Who Chose your Course?
@edisonbanglos (389)
Philippines
22 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
5 May 12
I think it matters only if you were forced with the course itself. If you love something else but was forced to take up another, then that there is a mismatch.
However, there are times too when the choice of your parents are actually better for you and you learn to love it.
I could remember that story of my brother. His classmate in Medical school was only there because the father wanted him to follow his footsteps. Though that was the case, the child was exceptional. He got good high grades and it wasn't just because he was good at studying but he totally understood the point of the whole thing.
When asked if he regretted going to Medical School, he simply shrugged and said that it was okay, he doesn't love it, but it's okay because he didn't have any plans for himself. But now that they're done with Medical School and is practicing, he is actually successful with his practice and does something else as a hobby, he discovered while in Medical School that his passion is with Photography. At least now, while he's buying those expensive things, he can afford it because of the course chosen for him by his dad.
Similarly, I didn't choose my own course. Neither did I know what I wanted. My mom chose it for me and right now I am loving the job I have.
On the other hand, my cousin's story is different. He was forced to take up nursing even if he wanted to go for Mass Communication. After college, he decided to totally forget Nursing. Didn't go to the board exams and right now is with a good company selling Real Estate. I don't know if he's successful or is loving his job but I think it was pure waste of time, energy and money for him to have gone through Nursing. The parents loaned a lot of money for his education, and right now he doesn't even practice what he did in school.
But I think his case is different because he was forced to do something else instead of that something he wanted to do. I think you should go with your passion but also should think about what your parents are advising you. After all, they are there to help you be successful. But if deep down in your heart you just don't really like the course they chose, you need to speak now or forever regret (not just for you but for your parents).
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
very well said laydee.. i enjoyed so much reading your response though it's a little bit long but it's worth reading.. and i am doubting now whether to take nursing or not :)
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
correct.. and we even sometimes that the best choice are from our parents.. they still knew what's the best for their child and will never let their child down..
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
5 May 12
I agree with laydee. Sometimes, parents' advice or influence on what their kids would take up in college are what really would be best for them. Especially, if the kids aren't decided or not mature enough to make their own choice.
This matter is important to both parents and the student, so it calls for a serious talk and consideration.
For those who have their own preference, parents should also respect that. However, if it involves financial issues, the kids have to also be considerate with their parents.
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@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
5 May 12
I was the one who chooses on my course. When I was in highschool, my parents wants me to take accountancy becuase I am quite good at mathematics, but they let me choose what I really like. I ended up taking BSChemistry. There has been no problems occured during those days and I am happy that I really pursue what I want.
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@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
5 May 12
I am working in one of the top broiler intergrator in the Philippines. I am currently at the feed milling division.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
wow, it's good to know that and oh we're both in the field of Science.. I am studying Biology.. I love it because we go to other places to study the living organisms.. by the way, where are you working now? if you don't mind..
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Unfortunately, I wasn't the one who chose my course in college. It was my aunts decision. My parents can't afford in enrolling me to college so my aunt said she will be the one to pay for my tuition fee if i take nursing. And so I did, I really wanted to finish college so better yet study what they want, at least I get to finish my studies up to college. Nursing is not a bad course but it sure is hard for me especially when it really is not my kind of field. I finished the course without failing grades and even because a licensed Nurse.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
6 May 12
No, that is why I mentioned above that if you were the one who chooses your course, you will also end up pursuing and practicing your profession to be successful in that field. I am not working as a nurse because first, I don't want to work as one and second, even if I wish to work as a nurse, it is really very hard to look for a place to practice and work my profession here in our country. Nurses are flooding our country that is why.. ![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
5 May 12
I do select the courses but after that i bring the course list to my advisor, he takes a look at this and then he may change it if he feels that another course is better for me. I am ok with it. He is my advisor and i believe his advice is good for me.
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@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
yes, i've heard like that too.. they will help you to choose the right path to have a good career..
