Shy person.

First things first, welcome to a world of friends at Mylot. Frankly it takes all types to make this world habitable and you have only to look at your own hand to see what I mean, every finger of a different size and going in a different direction but all stay together. Not every one is given the gift of the gab and so we have terms like 'Introverts & Extroverts' or 'Outgoing & Reserved' type of a personality. Actually on the internet or even on the phone we always have a delete or ignore button to hit when the smallest whiff of discomfort hits our comfort zone. However when we are in a direct interaction with people the fear of rejection or non-acceptance dangles like a sword of Damocles, leaving us tongue tied and uncomfortable. The fact of the matter is that we all are so concerned about peoples opinion about us that we always stagger to create a so called good opinion in the make believe world that surround us. As far as your daughter is concerned I would be prone to say that it runs in the genes or as like mother so like daughter, but your son has a - devil may care - attitude and cares two hoots for what people think of him because in his own small world he accepts or rejects people at face value. So cheer up, he will make up for your short comings on the popularity chart. Take care and God bless.

I suppose you're right, it is simpler to type talk than to really talk in person. But think about this, how did your friends become your friends? You had to talk to them to get to know them, before they were your friends. However you started talking with them is what you need to remember in order to talk to new people. I'm sure you will find there are even more people just waiting to be your friend. Happy mylotting!!

There are instances that people are really comfortable when they speak to complete strangers and there are those that are simply shy even with those that they have already gotten acquainted with for a bit. Confidence is something that we get to build up when we get to do something continuously and eventually, effortlessly. Like as simple as writing your own name, knowing that you won't spell it wrong, to approaching a complete stranger and start a conversation. Then again, one would say that confidence varies from one individual to another depending on the situation that they are in. For example, we get to go to restaurants, fast food, convenient stores, grocery stores, department stores or even stores in malls and we are less shy to inquire about what we actually want from that place to those people who are in it. Of course, they are there to assist us as we are customers in their stores, yet aren't they strangers to us in the first place? It's the same with talking to ordinary people, you simply talk to them.

I am also very shy. I used to run in the house when I saw the mailman coming down the road. I worked as a cocktail waitress for awhile when in my twenties. They let you drink back then and I would have several drinks so I could be friendly and get some tips. I am happy online for the same reason. I used to make my daughter talk to the waitress when we were out some place. Partially because I didn't want her to be shy and partially so I didn't have to.

I was very shy when I was young. I always felt that no one was interested in anything I would have to say anyway, so I just stayed quiet. The only time I would talk was if I were around someone I knew well. As I get older, I am much better. I am probably still a little shy, as I find it much easier to "talk" to someone online also. Your daughter will probably grow out of it a little.

I think of myself as shy sometimes since I'm nervous the first time I go to some places or meet new people. I have issues with anyone being angry with me, conflicts, and confrontations and try to avoid them so I don't speak my mind as much as I'd like. And I don't like to be the center of attention. But I do well once I get to know people and make some connections then I can make conversation and friends. I also sing solos which I was encouraged to do by my first church choir but wasn't something I ever thought I'd do. I also love to dance and if I'm feeling the beat I don't worry much about what people think. I have less of a problem speaking my mind if I feel that the people I'm with aren't angry or judging me and I try not to judge. I think we're all some shy and some outgoing and complex.

I am sort of a shy person myself. I do talk to people but I am really bad at conversations. When I am in public and people come up to me in say a club, I just automatically ignore them, I'm no good with those types of conversations. It's really odd, but I understand how you feel. On the net, it is much different.

Hey you're not alone, I too am a shy person offline but I am so talkative when it comes online . I have so much to say when I am here even if I don't know personally all the people here. Mylot has really helped me to have more confidence so try not to be too shy both online and offline.

yeah, I am quite similar to yu- i find it easier to talk online/chat than talk in real life. I talk to strangers if there is a need though, usually just the same gender. When it comes to the opposite gender i find it hard to open u since i can't relate to them.

I used to be a shy person. But right now i am not. I think with the time, when i meet more people, living in many where, it makes me to adapt with meeting new people and if i want to have friends, i have to be active in talking and making friendship. When talking, you can talk about the common topic such as the weather, culture, etc and you can ask more questions, sure you will not feel that you have nothing to talk.

I'm a shy person, too. I sometimes find it easy to talk to strangers, and I'm comfortable with close friends... for me the most difficult is talking to those who are neither strangers nor close. They already know me a little but I don't find anything I could relate, or simply don't want to share everything with them. I'm not less shy online I think.

Why don't you try talking to people every day and gradually get over your shyness. I mean only if it bothers you. If you want to be more social. If not I don't really see a problem. From what you told us you have kids so it didn't get in the way of your happiness. A lot of people are shy. Even I am, but I started talking to people when I went to college because I wanted to change that about me and now I don't really have a problem with it.

Same here, stacilyn. I'm a very shy and sometimes aloof person. I was even surprised that I landed on a management job. It's always easier for me to talk to people from the other side of the line. I only have a few good friends whom I can talk to comfortably for hours, face to face. I'm also concerned about my daughter, because she really shies away from people whom she doesn't see everyday. She would just bow her head down and not move or say a word. It takes time for her to get comfortable with others.

I think more people become more confident on dealing with others when online. And I think that was just normal since you cannot personally see the person's expression online unless it is a video calling type of conversation. And writing can really be a great way to express our feelings and thoughts.

I am a shy person too but I am trying to overcome it. It is not good to be too shy all the time. People think that you are weak and they are likely to abuse you. However, I still describe myself as a shy person.

Yeah I can understand what you are saying. It is a lot easier to talk to different individuals online. We don't feel the pressure to talk to anyone if we don't want to either. When we are out and about and we see someone that can make us anxious.

Nothing wrong with being shy, quess many people are.. you just can't notice if they are online. You can turn your shyness into something good as well.. body language does count.. and speak if you really have to say something.. people just talking non stop are not the ones most people like. BTW you can practise in being more communicated if you really like so. Just start saying "hi" and walk by.. don't wait for a response.. it's a start.

Thinking shy is ok. Maybe shy is good. I am shy too but it varies on place. I think it has to do with being threatened. I don’t mean of course seriously threatened just sometimes embarrassed or made to feel uncomfortable. No one likes to feel that way so we tend to back away if we think we could be. Mylot is very good as people here like just to have nice discussions mostly.

I'm the same way as you. I connect with certain people easier online then I do in person. I tend to watch people when we are out and about to see if I will talk to them or not. My daughter she is 1 years old and she is a chatter box, she'll just talk and talk most of the time if it's people she doesn't know talk to her she'll look at you funny.

I'm really shy, too. I need a lot of bonding and "together time" with people for me to feel relaxed and to talk a lot. When it comes to strangers, I'm always monitoring myself and feel a bit awkward...