from him or her to return the favor.
But if someone actually does return the favor, it is nice to see that they think about you :)
