am i a good friend?
By daniel_chang
@daniel_chang (75)
Philippines
April 29, 2012 12:40am CST
When do you consider your friend as a good friend?
Some says considering a friend as a good friend when he/she keeps your secrets, remembers both of your favorites, your memorable dates, occasions, going shopping together, and doing stuff together.
I consider myself as a good friend, because i do almost every thing what i mentioned above. One thing that i cant promise to do is remembering. Some friends have this behavior that when you wont remember the exact words and exact time and place it happened these will cause a point from your friendship. I on my part, have a very complicated time of remembering things. Most of the time is the date and the words. I mean does every thing have to do with what your friend say and what your response would be? I even keep secrets and due to the word secret, i myself make it a secret until such time that i cant remember what it is.
Am i considered a good friend? you when do you consider your friend a good friend?
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10 responses
@kehyrie (54)
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29 Apr 12
I would consider you a good friend.:)
A good friend is someone who is there for you in good times and specially the bad times. Someone who is frank or honest enough to tell you the truth (although sometimes it hurts). There are a lot of definitions of a good friend and I think one shouldn't base it solely on whether or not you can remember the dates and stuff.:)
@daniel_chang (75)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Thank you for considering me as a good friend. They say i am easy to be friends with maybe its because i enjoy having fun much. Yeah i agree, times and dates are not the only concrete basis of a true and good friendship it is also measure through how you trust the person. Its not because of the longest years you've been together but the bonding and understanding both of you share.
Thank you for the comment, we could also be long distance friends...what do you think..?
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
4 May 12
I think you are a good friend.. For me, a good friend is also the ones you mentioned above, but also- he or she is always there when i need a friend, in the tough times too. He or she should be there if i need help and not make a lame excuse.. 
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
29 Apr 12
well to me a good friend is someone who is there. being there is good enough for me. remembering things about me is just icing on the cake.
a good friend will be there when i'm down, answers my calls in the middle of the night if it's urgent. my memory is not good so i won't remember my friend's favourite food or drink, there are times when i'd even forget their birthdays.
but they know deep in their heart, if they ever needed someone to talk to at 3am in the morning, they can give me a call. if they needed help, i'll be there for them.
a good friend will be there when i'm down, answers my calls in the middle of the night if it's urgent. my memory is not good so i won't remember my friend's favourite food or drink, there are times when i'd even forget their birthdays. but they know deep in their heart, if they ever needed someone to talk to at 3am in the morning, they can give me a call. if they needed help, i'll be there for them. @GemmaR (8517)
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29 Apr 12
I see a lot of my friends every week, but I don't see many of my close friends all that much because we're all busy with our own lives. The difference between the two groups is that I know if I ever needed any of my close friends for whatever reason I know that they'd be there for me. In my opinion, that is the most important thing about a friend; just the ability to be there for each other when times are a little bit tough in life. I would be there for all of my friends, and I think that the fun we have together is just a wonderful added bonus.
@lisicong (36)
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29 Apr 12
If the viewpoint you mentioned in your words is exactly the standard of a good friend,I think that I am not a good friend.However,in my opinion,a good friend is one who is still with you even when you get stressed,are in a trouble.A friend in need is a friend indeed.That is my opinion,and that is just my way to be a good friend.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Apr 12
A good friend is someone who is there for you if you need that person. No matter if you meet daily or not. A good friend is someone who is honest to you.. is not flattering you or thinks you are not able to handle the truth. A good friend is also someone who can admit you are too much at the moment, that he/she needs some space. Who can advice you to find some help elsewhere or just give it some time to think over.
I think most of al a good friend gives you a good feeling, there is trust and respect and you know that if there are problems between both of you, you are able to surive/solve it since it won't effect your friendship.
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
29 Apr 12
To me...a good friend is someone who genuinely cares about you. You demonstrate respect for each other and you trust each other. A good friend is someone who loves you enough to be honest in every situation and they volunteer to be there for you when you're having a rough day.
I don't need a friend to do everything with me; however, it's important that when we spend time together it's quality time where we talk and laugh, etc.
@ladyhemingway (965)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
With the way you describe yourself it seems to me that you are indeed a good friend. But let us not forget that those are not just the things that we need to look into when we talk about being a good friend. I agree with your description but it goes beyond that. Well at least for me.
For me, I can consider myself to be a good friend if I have all the characteristics you have mentioned and if I am able to tell things to my friends no matter how ugly the truth is and no matter how it can hurt them. I always believe that true friend wouldn't pretend that you are okay when in reality you are not. It may sound harsh but I want my friends to treat me the same way.
If I look fat wearing certain dress, I would love to hear that honest fact from my friends instead of pretending and covering up the reality because they don't want to hurt me.
@whoslovetanyway (58)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
A good friend is a someone who is true and honest. Someone who is loyal. Someone who never leaves you no matter what circumstances might come your way. Someone you can be with during the best and worst days of your life. Someone who gives good advices. Someone who helps you to be a better you.
Just be true to yourself. Good friends accept you for who you are. They should not make assumptions about you, but they should expect you to be just you. :)
