Mothers day and again someone having a screaming match in the Hall

Maybe it should be renamed Smothers Day? I personally wouldn't wish to smother a mother, but there are plenty of others I'd like to do that to!

Hi Aunt Hatley. I think it is natural. You are a caregiver and a problem solver. Just because you retired and now live in a home doesn't mean you have stopped caring. I know you are grateful to have the presence of mind to behave in a calm and assertive manner when the need arises.

I'm sorry of what you have felt in time of mothers day. Maybe you just go away and have some walk so that you can't hear and saw what's happening on the confrontation. Your right mam sometimes even we are not involve we can absorb their emotions and the negative feelings are attracting us. Just ignore the situation and try to find something you will make you happy. Take care always

It would bother me too... Hope you get your internet back soon.

Oh yes...I think it could be because you have spent so much time taking care of people. Sometimes it's hard not to react when it is a part of what we have done for a long time. Holidays of any kind can put pressure on people. I hate that too because I think they are meant to relax and enjoy. Take care Ms. Hatley and I hope you had a nice Mother's Day.

I think it's just natural when you hear confusion to want to get it resolved. It is upsetting and you never know when it could escalate to something dangerous or even fatal. It keeps you on alert as long as the commotion is going on. I recently moved away from a 4 family building where there was always something going on with two tenants being bi-polar and I almost moved into a large complex on the advice of a friend who lived there. Fortunately I stayed with this friend for a couple of weeks and was able to see and hear a lot of confusion in that short time. That plus another friend heard I was moving and offered me the first floor of his two family rental house. No one lives upstairs, the neighbors are super nice and it is so peaceful here. I would not trade that for the world. I hate to hear your peaceful Mother's Day has been someone else's senseless confusion.

I am sure you are not the only one who gets uptight when they hear a confrontation of some sort, and I think the reason more of them might happen on Holidays is because this is the time families are trying to spend more time together, and then something is said that upsets someone, and causes a Big ruccus that instead of being an Adult about one of them tries to act like they know everything, and none of it could be their fault. Would be nice if they could keep it somewhere inside.

You are extra sensitive to this because of the strife in your home growing up. Your body is probably acting the same way it did when your parents fought. It is not made better by the fact that you lived in apartments and the fact that you have the training to be a caretaker, even if you are not employed as one anymore. Try to have some soothing music and do what you can to block out the sound. As always, think of coming here and visiting us as well.

I bet it does test your patience at times. Holidays are probably the only time the quarrelors can stand to be around one another and we know why. Petty things are usually what start the quarrels. Too many of them add a bunch of them up and a last straw blows it out of the ball park and it blows up. My ex used to keep his lip sealed until he had had afew drinks and then the roof would come off the house.

i think it must be the depression of having to be in there on a holiday when others are out enjoying their families. so sorry dear. but at least you have a loving caring son that may get to visit. some may not be as lucky as you and are likely envious. (sp?) anyway, they should concider they are lucky to have you a caring person around them. Happy moms day Hatley you deserve a good one.

Hi Hatley, I think it is a human nature. When people get together in any occasion some make noise without any reason. They break the gravity of the occasion. People should be restrained in public. At home we can do anything freely. None have the right to break peace and tranquility in public.

I would also have my heart pounding, Hatley. I don´t understand why some people forget that they are not the only people around. They have no respect for others. I´m sorry there´s noone to end the problem quickly. The longest it is the more it gets out of hands.

Happy Mothers' day Hatley aunty ! Happy grand mother !You are with one hundred people in the Home. great. that requires tolerance, understanding, patience. You also should take care of belongings such that others do not take away your valuables. My children called my wife and wished mothers' day. we visited my mother in law yesterday. No mother - no child. No mother - we are not there. Mother is all in all just as God is all in all in the world. No doubt our father is responsible for our coming into this interesting/uninteresting/happy/problematic world. We in turn have brought our children to this world.

Hi Hatley, There seems to be an action most of the time in the Hall. It is quite annoying if we witness or hear some screaming from people when we really wanted to enjoy the Holidays. You just don't mind them, go to some quiet room and enjoy chatting with friends. Put on some music and hopefully you won't be able to hear their yells. =) Happy Mother's day!

It is a natural reaction to a stress - the old "fight or flight" thing - that kind of behavior is upsetting because it means danger to our "primitive" self...

What are the odds that the ones who get into arguments are the ones who tend to be ignored by their families? They feel left out while others have visitors, receive flowers and gifts, etc. They're angry about their situations, but the only people to take it out on are their fellow residents.

ohhhh someone disturbed peace and order then..well i guess try your best to ignore it Hatley..as it might destroy your day hope you are better now.

dear Hatley, Sorry to hear about this. I hope you are doing fine and I want to greet you HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

It is true, if I remember it correctly,last time something happened at Christmas.No one knows whether they happen to do that or do that on purpose.Why did some people like to rock the boat and spoil the pleasure on holiday? They went so far as to forget where they were.

hi hatley, I know just what you are saying and how you feel..I think its the Mother instinct in some of us that have just thinking we can step up and help everyone...I and sure guilty of that in many ocassions...My children alway tell me to not got up stairs \or next door but I have hear so many incident where there was rukkus and someone got hurt or worst killed because no one step up to the plate and intervene...I mean I don't jump into all situtations but I certainly have the compassion to try to bring harmony into situtions... But as long as we live around the general populations these things\ will happen....