My friend wants to move in with me :/

You did right, i think. Say no is the best decision since she is like that. She has to know to pay her bills herself, can't just depend on the others...

You are definitely doing the right thing ! As a cat owner myself, I put them up as priorities the same way that you are doing. They deserve to be just as happy and relaxed as we are. Good for you for thinking of them so highly. :) I also like my space, it can be such a huge factor in how happy we are in our day-to-day lives. Good luck in the future !

I think it is about time that you have your own space if you want it. You have put up with too much living with others. I would say no as well.

Good for you. I can certainly understand the need for space. We all need space from time to time. Too much togetherness will drive you crazy and also alter your friendship. You did the right thing and I'm sure eventually they will both understand.

I think it is great that you had declined your friend's offers. I had roommates myself in the past and they never worked out. My roommmates always expected me clean up after them and cook them dinner. One time my roommate had the nerve to lie to the police that I had left obscene messages on her phone (when she was the one who did it and I had proof, but the police did not want to hear them). I told the police that I was at work and that my friend and co-worker can vouch for me because she took me home that night because Randy was working late and my co-worker did not want me to walk home late at night. The police did not believe me. Then at 11PM I was sleeping on the couch waiting for Randy to come and see me after he got off from work (he did this every night he worked) and there was a knock at the door. I thought it was him, but it turned out to be my roommmates boyfriend who barged into the house and started cussing at me and I told him I was going out and he said "sit down". I said, "well, I know how stupid you are, but I am a human being not a dog. I know you talk to your girlfriend like a dog, but that does not give you the right to treat me that way". I had walked to Randy's work and told him what was going on and we drove back to my apartment to make sure that nothing was broken (he went in and I sat in the car his friend followed us to make sure that I would not get hurt). I ended up staying the night at his house and the next day the landlord comes over and says that I had five days to get out because the police showed up and I said I was at work and my roommate left me harassing messages, it was not me. I said here is a copy of the police report and the landlord would not read it. Ever since this bad experiece I had moved in with an elderly lady and did housework in exchange for free room. Then when she went into a nursing home I moved into an apartment until Randy's mom got sick then I moved in with her and Randy. So, needeless to say I do not blame you for not wanting to move in with other people. It is hard paying your own bills, but worse when others do not pay their way and expect you to pay their bills as well.

I would do the same if i were you. Living with different people is so uncomfortable as if you have lost some of your freedom. You will have always somebody to consider to and it seems that you could not do what you want freely. Besides, what if they could pay, who will pay. I have been into that situation when i was still a student and living with other students in a boarding house. It was a sacrifice and i don't want it to happen again.

Good for you! I think it a wish choice to move out on your own, whatever troubles you endure will be your own and that will make them easier to take. Everybody wants to be your roommate because they know you are responsible. They know by the stories you've told them about others you've lived with that no matter what, you will always come through when it comes to the bills, food, etc. You are hot roommate material, very desirable; especially for lazy or cheap people. If you start to get a soft heart and begin to consider letting someone room with you, remember this: "You don't need anyone to help you do badly, you can do that all by yourself."