My best friend's guy is trying to court me for the second time around!
By annrielyn_03
@annrielyn_03 (350)
Philippines
May 4, 2012 12:19am CST
Hi guys! I have a best friend, she's like a sister to me. we have been very good friends since we were in 1st year. so the story goes like this.
when we are in 1st year, the three of us where classmates. (my girl best friend, the guy and I.) Before my best friend and the guy became bf/gf's the guy wants me to be his girl. so i tend to tell all the things that the guy does in order to get me. I do not have the idea that the guy is courting my best friend too.
One time the guy invited me to a date, and i just went and then i told her that i do not like him so he stopped courting me. the day after, my best friend and i went to some place and she told me that the guy was also courting her upon saying that i am courted by him and the guy denied to her that he is courting me so the thing is, I might be lying according to the guy. I was shocked really. and now they became bf,gf's and my best friend and I had a gap.
After few months,my best and i talked and we became okay. I forgave the guy also. but then again the guy is courting me again for the second time after 2 years of relationship with my best friend!
he used to call me, chat me invite to a date even for s*x! I was so shocked that he's doing that even though he knows i have a family now. I turned him down again because my best friend and i is okay and i don't want to hurt her feelings again and i will not do it ever in my life that i will cheat my husband. but guess what he did! he told my best friend that I was the one who invites him to s*x! he reversed the whole story!
but good thing my best friend believes me and not to his bf. and now they broke up, what do you think of that kind of guy, fyi, the guy did the same thing to another woman that me. he did the same, reversed the whole thing when he was turned down.
so what do you think guys, does he has a mental disability?
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9 responses
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
4 May 12
good day annrielyn_03, i was really surprised about that story. For me, that guy is not real.. maybe he's gay or has that too much desire of lust.. i could see that he is so boastful.. he even tried to turn the table and told your friend that it's you who asked him for ***.. good for you that you've always got the right decision.. well, a real man is always faithful, forgiving, trustworthy and honest to his partner.. do not cheat, do not keep a secret and do not pretend.. good luck to her next victim..
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
4 May 12
he is really boastful.. he thinks he's very handsome and gets many girls as he wants. well not on me! he's freaking thing would not work on me! well I do not keep such secret's with my husband unless it's a friends secret of course i do not have the right to share it with my husband. but with regards for the sake of our relationship, i do not keep secrets even if it will affect our relationship. well my husband will not keep secrets too. he knows me very well that if i caught him left handed i'll carry our son to my mom's house and never go back again to him nor he'll see my kid. lol!
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
7 May 12
well my friend, that's the only way i could preserve and protect my family. i do not want lies, you know. it's just not that bad to say mistakes or secrets to my husband as long as i did not do anythings against his will. =)
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
4 May 12
i salute you friend.. to make a relationship last, both party must forgive and understand if the other have done something wrong.. LOVE and FORGIVENESS is the key for a harmonious relationship.. as they say, it's because of our mistakes that we learn and we become better.. have a good day to you and your family :))
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
4 May 12
It is sad that there are guys like that out there. I'm happy that you and your best friend have made it through those difficult times in your friendship. It is a good thing that you continue to turn him down especially since you are married and have a family. It is sad that he keeps trying to pursue you even though you are married. He probably does those things when he can't find a person to be with so he perhaps talks bad about them and puts them down. Glad that your friend and him are no longer together. That would really be a mess.
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Yes, good thing my best friend believed on me. well as far as i know, she really believed me at first. according to her, the very first time that her ex and i were communicating and her ex denied it, she did not believed it. she believes me more than him.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
19 May 12
I'm glad that she believes you more. At times our friends prove to be closer to us than the person we may be with. So it's good to trust our friends who we know and who have proven their loyalty to us.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
4 May 12
That is an awful type of guy! I am glad that it all worked out and your friend found out what kind of guy he is. He'll get what his just dessert is eventually and regret ever doing anything like that I suppose.
Mental Disorder? Maybe, maybe not I wouldn't begin to assume either way.
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
4 May 12
lol! i just thought he has some mental disorder. he wants to collect girls for bed and then reverse the whole story when he doesn't get what he wants!
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
4 May 12
People who does bad things to others may really have some psychological problems. In your case, this guy is not just a womanizer but he just doesn't care what other people feels when he breaks friendships and tell lies. He must have a bad childhood. Good thing your best friend stayed away from this guy.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
4 May 12
He must be. I mean he is destroying your relationship with the girl and he is also paranoid to court you now that you are married. He should be kicked or something.
Good thing your friend broke up with him.
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
4 May 12
yeah! I do not know what he wants. i have a beautiful family and he wants to break it! I told it to my husband because i don't want for him to discover it himself. he's really mad with the guy. he wants to punch him on the face. you know i told the guy to leave me alone because if not he'll gonna pay if my family broke off because of him! as for my best friend, she told me that she broke up with the guy but then, i really don't think it will be over for the both of them, the guy is really irresistible when he does something as a peace offering.
@valentinesdiner (1214)
• United States
6 May 12
I am so glad for you that you see you have a great family and are not drawn in by this guys laxness in so many different aspects.
Hang in there.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
4 May 12
He's a player. Those are some of the worse type of people. Yeah, I guess you could say they have a mental disability. Its called being stupid. Good thing you're smart enough to stay away from him.
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
7 May 12
yeah I know how to turn him down well that my best friend broke up with him. it's too good that my best, woke up from a bad dream. i hope they will not be together anymore!
@thuglove1722 (343)
• United States
4 May 12
man that is twisted, i feel sorry for your best friend for going out with that man or i mean kid! he's no man especially trying to get with the best friend of his girl no respect! iv'e heard of plenty of guys doing similar stuff and it makes man like me look bad!
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
4 May 12
yeah.. that's very twisted lol! you know, what in the world he thinks he is? superman? he's so disgusting! he even had have s*x with the other woman my best friend told me. he caught her guy (now ex) because the girl confronted her and saved all text messages of the guy in her cellphone so she would have evidence that the guy was the one who really courts girls into bed. he's crazy!
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
4 May 12
i don't think that guys has a mental problem, i think he has a problem with womanizing. this is a common problem with the male race (not all men). there are some good men out there, but he doesn't reflect one of them. you did the right thing by telling your friend. its also good that she trust you. your friendship is worth more than that bumb. i am glad you guys stayed friends despite him.
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
4 May 12
hehehe.. well if that's what you call that dumb! womanizer! well as for me I don't really have the bit**y thing in myself. I was brought by my mom to be a good individual not a cheater. plus i love my family so much that i treasure every thing that we share in life. what would i wish for, i have a beautiful son and a patient husband. so there's no sense if i would have an affair with that crazy insane guy right! CHEERS!
@jhesse03 (35)
• Philippines
4 May 12
In my opinion, you, as your bestfriend's bestfriend, should have told her ever since to break up with that guy. And now, you have to tell her and give some advices not to return to that assho.le.
And for you, If that guy messes up with you again, you better slap his face and splash water on him. Maybe he'll wake up.
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
4 May 12
hahaha! well, if i see him again i'll really kick his a** off! as for the advice thing, of course i'll give an advice to my friend not to be with that guy ever again. but that depends on her if she'll pursue my advice.