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@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
5 May 12
i chose my course of business management in college..actually, when i was about to enter college i'm not really sure what course i should take up but on the university i enrolled, this is the only course they offer that i thought i like..i cannot take nursing because it's not what i want or accounting, i don't really feel it..and also the other courses they offer..business management was the only that attracted me..so that's why i ended up taking it.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
6 May 12
and how do you find it? .. is it good? don't you have any regret at all?
@rusale (647)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Ya that's right. As what I've noticed from other students whom their parents chose their course would likely fail from their course. They're not much encourage to do better for their studies because it's not the field they really like to. Not like those students who have chosen the course they want most likely succeed from their studies.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
that also happens to some of my friends.. but i think if you really love your parents, you will try to do better for the course you pursue even if you somewhat don't like it..just for the sake of your parents and the money they will spend for you..
@rusale (647)
• Philippines
6 May 12
Ya. The students should do their best for the sake of their parents. We can't deny the fact that there are some people who really won't do their best in studies because that's not what they want. But for me, I'm happy because I got the course I want. Until now my parents still want me to take the course they want me to but I really don't like it. That's just not the field I like to.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 May 12
i chose my course, in as much as my mom always tries to make us do things, etc... well she let us choose what we want to take in college and she just let us decide and just asked us what we want and if we are sure that this is what we wanted to take.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
wow.. so you're Mom supports you in every decision you made.. i salute!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi edisonbanglos I chose my own courses and am glad I did as
I enjoyed
most of them immensely. My parents did not interfere
at all and thats as it should be. you are the one going to
college so you should be the one to choose your own courses too.I did not let anyone tell me what to take or not take,I am satisfied with what I took. I got my BA in English and that was what I really wanted.
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@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
6 May 12
yeah you're right.. such thought just came into my mind that maybe if it is not just because of fees that we are going to pay, we could freely choose whatever course we want to take .. :))
@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Hi there edisonbanglos...
I chose my course, even though my parents were forcing me to take law or medicine before... Well, I love computers and doing things with them, so I chose to take my bachelor's degree in Information Technology... And I enjoy it.. making applications and other stuff.. And I like developing games... This course is just to tiring and stressing sometimes, because of all the projects and thesis we do.. but still worth it.
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@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
wow, that's great fheroan.. i know IT is one of the in demand courses today.. can you help me out of my problems in my computer? hehe :))
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@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
5 May 12
I chose my own field of study. I have a Bachelor's Degree in Elementary education and now am wokring towards my Master's in Early Childhood Education. It is my goal to open my own preschool and allow parents to pay according to income. I feel that money should be an issue when it comes to a child's education. I am now pursing a Master's in Leadership and Management and then I will take a break and look for work in my field then pursue my PhD.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
6 May 12
oh, I am taking Secondary Education specializing the field of Biological Science.. I love it when you say that you would open your own School and impose tuition fee according to parent's income.. Kudos to you! :))
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
hello chicgale, thank you for responding.. i think the best to do is never try to pursue a degree which you don't like so that everything won't turn to waste.. it's also good to have a conversation maybe with your parents and let them feel that you really want to pursue your desired course and tell them that you will value it so much and you would try all the best that you can be..
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
6 May 12
thanks for that response.. do you feel satisfied of studying that course? are you taking that in your country?
@jhustinian (612)
• Philippines
5 May 12
I think it depends on the student because my Mom was the one who have chosen my course for me but I'm actually doing good in it even though I was really hesitant to take the course before. It's been a drastic period when I was at the period of deciding what course to take. I've been really lost and I don't know what to choose because I really have many interests in life that I could no longer decide what and where to focus on. It was actually funny because I even had 'had' hard feelings when I applied for the course, I said to myself that whatever happens, pretty much swinging to the 'bad side', that it's my Mom who's to blame about it. I was childish I know. But now I'm glad that my Mom was there when I was in my 'INDECISIVE' mode (which is always my mode) to help me out, because I've been enjoying the course that I'm taking and I was included in the top students too. Lucky me!
But it also depends on who had given the advise of course, I wouldn't accept and act upon advises that came from people who don't know me really well, and one who didn't underwent the experience first hand.
