Do you pick and choose which relatives to invite to your wedding?

I think I would leave a few people out if I don't get along with them it would be my wedding after all but if they are nice I would invite them I wouldn't care if they embarrassed me that's what family does sometimes.

That is very sad indeed. I would have been embarrassed if I were you. You should never be embarrassed of your family. That's just wrong and very sad. A wedding is a new beginning and an extra special day for the bride. Not having her whole family around, especially cousins that she probably grew up with and is close with around her is just totally wrong for those reasons you gave.

It must be hard trying to do that with family. It's like you find out someone from your family got married and you weren't invited. I'd understand if they were trying to keep within the budget, but if you had to select who your guests are on the basis of their of their social status, well are you really gonna have any fun? I wouldn't know what to think if a cousin or sibling (well, just cousins for me since I'm an only child) would get married and didn't invite me. Fortunately I come from a really small family on my mother's side, and I'm not exactly close with my cousins from my father's side. My maternal cousin is getting married next month and I'm matron of honor! I'm quite pleased and a little pressured that I've been given that kind of honor. She's an only child as well, and we've been together a lot since we were kids. I would be glad if she only invited me, but I'm gladder to know that she considers me that special soI can be her matron of honor. :)

Hello friend, I am a single now. But in my wedding I invite to all my relativs and friends. Because my family is also very big and my lovers family is also big. So we dicided to invite everyone. If I invite everyone there will be very fun. Have a nice day.

Oh, that's really sad. We had a very short list of guests in our wedding, but it's not based on their social status, but we just really wanted to be with the closest people in our lives. I didn't invite my relatives on my father's side because I wasn't close to them and we had differences, and I wouldn't want to have any negative aura during that day - afterall, its my day. I think that reason is acceptable.

To answer the question "do you pick and choose which relatives to invite to your wedding" the answer is yes, I do. Or I did. I got married in the fall of 2010. Since my husband and I are older with grown children and have both been married before we wanted just a small, intimate gathering. I have one sister who I just don't get along with for many, many reasons. I haven't spoken to her for years. So no, I chose not to invite her to my wedding. Does that make me a bad person? I don't think so. I believe that a wedding is for the couple getting married. People who attend the wedding are there to help celebrate and share in the joy of the couple's happy day. Why should they invite people they don't want to be there? Also, it very much depends on finances, as big weddings can become quite costly. Some people are forced to trim the guest list, even though they might not want to, because of finances. Then there are other couples who go to the other extreme and invite everybody and their dogs, their 5th cousin twice removed etc., in the hopes of getting more presents. Then, because they have invited so many guests they have to find ways to scrimp and save money on the decorations, meal, venue etc. I'm not saying this is necessarily a bad thing either, just that there are varying reasons why people do things the way they do and invite the people they invite.

I don't know what makes people think that but it sure is common. I guess that there is something in some people that makes them have to believe they are better. Maybe it is an ego thing or perhaps self esteem. Now that I think of it, I have known a lot of people that make people feel bad about themselves as sort of a boast to their own ego.

First of all, why would they come to a wedding celebration when they don't really want the people there? If I am the one getting married, I would make sure to invite just the people I wanted to be in there to celebrate with me. The closest friends and family are just enough. Don't bother too much of inviting and make sure to invite secretly if you just wanted a few guests. I've never planned about this before and even til now, but I have a dream of being wed in a place sacred where there are really few people around...

I am not married yet. But If I do I will throw the door open to all relatives and friends to come to my weddings. This is because there is the possibility that not all persons that you give invitation to your weddings that will come. In Africa, cultural factors always brings both close and far distances relations together. We do not know any special persons or give invitation to special persons. African cultures always makes us to open our doors to all kind of persons. Foods are largely shared out.

it's called keeping up appearances I think. It's sad that they portray themselves in a way that they think they are better than everyone else.

If I were in an elite group, I would never be embarrassed about my family or my relatives. They make me who I am and I am what I am today because of them.

Weddings are not cheap. I know when my and my husband get remarried we are having a big wedding. Our first was just us, his mom, and one set of grandparents and his cousin. We got married by the court with every short noticed so we didn't tell everyone we where getting married till after we got married. Now with our big wedding we couldn't invite my husband whole side of the family We are only inviting our parents, our siblings they all not all of them have kids yet so its really just our two nephews and our two kids going. A couple of mutual close friends, our grandparents and who ever we feel is close but it would all be under 100 people. The rest would just get a nice notices of the wedding and that if they want to send something even if its just a car or pictures we are more then happy to give them pictures of the day and more then willing to take any gifts that are given.