how do you choose where to put a "plus" at a response?

I hope someone replies to me on this comment that I make here about plus and minus and tell me if they think I am totally off base or correct and maybe I will learn something. - more than i would from a coloured number I choose not to take part in this aspect of mylot. I think it is silly. It is silly because owlwings has a nine star. Owlwings a nine! Come on! This is ridiculous. When I saw that owlwings had a nine it put me over the top. Of all people to rate from a ten to a nine. This is crazy. No, I will not take part in this ridiculous activity. Many members who are rating people are not qualified to make any kind of worth while judgement and so the whole rating system is made invalid. That is my opinion. I am open to change it but I think I just might stick to it. Ratings become all meaningless. I do care about what the admins say about my activity, mylot says $, and I care about what a mylot friend might tell me. All this plus minus stuff is a trivial game I think I don’t want to take part in it so don't rate at all except to comment on and give my impartial opinion on the rating system.

I think you are quite right, Bluedoll. I am long past worrying about my 'star'. I think it may be because I am inclined to tell people when they don't appear to have understood the Guidelines properly. Mostly, they are grateful and apologetic but occasionally some can be nasty about it and I know that a few (really very few) have deliberately gone through my posts 'negging' them. Nobody can please all of the people all of the time. Red, for me, denotes 'activity' and 'life' and 9 is a thrice lucky number. It suits me!

You are both so right (as I see it). But it does take a lot of different people to make the world and some love to rate others, some love to be rated, some don´t mind and some don´t care. I´m a "ten" yet some people I admire here (and consider that they are giving a lot more to the site) have less rating. When I said "rude" people, I meant offensive, not frank. I feel being more or less frank is a personality trait that is reasonable. Offensive words do not belong here though. I remember, years ago, when a mylotter was sending everyone to hell if they did not have her religious beliefs. Stars, anyway, are mainly for toddlers in school. So maybe stars are ok for newbies but we senoirs have friends and more fun.

I liked your way of rating. I wholly gree with you that this world needs more love. I will take this into consideration in the future.

That´s how I do it too, MoonGypsy. And lenght does not mean quality always.

I don´t agree with your use of the + but I understand you are entitled to rate as you think best. What I feel there, though, is that there´s no separation between good, mediochre and bad. At school, in my country, they have different grades for different responses in tests. I think that a plus rating means excellency. If everyone got an A at school (or a 100 or whatever each country had to measure exellency) we would not be able to have the people in the work that they do best.

That is something to think about: to give a plus to a post. I was thinking more about answers, but you are right. If we care to respond it is because something in the post caught our eye. Good idea!

Would you give a plus whatever the outcome? I have found out that some of the answers to my discussions are good and original and some are just half an idea thrown at the table.

I've only started one discussion, and in this discussion I was grateful for any response. All respondents put some effort into their response, and I take the view that effort should be rewarded, as well as "outcomes". In the case of my discussion, none of my respondents had come across the kind of incident I was trying to get information on. Anyone who sees this comment, if you have heard of anyone dying as a result of falling asleep unclothed under a ceiling fan (I've been told of one capital city in a politically sensitive tropical country in which it is not an isolated occurrence), please let me know - It may be that mylot could be an agent for beneficial social change.

You wouldn't. These are guys from the hills (sometimes quite educated), labouring in towns and herded into large rooms/small dormitories. After a shift they go to their room, strip off and lie down under the big ceiling fan to cool off. If they fall asleep and no one comes in to switch the fan off, they wake up unable to move, and if no one's around to rescue them, they die - that's what I understand from what I have been told. If this isn't due to a genetic weakness in the people group(s) of whom I've heard this, I'll bet it's happening somewhere in Santiago and you haven't heard about it! When you say you don't have AC in your bedrooms, I understand this to mean that you don't have electricity mains power sockets in your bedrooms. Am I correct, or is "AC" an abbreviation for something else?

I thought I read in the rules that the - sign wasn't about people agreeing with you but a badly written post. In fact I once gave a best response to a person who disagreed with me. It was well written. It didn't change my mind but it was well written. Promoting something doesn't bother me. I can always say no!

I know that - signs cannot mean disagreement. In fact, sometimes it´s nice to see other points of view for a topic if they are expressed with respect (we also have to post with respect as I see it). I like a sense of humor, but cannot accept rude people.

This is not a matter of what is right or wrong. It´s just what you do. As for me, I use the ! sign when senior members promote their sites. I cann even take my time to explain to newbies they are wrong (although I´m not that naive and believe they know they shouldn´t). But if they have, say, 1000 posts, they should get punished. I´m not a plus giver, except if the answer is very good, but I think I´ll be nicer from now on. This post has taught me some things.

But as we have seen, so many people come and go - and new people come that haven't even gotten a notification - they don't have to respond, nobody does, but they do and I appreciate (and reward) it.

Maybe that is not fair to the people who have done more that to "bother" to respond to your discusion. I respond only to discussions I´m interested in and iit´s not a bother at all.

You have a warm heart, friend

I have received a similar answer here where the other person gave a plus to any discussion that interested her/him enough to respond it. I had not thought of that, but I will do it from now on. It seems fair as it´s so difficult to start a new interesting conversation.

It seem to me that all of us find it easier to give a + than a minus.

We all learn. I remember I had so many deleted posts at the beginning. So I started to post less and read more. Everything changed.

Some of the answers I have had here are the same as you posted. I must confess that I don´t use too many pluses. But after your answers, I think I´ll recobsider in some other instances.

You are right, kei. A good discussion should provide a diversity of view points.

I agree with the Lamb. I become friends with people that have similar interests (on and off line) but learn and respect other points of view as long as they are respectful too. A good answer with which I will not agree as a whole can give me a new trend of thought to widen my universe later on.

I agree with you both. Pluses should also be given to people who disagrees with you or get into a good discussion/debate with you as long as that person provides content, respects you and your thoughts, and makes sense :P

I have learned a lot here at mylot. At one time I gave a plus to several new knowledge, but now I don´t do it so often. I remember the first time I heard about chapatis. I felt elated. Yet now I know that it´s as normal as if I explained about what a marraqueta means for me or what is a baguette for a french.

I do the same what jure does.. :-)

I don´t rate much, but because I feel that the pluses should be left for very good responses and the minus only for nasty words. I also wish I could come to mylot more, but one thing or another comes along and I don´t have either the time or the energy. Take care, Deb

It seem to me that all of us find it easier to give a + than a minus. I like that because I feel that we care for other mylotters.

Hi sayo. Have you ever given a minus? On what grounds would you think of doing it? I wask you, because I feel you care very much about feelings.

I suggest you take a look at the rules and guidelines of this awesome site. You´ll have more fun if you read them and follow the guidelines. I remember, when I was a newbie, that I had several posts deleted until I learned. Happy posting!