They said "be practical"

The concept or rich as someone who has lots and lots of money in their bank account is for me a big mistake. Yeah, you have so much money in your bank account but are you willing to take something from it? How many days can you keep it there? If you have no job, how long can you survive? First and foremost, people's concept of what is rich should be changed. As there are many rich people who has less money than the poor. The only thing that separates the rich from the poor is that the rich buy themselves things that would make them money while as for the poor, they buy expenses. If I am a parent, I would tell my child to become rich instead of marrying into money. That offspring may not have much money but as long as that child has the qualities of being rich: Decisiveness, Discipline and Determination--and the proper knowledge of mastering money, sooner or later, that child will become rich without any help. If you want my views of practicality, it's this: Don't marry yet, if you have nothing to support your way of living--more or less feed a child that is soon to come. During this time, if you don't know how to invest or make a business run, save. The younger you are the better. Use time and never touch the money then (it would take at least a decade to get some good money out of your savings). Make sure that you have your own source of income for yourself. It is never good to just depend on one person who is not you.

In my opinion, our parents do not have the right to choose who we love. Yes, they are the ones who raised us but when we reached the age when we can decide for ourselves, they are out of the picture. Love is the most important thing why you marry a person. No love, then your marriage is a total mess. This also points that poor men don't have the right to marry since they don't have anything to give to their wives! And this is very unfair to them. Even a poor man can raise a family like the rich man can do. They struggle hard to earn in order for his family to live. And they value money more than anyone else can do.

Good day Mackenzie_jad228, With reference to your main topic, indeed it is ideal to be practical. But, this word applies to a certain extent. As there are some instances that this is not applicable just like in the situation you have stated. And if I will be in this place, perhaps, I will think a lot of times before proceeding.

Hi Mackenzie_jad228, Love is an eternal feeling, it's not for everyone. It happens to a very few people and in those very people there are a very few who can realize that it's love and among those, there are a very very few who can get the true love. Apart from those few people all others are just wasting time in doing some non-sense things, most of the parents do fall in the same category, people who have never experienced true love in their life, they will think something like money can give their child happiness for the life time..and that's why you see these type of non-sense rules in our society, there is no relation between love and money. When it comes to relationship, love is the most important thing, it should not be related to Money at any point of time.

I would correct the concept by following what I really want. I believe it is not wrong not to follow my parents in this case. Everybody want to be rich instantly. If given the chance I would grab every opportunity by marrying a rich woman. But for me, it is more sweet, I felt better and I will be more proud if I earned what I truly deserved. I deserved to earn that in the sense that I really struggle, with sleepless nights and seemingly unending sacrifices. Lotto winning? why not. Getting rich in an instant maybe not be my goal right now, a peaceful, contented life is everything I always wanted to have.

Personally, I prefer a hardworking man to a rich man. I think it's useless if a man is already rich, but he's too lazy to work and all he can do is just wasting his (parent's) money. What I like about a hardworking man is that, maybe he is not rich enough today, but sometimes I'm sure he can be succeed and have enough (not a lot of) money. And I'm sure he'll manage his money so well since he got it not easily ^^

Someone in my family told me that its crazy for me to marry my husband because he's an undergrad and that I'm better off with someone who's also a college grad like me. I thank God because he gave me such an open mind. I told that relative of mine that I don't need a partner that is rich I can work for us if ever my partner won't be able to compensate for the both of us. I don't have to be "practical" only to be in a relationship. Sometimes people idolize money so much that they think its everything in the world. Nothing is constant, life is ever changing. Regarding your questions: Do these parents think that their daughters will be happy in the long run if they will marry a guy they didn't love? -Deep inside they know that she'll never be happy unless their daughter is materialistic and narcissistic I guess that will do. Do you believe that in the end their daughters will learn to love their husband if we knew that they love somebody else but still chose to marry to rich guy? -I don't know. Maybe if the husband is worth loving why not right? If you're or would be a parents will you also want to children to marry a rich partners? -Only if they will marry because of love and God is the center of their relationship and not MONEY! Will you have the courage to correct the wrong concept of you parents and be ready to face the challenges of marrying a not rich husband? -I already defied my parents by marrying someone who's not rich or not par with their expectation (money).

To be honest I am not sure what I would do in that situation. Granted I am not a female, but that mentality p!sses me off. It is why the world is so screwed up. I am glad you brought up the point. This is more of a conversation we need to have. Lets quit glorifying people. Some people do not deserve to be rich they were born in it, and have no clue what it took to get there.

Marrying someone because of their money is a good way to ensure you will never stand on your own two feet. Remember love is a two way street, and just like the bride who only loves her husbands money. The husband loves his money as well, and will do everything to protect that money. It's an easy way to be tossed out into the streets, once the husband finds a better bride.

If somebody is in love then the story is different but if it is the case of arranged marriage then why not to pick the best.We may blame the parents to have a narrow mindset but in real terms if they insist their daughter it surely will not be only based on somebody being rich they might have shortlisted the guy based on many parameters.