"I Am With Him Cause My Kid Needs A Dad"

Unfortunately, I do believe it. I hear it all the time from some of these women that are in these bad and abusive relationships. I get frustrated with it. I listen to their stories and I try to encourage them to get help and get out. When they are upset, they say the will and they are so done with the relationship. The next day or sometimes even the next hour, they are all over it and making excuses. I left an abusive marriage many years ago and I know how hard it is, how scary it is, etc. I know all about the low esteem...all of it. I also know how much kids need a happy stress free home environment and a happy, non-stressed out mom. Sometimes two people are better parents for the kids apart than they are together.

It is never a bad karma to any woman who likes to save their marriage.Some says that they must save their husband because her daughter needs a father to bring her to the altar during nuptial ceremony.I believe that women save their husbands because of their unconditional love to their partners.

Well a good dad, yes. If the father is really bad, then no. But the truth is, the Father has more influence on the children, than the mother will ever have.

It is good for a child to have a mentor in a 'dad' role, and a mentor in a 'women' role...however those may come about...but it is not essential. I also believe that quick romances is just the woman longing for someone to be with and their own doubts they qualify with it being good for their child to have another adult mentor.

ya i agree, there just making a coup out when they say this, it depends on how she acts which makes the kids feel excepted or not

I clearly don't agree with them. I may believe some, mostly because they are loits of women, who have been forced to believe and worship society's expectations and how it's better for them and the kids to stay in a bad relationship to be alone. They need to understand that most kids feel the tension when two people who can't live together anymore have to do so... and that's not good for them.

Yes it is self motivated because most of the time the woman grew up without a dad. They Want their child to have a dad. The goodness or badness of the man they choose has little to do with it. Many will keep the family together for their child/children. But there are also the women who are not complete without a man. So there will always be a man. The fact that he may not be a good mate or father will not matter.

Well i am not sure if this is right. We had kids before we got married for reasons we want to see how things will go and lucky for me, both me and hubby are working so hard to make it worth it and it did work out... but there are those in relationships where they are abused and still end up sticking with the guy when it fact it is obvious as the guy is not worth it...sometimes denial sets in and that sentence is only a pity excuse.

It's not healthy for a woman, single or married, or single mom, to stay in bad relationships, and its even more unhealthy for the kids if the mom goes in and out of bad relationships. So, anybody saying that statement in your title as a reason for staying in bad relationships is BS.

If the girl is not in good terms with the kid's father, why would she use the kid as an excuse just to be with him. I don't understand, she could just ask the guy for support. There's no use on living with him unless she had something in her mind other than the welfare of the kid.

As many have said already here they are not doing it for the kids at all. They stay either out of fear of the man himself, fear of being alone, fear of losing the financial support or fear of having to play both roles (mommy and daddy). I think most of the time its an excuse but when your afraid of the person himself of him killing you its a whole different thing...

This is wrong way to describe or I can say to hide your main intention. That does not mean for your child yuo must have to induldge in bad relationships.

I'm growing up without a DAD, and yes it hard.. But a good things is, you don't have to see your mother or parents to suffer from a bad relationship..