How can I enjoy my life if I have strict parents?

My parents were very strict when I was teenager. I had to go home early and I wasn't allowed to do the same things as my friends. I have a brother who is younger than me and they were less strict when he was a teenager. I once asked my mother about it and I said: "Why is he allowed to do all those things, I was never allowed to do those things when I was his age" and my mother replied: "you can't compare that, he is a boy and you are a girl, it is more risky for a girl to stay out late at night" When I was a teenager I was unhappy that I couldn't do the same things as my friends, but today I am an adult myself and I understand my parents feelings. They were strict because they were afraid that something bad would happen to me, and I would probably feel the same way I had my own children.

Good day toxic_lifestyle, It seems like we are on the same boat. As my parents were so strict that I cannot move freely even I am already old. To tell you honestly, my age was not even on the calendar, hence, they are still treating me like a child who needs supervision in all aspects. And, just one day, I feel so suffocated. That, I feel the need to voice out what is inside of me. That, I cannot move on my own. So I have talked to my mom and explained to her that I need to grow-up and find myself. Well, of course, my mom did not understand what I mean since she has a closed mind. However, I proceed to what I think is right, as long as I do not cross on the boundaries which has been taught to us especially when we are still young. Hence, slowly everything is taking place. My mom slowly realized that I need to grow-up and find myself being a lady. That she also realized that, I have already a mind of my own.

I had very strict parents as a child. I often was not permitted to do what my friends were doing. I realize now that I did indeed enjoy life. My parents were only looking after me and some of my friends got real problems because their parents allowed them to do whatever they wanted. Unfortunately, we can only see the wisdom of our parents much later in life as we begin to understand why they did what they were doing. _Derek

hi toxic lifestyles you are twenty so if you show some maturity and thoughtfulness I imagine that they will start to realize you are a new young adult.they just want to be they have taught you all the fundamentals to handle life as a

my parents were strict to me when i was achild. now times change. and they are not strict. i can do whatever i want. and that is great. but sometimes i wish they were strict as strict as they were. i really missed it . i am sure that i will be better edicated and so on.

nah ,i also have strict parents .. im already 22 years old but i've never been to places far away from home ,they never gave permission for me to travel around the world ..ahaha or to go far away from home , but still i love them both :)

My folks were strict and very protective. Mom was also my best friend. I never outgrew being able to talk to her about anything, mainly because we both listened to each other without screaming being a part of it. I could not wear even pale pink lipstick until my sixteenth birthday. That was the day I also got my first pair of 2" high heels. Maybe we had an odd relationship, but I didn't feel deprived or ever want anything other kids had. Having a close family outweighed anything else. Our home ended up being the place other kids came to because Mom always welcomed them and would whip up something special. They knew and obeyed house rules. I didn't miss anything because that went on into our late teens. I brought my kids up the same way and they turned out loving, friendly and having a boatload of friends.

Parents are strict because they are worried if something bad crops up to their children. You say they are strict because you never know how parents feel about their beloved children. When you become a parent later you will know that all parents do the right things about their children.

I am a father of 2 children aged 15 years (boy) and a girl child with the an age of 13. I never given a chance to my children to be called as a strict father. Because I enjoyed and the freedom from a loving parents (my parents) and I am much bothered my children should not get suffered due to my strict and stringent rules. Life is to live and enjoy and parents should realise the fact. Strictness and control is good upto a certain extent and beyond that no one can cooperate with it and it will creat negative impact on it. Also, if we give a true love and genuine freedom along with proper guidelines and understanding I am sure that the children will really enjoy and they will love we people from their open heart. My parents loved and given a lot of freedom and only because of that (may be) I (we 5 children) never cursed or cheated our parents and with bad intentions. With the experience so far, I think children are to be freed and they should not brough up with the military rules. However, there are certain children taking advantage of such situations. Due to the false companionship and school/college atmosphere children become out of the way and in such cases, the children itself become awere about themselves. My thoughs wont be applicable to all the countries or places where the living standards are different. But a combination of both strict at the same time chidren are aware about the stand of the parents, the consequences can be minimised and a mutual understanding between children and parents.

