Do you think distant releationship work?
By ajithlal
@ajithlal (14716)
India
April 29, 2012 3:06am CST
Do you think distant relationships work ? I have seen lots of people having problems in both relationship both distant as well as other relationships and that is one reason that I want to know if long term relationships work.
15 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Apr 12
It depends on what you call a relationship. If you never meet, if you are not married, have no plans for future or kids it's not a long distance relationship.
It can work but you need to count on the fact that in reality you have to deal with everything alone. Since if you are in need there is nobody who can comfort you at that moment. Also.. if you want to meet you need money to visit eachother.. if you do meet you need some time again to get used to eachother (plus you will find out you both have your own life style, habits, friends, even partly own life the other one is not aware/part of).
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Yes, it works! I believe I have answered this kind of question here so many times before here in mylot. It works if you believe and if you have trust and constant communication with your partner. It is working well with me so I can strongly agree that long distant relationship works!
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
29 Apr 12
These days text messages, emails and on-line chatting on a computer are possible. In the past phone calls were expensive and a letter took one week to arrive from the UK to Australia. I met an Australian man when I was twenty one years old. We spent lots of time together in Queensland. It was sad leaving Australia and I then went onto Asia. Once back in the UK the phone calls cost loads of money. He came over to the UK and we got married five months later. We wasn't happy living in England with its cold climate and he missed his friends in Australia. Our marriage lasted six years and then we got divorced. When there is a long distance relationship the couple may wish to have one of them move.
I lived in Kent and I met a man that came from Lancashire. We were on a walk along the White Cliffs of Dover. For our second date we took one of the ferries to France on a wonderful day trip. We met up for two weekends a month and the time apart was hard to deal with. We sent emails and text messages daily. It was fine in the summer but illness cropped up in the winter. In the February we split up but we met up again in the July with regret that we had split up. By then we both had a new relationship. Trains are expensive in the UK and all those train tickets had cost loads of money. Never again would I have a long distance relationship but they were worth having the two that I have had.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Well it depends on the relationship, they are relationship of husband and wife and only boyfriend or girlfriend. But what ever relationship it is still trust is the main ingredient to have a successful relationship.
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@daisy_dion (315)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Yes it works. AS long as you both love each other and the loyalty always remain. Im one of it.
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@nagatron123456 (888)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
Only few survive in a long distance relationship because of trust issue which common to both close and long distance relationship. If you are in a long distance situation, do not expect more from your partner because anytime she could left you.
@GemmaR (8517)
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29 Apr 12
I think that they can work sometimes, but the most important thing is that you both want the same thing from your relationship. For example, if one of you is happy about the way that things are going but the other isn't, then there is no way that the relationship can continue because it means that one of you would not be able to be happy. In this day and age, there is no reason for them not to work, as the internet means that we can keep in touch with people wherever they are in the world without having to worry about it too much.
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@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
like what i have always said about long distance relationship, the success of it depends on the two person in that relationship. aside from the love, they should maintain communication as often as possible, trust and respect each other. i also believe that if you are meant to be, no matter how much the distance, you will always end up with each other.
@vaishnavc (556)
• India
29 Apr 12
I don't think that it will really work.?i used to have one such relationship once i finished my high school.But it didn't really work out.We broke up about 5 months later.
But it can be different for you.And it can change with what all the things between you are.
@vaishnavc (556)
• India
30 Apr 12
Well i don't think that online relationships will really work out.If you keep agreeing to someone on the net.And then you think that you guys can work it out.But if you get serious and decide to take it to the next level and then you find out that how hard it is to adjust and all.You will regret it.
I am telling from my experience that online relationships don't work out.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
Well, yes.If both are loving each other,no matter how hard,pain but they will still love each others.
It's also challenge because they are both missing each other,and love.
@lovelysofie (294)
• Indonesia
29 Apr 12
oo yes i think its work coz it happend to me.i was 6 months long distance relationship with my boyfriend.the secret to keep it is trust each other.i never getting mad with my boyfriend and him too.so we get along together.always talk with camera or phone everyday its enough for me.
nice to meet u here......
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@craptacularxd (84)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Well some distant relationships work and some are not. Well there are some factors why it works enough. Number 1, Trust, once you have trust on your love one, this should be working by having constant communication. Since there is Skype and Cellular phone nowadays. Number 2, Temptations, well this is a serious problem to the one far away from their love ones, either being tempted because of lust or just they feel that way. As well constant communication would help.
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@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Apr 12
Long distance relationships are hard to keep going. Keeping them interesting and alive is tough. But I think if two people really care about eachother and have an imagination to keep it interesting for both parties then it can be a good one for quite awhile. It does take some work though. Taking eachother for granted or going elsewhere for what they need will only lead to the end.