How to Deal with Grief

I just lost my husband. To bad were only get married for almost a week. Its been two years since we were together but the pain is almost there. I loved my husband and all our memories are coming back every time I remember him. Only God knows were he is right now.

Actually, there is no way to speed up the grief process. It has to run it's natural course. I know it's hard, but everyone goes through it at some point. Time does have a way of healing. But one thing I would like to point out. It's one thing to lose a parent, that seems more normal in the sense of the natural progression. And I do know the grief hurts. But what about those people that lose a child, their pain and grief has to be much worse. And they are always left with what ifs. You will okay in time.

The thing that I've found to be the case with grief is that it is something that never totally goes away. My father passed away in 1994 and there is still not a day that goes by that I don't think about him. The days when I just cry about the fact that he isn't with us aren't as frequent now as they used to be, but there are even still days that that happens as well. With that said, over time, the pain will fade, but it will never, ever totally be gone.

Grief will take as long as it needs to to pass. You lost someone special to you and it would not do him justice if you didn't feel the grief, but some tricks are trying to imagine him in a better place. Think of all the struggles he faced in life and know that where ever he is those struggles are over now.

Unfortunately, there is no easy way dealing with grief. You are in for the five stages of grief and if you go through all of the stages there will eventually be resolution. But we are in a hurry to dispense with the pain. The pain hurts. It's like a stone in your heart. I will say a prayer for you to get through it. Cry if you must. Time heals everything.

I understand its a great loss,its so helpless feeling loosing someone very close to your heart.we owe our life to our parents in fact our existance .It is so hard to overcome the feeling of pain when you have shared the brightest joys and biggest fears with someone,when there is no substitute.But we as humans has to bear this pain by any means,i can feel your conditions try to think of all the good things he taught you,try to be the one what he wanted you to be, live for his dreams,love your family more,he is always with you in your heart and soul,god bless you.

The only real way to deal with grief is to face it and live through it. It will get better as time goes by. Don't try to deny it or it will pop up when you least expect it. I lost my mom over four years ago and still now and then something happens to make me miss her. I would love to call her up on the phone and sit and talk like we used to, but I don't cry about it any more. I'm glad I have the memories and you will be, too, in time. I guess I'm trying to say, "It's okay to grieve. It's good that you do." Grief is a natural process of healing and if we try to hurry it, it would be like a wound healing from the outside in. You have to let nature take its proper course.

I'm really sorry to hear that. There are really times when we feel like we can't hold back the tears anymore and they just needed to come out, so let them be. It's okay to be sad once in a while especially when you remember some nice moments that you've shared with him. Are you a spiritual or religious person by any chance? I hear that prayer helps. But, if you're not, just remember to divert your grief towards other things. Better yet, just spend more time with others especially with the rest of your family and friends.

I believe that you're very sad because your father was far. The time will help you. If you're sad and you like to cry, you should accept this. You will get used to that feeling and will subside after some time.

Grief is a natural response to anything we lost so dearly. We all have that once or more in our lives. Reality bites really. All we need is to face this reality with an open mind and a strong heart. We need others to make it through, a support system where we can verbalize our feelings. I believe all wounds are not forever, there will always be healing. Whatever religion or beliefs you have right now, you need to pray for courage, strength and wisdom. It is perfect and easy to say these, but, I think, you and your family can overcome the grief someday with the help of others - within your family and friends. I'm with you in prayers that you may find the happiness and comfort in this trying times.