For me, it is normal. They are just protecting you especially that you are a girl. Parents are really strict to their female children. Just enjoy life and follow what they've told to you. It is for your good anyway.

If your parents are extremely strict,then enjoying life really becomes an impossible proposition.I did have a very strict father.My mother,however,was just a quintessential mother-tender heart and loving;innocent.But my father was just the opposite.He was a man of influential personality,dominant nature and extremely disciplined.He was the one who called the shots in our family.To this extent I had no problems.Problems began arising when he started determining which of my classmates should be my friend.All other boys were barred from being my friends.Another problem is that he limited my movements to certain selective places.He was doing all this for my good,but at that time it was really suffocating.So I found out a way to relieve myself of stress and enjoy life.I began reading books on mythology.This helped me improve my knowledge of my mother tongue,Hindi,and boost my imagination.And believe me,I started enjoying my life.

ur parents are good lovers. they you a lot and so they are more care taking towars you. so dont become guilty and be happy and dont worry dear. u try to convince them when you are serious about your parents restrictions and you dont go for other aspects . you are so trust and confident to wards your parents. ok dear be happy and have a great life. always try to enjoy with your parents dont go to other crazy thaughts when your parents are more restricted towards you

There a lot of ways to enjoy life even we have strict parents. Don't let your parents hinder you of what you enjoy most in life. Parents are bridges to our success, that's why they're sometimes strict and over protective. But that's just how they go. It's in their system as parents. It all depends on how you understand them of being strict. Let them perceive in a way that they too must understand, that you too have a life. One thing you should always remember is, love your parents while they're still there, because once they're gone, they can never be replaced by anyone in this world.

They are parents, providing the best thing for their children. That is a sign of showing their love. We need to understand that being a parent is the hardest job, especially taking good care of their children.

First of all what is your definition of strict? What makes you think they are strict? They may be just wanting to keep you from things that can harm you in your future and your life. So without know what your mean by strict it is hard to answer your questions.

Umh, i live far away from my hometown when i was 17 so that i have my right to decide anything related to my life since that time. However, before it my parents take a look at me everyday. I had go to school and went home after studying time. If i wanted to go out i had to ask my parent permission. If they agree then i could go and went back home on time as they said. I think it was good for me because we need our parents supervise on us when we are growing up. I really don't understand much in your case when you said that your parents are so strict....However, i hope you understand that if they were strict because they really do care you and protect you only.

Yes, I know how you feel. Sometimes I cry when I feel suffocated. Sometimes I show them that I'm crying because they won't allow me to go but most of the times they just ignore my drama and still won't allow me. I have missed SO MUCH in my teenage years just because of this and I swore to myself that when I get a career, I will be independent and live on my own so that I won't need their permission anymore.

its ok. this is common as most of the parents want to be protective about their child, so its not there fault. just show that you are not a kid now. DO some responsible things which will highlight your responsibly and even if they are being strict about don't do this or don't go here and there, then you my trick no 5, i.e combined study at friends place. haha. that's the safe play. NO parent will say no to that. Just tell that you are g.oing to your friends home as there is no one there and you guys will study whole night together or will do some assignment together. just with this you will get rid of ur home and once you are out of your home you can easly go to any place with your friends. But make sure you choose right person to be your friends

It's not something unusual believe me. I'm an only kid and my parents have just been the worst enemies of my teenage life. I'm a girl which complicates everything even more. I did not have the freedom to choose the course that I wanted, I did not have choice on how I simply wanted to plot my future. But you know what, I'm a solo parent of a 5-year old kid now, and I now understand how tough it is. At the end of the day, parents just want the best for us. It just that sometimes, they fear that we would end up on the bad side of the road. Try to talk to your parents and try to communicate how you can build their trust. All relationships are a two-way street and I'm pretty sure that your parents would be more than open to know how they would be able to improve their "parenting techniques". :)

Hahaha..same here. I also feel suffocated because of my very strict parents but AI understand them because they are just being good to me. They just do it for my own sake!