your lover will take you for granted if u do things as he want always?

aww i think there is not any good in it. i mean that lovers are those that treat each other in the same way. they must do what they are both interested in. in my opinion, everything depends on the man. if you choose the right one, you will be happy, he will surprise you, and you will not have todo what he wants. it is calledgentleman. :) so choose the right. :) good luck. :)

In love, there should always be give and take, coming from both ways. It can't be the only one getting all they want from the other. Otherwise, that is not called a partnership or a lover anymore, but more like a parasite. I had that experience before in my life, and I really regret that I stooped down to this guy's level. It wasn't a healthy relationship at all. Spoiling someone is not the right way to show our love to them.

I think for respect to exist in a relationship, you should both learn to listen to each other. You guys should give and take. It's not always what he want and not always what you want. Relationships are all about compromising, so you guys should learn that.

Hi, You are talking from your experience and it is almost true also. At times, if we do not stick our own stand, they will definitely exploit and they would assume that we are just followers and do not have any command of action.

well, not always. but yes at times, spouse, either side , can take the other half for granted on occasions. i would suggest, a simple ping to spouse about this at the particular time would get the matter resolved and would lead to a healthy relation

The fact that you have written this letter indicates that there is a problem and that this might be a bit of a one-sided relationship. In a courtship, and even in marriage, two people have to have a conversation about changes in their lives, their needs, any problems they might have and it should never be up to one person alone to make the decisions in the house and in the relationship. This will cause trouble because if you are at opposite ends in a debate or how to raise the kids or where to go on Saturday night, you will go in circles and never find a meeting point. If your partner is opinionated and is always right and always has to win, you might want to think if you want to be in a relationship where you are not able to make your own decisions.

Yes yes, in a relationship, each one should have their own opinions and own mind and body. No one should tell you what you should do. A person should not let her/himself be controlled by anyone especially by a partner.

i am not sure if that is the case. well, it sounds that the partner is immature if s/he only allows his/her partner a certain leeway to be able to proceed and act as a partner. it is very restricting. one must be open to the other desires and needs to be able to have the relationship grow into a happy partnership. and no one will be taken for granted, for sure.

Yes, they will. If I could count the number of people who have come to me because of a break up due to them spoiling their lover too much, I'd probably be rich. Nobody respects a person who will bend to their every will. Well, maybe some people do, but that's another story.

Hi sweet love forever: I agree with you and I just have to say that it's not a good choice to do exactly what your lover wants if you disagree. You would be living a lie and you would be hurting yourself. This will lead into displeasure and the result could be really bad. And if your partner is not wise enough to read the bad signs sure, he/she will take you for granted. ALVARO

Yes, I think both the guy and the girl should have a say on any matter. It should be equal and not just one person deciding on an issue or some stuff. The guy should respect the girls opinion or decision and the girl should also respect the guys opinion. If only one has a say on everything, then I guess that is already a one sided relationship and for sure that relationship will not last forever.