A pregnant teenager and her decision

Though adoption is much better than abortion, I still think it would be better for her to try to raise her child herself. Open adoption poses the risk of competition between the real parent and the adoptive parents, they might fight for the love and affection of the child and eventually cause confusion. Raising a child at 17 is indeed hard, but if she has people who will support her, ideally, her adoptive parents, then she will be able to pull it off.

I think it is a great idea. I think more young girls would go that route if they knew they had that option. I wonder if many of them are actually offered it? Many of them really do want to keep the baby but really can't offer a good life. It's so hard for them and the babies they bring into the world when there is virtually no support from their families. I think it is the better option for both the child and the mother. The child doesn't grow up forever "wondering" about whether or not his/her mom loved him, why she gave him/her up etc. They grow up knowing that two strangers loved enough to raise him as their own and the mother is still a big part of his life. There is so much love there. It's beautiful.

Ah.. How come people is the us are pushing for teenage mom to have their babies sent out for adoption? I now theyare too young to be parnts and are too young to care for their own children... But here in the Philippines there are a lot of teenage pregnancies as well but these babies are seldom put up for adoption. Mostly the parents of the teens would take care of the both of them until the mother is able to support the child on her own. I know a couple of thise who got pregnant at younger ages... They continued with the pregnancy and the baby. This peobably may be because our culture thinks morw of not giving away a family member. I think the opwn afoprion in the us... Might have actuallt cased more teens npt to be careful with what they do... Ita like giving them another choice....and that is to let them realizze the full extent of hat one moment they had to let go of their young attitude and start acting like real men and women who shiuld suffer the consequencs of a bad choice.

I am for adoption when you cannot keep the baby rather then abortion. With an open adoption, you do not have to go through all the trouble what happens when years later the doctor tells you have a genetic disorder or in most cases, the doctors tell the adoptive parent or the child who was adopted that they have something that may need a blood or bone marrow transplant from a birth parent and they cannot find her. Most girls keep their babies because they were told that if they did not, they really did not love that baby. Back in the 1960s when I put my infant for adoption, adoptive people were considered wonderful, but for some reason, some of the conditions made it hard to give a child for adoption, that is the closed adoptions. The conditions were that you were not to look for the baby - all right if the child looked for you years later when she or he was an adult. Also you had to tell your fiancé or your boyfriend who was serious about marrying you what you had done and the results then was that there was a high condition that they might leave you. So many of the birth mothers never married or married later in life unless the boyfriend they were sleeping with and who got them pregnant married them. There were some girls who never told, but there are also girls who do not get stretch marks and go back to the same weight they had before they got pregnant. I think open adoption is a good thing as it avoids all this problem,

oh that's just too much for a 17 year old to handle she should still be enjoying the life of a teenager at this time of her life. there are a lot of cases here like that too in my country but i am just hoping that all these young ladies get through all these challenges in their lives and see them as a lesson that will make them stronger. open adoption can cause good and bad effects too to the child and parents. it just depends on how they deal with it.

No its not hard for teens in American to become single mothers. Its every easy a lot of them are actually single moms not many teens here in American choice adoptions at all most will keep there babies and do it on there own but they risk the fact that there own child will become a teen parent as well, they are also twice as likely with in the first 2 years of having there first child to have another one. I think open adoption is wonderful here in the USA the parents of that baby when they adopted choice to keep it open by sending pictures or letters every so many months as part of the agreement when they sign the papers as legal parents to that child. Also every so often the biological parent has the choice if the adopted parents present them with the ability to see that child in person. A lot of biological parents like this even though they don't get to see there child every day they get to know what is going on in there child's like here and be part of it as much as the adoptive parents allow them to be.

I wouldn't do open adoption for the simple fact that the biological mom has six months to decide if she wants her child back. A friend of mine adopted a baby, and it was an open adoption. They stayed in contact with the birth mother, but when the birth GRANDmother found out the adoptive parents were white and not black, she persuaded her daughter to take the baby back. And just like that, that little boy was taken away from them.

I wonder how mature a 17 years old child is to make such a decision, did she look ahead enough? I hope this is the best for the boy, but I think that the parents of the girl were more concern on their own interests than hers, and this may eventually bring problems between the two families, when there comes a disagreement on what is the best for the boy, when a desicion has to be make, but, I hope I am wrong, for the child´s sake.

It is hard for them but it is also quite common these days. There are programs and such to help these teens but they have to have a great amount of will power to get out of the system once they get in. It is like a web I think. For example..if they are not working, they can live on some or total assistance but even a minimum wage job for a month would have their benefits cut or even they might have to pay a certain amount out of it. Minimum wage is not much. People that do make minimum wage are considered under the poverty level the government here has established number wise. Childcare often takes almost all one makes. Minimum wage full-time(40hrs a week) workers here make around $300 a week before they tax them then with one child the average babysitting fee is $75 a week. It can be tough.

I agree with the girl's decision - opt for open adoption. That way she can still see and stay close to her baby, and she's lucky that her adoptive parents are very supportive of her. I think becoming a single mom at an early age of 17 is difficult no matter where you are or what country you are in coz at that age, a girl is not yet ready financially and emotionally, and she's too young for this kind of responsibility. Given a very limited option, going for open adoption is a good way to go.

I wonder.. does it matter if you are an American teen or a teen elsewhere and are pregnant? This whole story sounds to me as being forced to let your child adopted. I think it's everywhere hard to be a single mom. I have been there too btw.. I was 17, my whole family (and the father of the child) dumped me. I was forced to give her away, I nearly did it but I am happy I refused and did what I thought it would be the best. I survived all alone and my daughter is one of the greatest and sweetest persons there is in the world. She is talented, high educated, creative and next to her job also a great model. Open adoption is there all over the world as well.. at this moment I have big doubts about adoption generally speaking. There is something seriously wrong the way they handle it.

OMG! at the age of 17, the teenage girl adopting a baby boy or being a single parent is something totally impossible to be smooth until and unless the girl has great parents who are all rich and helping their daughter.