How Much Should You Know About A Person Before A Relationship?

According to my experiences. I think that in building better relationship (not only in case of love, but also in work, friendship, family), it should be better to let them know about us. You know, sometimes we asks for God to send good person with good personality to our life, but its wrong. If we really asks for that, the thing we have to do is when we want to good person come to our life, we have to be good first. How about being good? Just love everybody, give the best to everybody, and do the best you can to everybody. After that, stop thinking and asking for God to send you the best person with the best personality to you since, finally the best one will come to you sooner or later. Thanks for this discussion space, and sorry for my bad english, since I am Indonesian. :D

I haven't bothered with dating much but, for me, there is one point at which I can pretty much get a good idea whether or not I want to attempt a relationship with them. The first time we are having dinner, or in the middle of a movie, etc. and my pager goes off and I have to respond to a wildland fire, and might be gone an hour or 14 hours to days. If he can handle that, and not freak out.....there might be a good chance. Also, I'm very independent, and if they are wanting to be my constant shadow, or constantly wanting to know where I am and what I'm doing, it won't work. I think that besides the first time my pager goes off....you can get a pretty good idea of whether or not you want to be in a relationship with someone within 6 months.

If You're spending time with someone because you like being in their company,it's already a relationship of some kind..the point you're looking for is when to decide to take it to a different level than just hanging out...It can be a lot of little things coming together to make that "It's Time" realization happen..A special smile for You,holding your gaze,wanting you near,progress from the first kiss..if it's working,don't overthink WHY..just Go with the flow..If you want to be with them,and they need time to open up,let them..Somebody trying to open themselves up to you completely early on can mean they feel they can trust you,they don't want to hold back from you,or any of a number of reasons,or they just want to talk to You. There's no approved checklist for progress in a relationship..some want to play games,some are quite serious,some will be fast,some slow..just do your best to be with this Person if you want to care about them.

My friend met a man online. When they had known eachother for two weeks they decided to move in together. She gave up her apartment and moved to another part of the country. I thought that it was much too early to take a step like that, but my friend was sure that she had made the right decision. It looks like it really was the right decision, because today they are married and they have been together for 10 years. Personally I prefer to get to know the person better before I enter a relationship. I had 3 long term relationships before I met my husband and my first boyfriend and I became a couple quite fast, I don't regret that, but my other relationships started as friendships and I think that is a good basis for a relationship. If a person doesn't want to tell me much about himself, I think that he could be hiding something, but it doesn't have to be that way. Maybe he is just shy and maybe he is finds it difficult to talk about himself. I don't think that a person who tells you too much on the first date is always a desperate person. Some people are open and very talkative and that is just a part of their personalities.

Really, it's impossible to know someone, completely, because we all go through life at the same rate, so you can't tell someone, everything. If you meet someone when you're 20, then you have 20 years of experiences, and that would take 20 years to tell, but by that time, you'd have another 20 years of experience! If a person is more shy, then that could just mean that they're shy, rather then hiding something... and maybe what they're hiding isn't that wild, just something they're more ashamed of? My point is, don't be too worried about someone telling you too much or too little... if it's not something that works with you, then just move on.

Well,personally i think that i'm the type of person who needs long time getting along with each other and this gives me time to get to know whether we are meant to be.And i'm i really feel i'm in love.If the guy who do not want to show and share me his stories, and then i suppose we still can not step into that period.

I think that one of the problems about society these days is the fact that people form relationships with people without really knowing about whether they're going to get on with them first. When I first got with my partner, we had known each other for six months and we took things very slowly at the beginning. This was the right thing to do, as we are still together three years later which I think is quite good considering I am still only relatively young. He was the first proper boyfriend that I had, and I am pleased about the fact that I have managed to spend so long with him.

I think that you should know as much about a person as you can. after all, a relationship is a commitment. It gives a stronger foundation to build on when you know the likes and dislikes of your partner and their strengths and weaknesses as well.

Hey, great discussion! No we don't know almost nothing. I dated friends and although I knew them like forever I learned so much more after dating. If the person is interested in us since from the beginign it gets worse, they might be faking lots of things since from the begining. There are also things we just didn't realize or only intimacy can show and they weren't faking at all. I think not even a relationship but tought times can really show how a person is, so when married and the couple are in crisis they should really stick, hang on in there for a few more years to be sure.

hi there! i think it's best if you get to know each other more through friendship phase. weeks aren't enough to know someone deeply. months may be okay and acceptable. it takes a lot of process to know someone truly. you may want to proceed to a relationship deeper than being friends if you felt you know each other well enough.. because it takes bot of you to get married or live in one roof before you may fully know the personality of one another. that's it. good luck!

i think before entering into a relationship with a person it is more important to know that whether the person is genuinely in love with you or not, and how much commitment he can give to the relationship.other important things to know is how much this person is honest and and how much serious he/she is with you and the things related to you. I am sharing as the things that turned for me in my case, i never trusted him but he proved me wrong and made me believe in him and have a faith in the relationship in which i am going to enter. he was so dedicated and caring for me that it made me take him seriously . i used to avoid him since i lost faith in boys due to my pat relationship experience, but he proved me that not every guys are of same nature and quality. he made me believe in what he says and that too that he was saying all truth to me. you need to pick it up from minute to minute factors and the situations and this will make you more confident on what you get out of the happenings.you have to grasp every word he speak and every way he deal with you. you can even ask the people who are experienced and can provide you with some advice.

hello there. This is based on my experience and for what I do believe is the best thing to know if you are ready to enter a relationship with a girl. I already have 3 ex girlfriend and now single. For what I know, the most reliable thing to ask is how do you feel when youre with and not with her. Love is love. When you love someone you just do, no doubts, no questions why, you just do, and knowing a person really takes a lifetime.

I think you should befriend them for about 6 months then see how you like them.

You should definitely avoid dating anyone who doesn't want to give you any information about them, they are definitely hiding something. Any of my boyfriend that I've had that didn't want to give me personal information where usually hiding something from me, like the fact that they had another girlfriend. You should especially be wary of anyone you have been dating for over a month who doesn't trust you enough to give you information.

Hi friend, According my experience and those of my friends, i would say it wouldnt be enough if u spend the entire life with a person, because people are complex and can change subjected to environment, so i guess, u should try to know about the family and his friends as well as try to know that person. I would say trust your instinct b4 u take any decision, look deep inside u and ask whether u love that person go accept his "good,bad and the ugliness" and still love him..you have to understand that that person is also a human like u and has all the feeling like u, if u have feelings for him, return it and hope that the feelings are returned..:) Have a great day