I also remember the staffer from the OSA or Official Student Activities (if I'm not mistaken) had helped decide when they assessed my entrance exam result.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
hello jhustinian, glad to hear that.. it is really good to seek for advise from others especially when you can't handle a certain situation anymore.. they will be your best mentors and will never let you down.. if you love your mom, you have to do your best to finish the course she've chosen for you despite of the fact that you don't like it.. btw, OSA stands for Office of Student Affairs :))
@jhamylubz (29)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Sometimes you're right, but there are others who have been taking a course chosen by their parents or friends who became successful and thankful. For me, I chose my course but when I'm in high school my mom always told me that she want me to become doctor and my dad, an engineer. But when I step into college, I chose computer science, I told my mom that I don't want to be a doctor because every time I saw blood of people I'm seeing blurry cause I'm gonna collapse (i know it sounds g*y but what can I do, if I could just stop my blood), and I told my dad, that I'm not good in math so I won't last long in engineering, I mean I will be kicked out. Computer Science, 'cause since when I'm 7 years old I'm already addicted to computer. So they agree with me. I think that they think that there's no other option.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
6 May 12
you made me smile because of your response.. actually i like to become a doctor.. but not engineer.. Math is my weakness too..
@cloud31 (5809)
•
5 May 12
It was my choice.I discussed what I want to take to my parents and they allow me to decide for myself.
Its true that if it was not your choice it may end up into frustrations. The eagerness of learning depend how interested you are in that matter or otherwise..
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@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
and it's important to talk with your parents so that they will know how much they are going to prepare..thank you for the comment :))
@ur4mae (217)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Actually, my scholarship sort of chose my course for me. LOL. I was granted a scholarship but I have to choose from a list of courses offered and the course that I was planning to take up was not included in the list. :( I chose one from the list and graduated. And now I'm working in a field totally not related to my course. But it all was for the best though. All good.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
that's the mismatch.. you know, i've experienced that too.. I was once a scholar and chose to study Business since it is what I want from the list.. but later on, I moved out from the scholarship because I can't handle my business course anymore.. I can't relate it to my real life, I found it so boring and not challenging so I decided to shift to Biology and I'm happy about it.. Actually, after this I am planning to take Nursing and an Aviation course.. it's sounds so cool :))
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
5 May 12
I chose my course in college.My parent let me decide for myself and always support me all the way.They lets us to be independent enough to choose things in our live.There always there to support, advice and teach us every step of the way.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
it's good to hear that ardoy.. you're fortunate enough too that you have parents that would support you in your decisions :))
@xiaoqian19880825 (180)
•
5 May 12
hi,
it's myself who chose all my courses in university. I chose what I like, and I enjoy them. However, sometimes I forced myself to take some courses I didn't like, just for the need of work in future.
So chooose the thing you really like, it's the most important.
Have a nice day!
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
hello xiaoqian.. thanks for the add by the way.. it's good to know that the decision came from you.. what course have you finished?
@ladyhemingway (965)
• Philippines
5 May 12
I agree with this. When I was about to enter college my parents forced me into taking up pre-med course and I stuck to it for one year. I did my best in attaining good grades and I even made it to the deans list. However, I realized that no matter how high my grades were because of hard work I did in terms of studying, I wouldn't be happy at the end of the day. After a year I shifted to Communications because that is where my heart is. My parents were mad but eventually they realized that I am where I should be because I am excelling at school without dying of exerting effort.
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
5 May 12
thanks for the response ladyhemingway.. it's clear to me now that the most important thing is to follow your heart and your dreams.. have a good day :))
@Chikezie (385)
• Malaysia
4 Jul 12
In college, I choose my course and not my parents or siblings. They were just there to advise me on the prospect and I saw how good it is and how it fits my interest and then I pursuit. Sometimes a course chosen by your loved ones for you might be the best career path for you especially if you are not a pragmatic person. Sometimes, it will be a life-long regret. So it depends on the individual
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