ranting on facebook!

Philippines
April 24, 2012 7:02pm CST
Hey guys. I'm kind of hesitant if I have to air this out because some of you might get offended. It's just that, I could not take my disgust to a person who keeps on ranting on facebook. There's this someone on facebook who keeps on updating everyone what she feels towards her boyfriend and her life. If she has a misunderstanding with her boyfriend, she would tell the whole world that she is single. She would update her status right away. Then days after, she would go back to being in a relationship again. Maybe you would think that I sound like a bitter person because I still don't have a boyfriend but really I don't get it. Why does she have to tell everyone what their problems are? That should be dealt with privately. She just has to confront her boyfriend about it. I need your guys' opinion. What do you think? Am I just being negative and bitter? Or is it really normal to voice out to the whole world what you're feeling? Thank you in advance. I would really appreciate if you guys would take time to read this and share your thoughts. God bless.
9 responses
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Not that you are bitter or being negative about it, but that's just your opinion to those ranting on facebook. We respect that and I would also agree with you, why tell to the world how you feel about your boyfriend, why not just go simply to your boyfriend and tell him how you really feel. Or, why not go to your closest friend and say your hurt feelings to your best friend? But, whatever it is that they want the world to know, we should also respect them because, it's their life and it's their facebook they are messing with not ours.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Oh, updating status every minute is already not good. I bet all his/her friends on facebook are already laughing at her for being so over acting or to seek attention. Better ignore them..that's the only cure.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
True. All of us have our own opinions and we cannot control people with how they react to such situations. I respect them, of course. It's just that, sometimes, it's too much because it's like every minute they post about their situation or if she is mad to a girl who was linked to her boyfriend,she'd also post it. She sometimes uses profanity. But, yeah, that's her life. I shouldn't be bothered by it. Haha! Thank you for this gaiza.
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
I feel the same way. However sometimes, I feel the urge to rant on fb and think about that my family would think of posting those kinds of words. I actually consider what other people might feel towards me when I say mean things, I have a lot of cousins of facebook that are much younger. So, I think it's important to try to control ranting on FB. Your enemy is not the only person who can read it.
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
So true and you'll also end up embarrassing your own self because people will laugh at what you did instead of sympathizing with you. Some people just never learn. But,as what others say, "to each his own", so maybe that's how they react to some situations. Thank you for your response. :)
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
26 Apr 12
Ah yes reason four or five, where I'm no longer on Facebook. It is rather uncomfortable to read other people's problems online. It is essentially people having a meltdown online about something that has occurred. That can be something that people who really were just looking for some rather enjoyment would rather like to avoid. Some people tend to take their personal problems right onto the Internet for the entire world to see. And what they say could in fact come back to bit them in the hardest way later. Which is really a huge problem with Facebook, as some people think that everyone wants to hear about their own personal drama every second of their life but some people grow tired of it rather easily.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
That's right. They should also keep in mind that not everyone sympathizes with them. We all have different views to certain situations. Facebook is very public. It can cause a lot of troubles and create issues among people. And I think it will just make the situation worse if a person involved will post everything there. Thank you so much for your response.
@leighz (456)
25 Apr 12
I understand how you feel. These kind of people needs attention so bad. I have a handful of friends who do that on Facebook, I don't comment on any of their posts. I just hate participating on that nonsense and it's amazing how they can't seem to feel that people are getting irritated. I think that this is mostly done by narcissists, they will go extra mile to get the attention they wanted. So just let them be, eventually they will get tired of it or get haters that will make them realize, it's not always cool to do such thing.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Same here. I also don't participate if the post is too negative. One time, I sent her a private message telling her that she should not post it on facebook because it's a personal matter. But, she just said she wants all of her friends in facebook to know that there's someone who wants to steal her man. I think it's not right. For me, it's a sign of immaturity. She should not embarrass her boyfriend nor the girl.
@chelogirl (121)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
yeah,that's true. that's why I'm not active on my facebook anymore.Some people, shout out what happened to their life,even the bad things.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
I am active on facebook but I don't post a lot. Even before that I had a boyfriend and we had a misunderstanding or after we broke up, I didn't update my profile just to let everyone know what happened. I post pictures and sometimes quotes, but, never did I post something negative about my boyfriend or anything that had to with my personal life. Thank you for your response.
@Iynna12 (67)
25 Apr 12
I think that girl hasn't spoken toomuch toher boyfriend andthere istomuch miscomprehension among the couple.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Well, they are always together. She would even get mad or get jealous if the guy would hang out with his friends. Maybe she is just really in love. But then again, if you are in love, you shouldn't do something that you know could tarnish his reputation or personality, right? Anyway, thank you so much for your response Iynna. I really appreciate it.
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Apr 12
I honestly agree with you. I know a few people that do the same kinds of things on fb and to me it seems silly. I do not want the world knowing everything about my private life and relationship, not to that extent. The worst I have ever posted on there is asking family and friends for their prayers but I did not even mention on there what I needed prayers for... To me, she should talk to her boyfriend about things. In the time she posted all of it she could have resolved her problems with him. I am almost 100% sure it is for attention. The ones I know that do this it is for attention. They dont get that attention their looking for from me. I ignore it. I do not have time to feed into all that mess, I have REAL problems to worry and think about. I hope I have helped a little... =)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
You are so right. Things like these should not be broadcasted. And I'm pretty sure guys would not like to see their partners telling everyone what he has been doing or what the cause of their problems are. I agree with you that they may just be seeking for attention and I also see it as a sign of immaturity. Thank you for your response. We are on the same page. Haha. God bless.
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Yeah. I don't like these kinds of people. They post everything on their private lives on facebook. Like every event in their life from the little to the biggest details. You have to have something that's private and keep it to yourself. In my opinion, she just wants to be known and be popular. She wants to let everybody know the events of her life. She just wants attention because she is craving for attention. hehehe
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
I agree. We also have to be sensitive because not all your friends would like it and especially with that person, I'm sure that her boyfriend is not pleased by what she did. Putting your partner in a bad light, I think that's not right.
• India
5 Oct 12
It is normal to express your feeling so that you will not be depressed. And I can say, that you have a negative mind towards them. As our technology now facebook is one of a social site that people expressing their feelings. Maybe because they cannot express directly that’s why they use facebook as their way to express what they feel.