MyLot Marriages, Divorces and Annulments
@purplealabaster (22091)
United States
May 27, 2012 10:47am CST
So I have this problem, and I was hoping that some of you out there could offer your advice and perhaps share your experiences regarding this issue. Now, I know there are some of you that have a myLot marriage, and I also know that a few of you have gotten a myLot divorce ... or perhaps it was an annulment. If you do not fall into any of these categories, perhaps you know of or have read about some of these sort of situations and could offer secondhand advice.
It seems that I have been abandoned by my myLot husband. I mentioned in a discussion a month or so ago that I suspected that we had gotten a divorce due to abandonment and I had just not received the papers yet. He resurfaced long enough to challenge this and say that he has no intention of giving me a divorce, and his presence on the discussion was proof that he had not abandoned me. However, since then he has disappeared again, and I am definitely feeling neglected and abandoned by him.
What I want to know is what constitutes grounds for a myLot divorce or annulment, and how do I go about obtaining one? Do I have to get approval from GAA for this sort of thing, or do I just make an announcement and it is done? Back when we got married, GAA was still a girl, and she did not have anything to do with the marriage, so I suspect that Alex would not have to be involved with the divorce, but I want to make sure everything is legal you know.
Also, what happens if I want to get remarried ... and has this ever happened on here before?
What I want to know is what constitutes grounds for a myLot divorce or annulment, and how do I go about obtaining one? Do I have to get approval from GAA for this sort of thing, or do I just make an announcement and it is done? Back when we got married, GAA was still a girl, and she did not have anything to do with the marriage, so I suspect that Alex would not have to be involved with the divorce, but I want to make sure everything is legal you know. Also, what happens if I want to get remarried ... and has this ever happened on here before?18 people like this
24 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
27 May 12
Did yo ucheck the FAQs and/or the Terms before starting this topic? 
You might find all of your questions are answered there.
Maybe not though because myLot would not be held responsable either for the marriage or the annulling of it I guess 
Did you wish your hubby a happy birthday today?
I mean, you might already be divorced if you didn't
You might find all of your questions are answered there.
Maybe not though because myLot would not be held responsable either for the marriage or the annulling of it I guess
Did you wish your hubby a happy birthday today?
I mean, you might already be divorced if you didn't 8 people like this
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
27 May 12
I see him on FB and that is where I saw it but I have had no contact with him either for months. I couldn't even get through to him when I needed him here so I can't help you out either
Marioooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! 
Marioooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! 7 people like this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
27 May 12
Maybe that is why he has abandoned me ... I didn't even know that it was his birthday today. On the other hand, if he were more attentive, then perhaps I would have given him a really nice birthday present.
On the other hand, if he were more attentive, then perhaps I would have given him a really nice birthday present.5 people like this
@mario_stevens (6971)
• Malaysia
27 May 12
she ain't getting it annulled....we're reconciling 
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@topffer (42156)
• France
27 May 12
Which one among your myLot husbands has abandoned you
? Two are already here, but as you spoke of "polygamy" it suggests that you have more than two : how many can we expect in this discussion ? As you does not seem very formal for your marriages, you should not be so formal concerning your divorces
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? Two are already here, but as you spoke of "polygamy" it suggests that you have more than two : how many can we expect in this discussion ? As you does not seem very formal for your marriages, you should not be so formal concerning your divorces.6 people like this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
27 May 12
I suspect that "husband material" might be denim ... or possibly flannel ... or maybe leather ... 
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
27 May 12
No, I believe that you have misread something here. I have only one myLot husband, whom I thought had abandoned me but keeps on popping up every time I mention divorce. There is also this guy in a wheelchair that I am very fond of, but he is not "husband material", so that should not worry you in the least.2 people like this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
27 Aug 15
@PhredWreck I am sure you would not remember him ... he looked rather like a Lamb, but I suspect that he was just some guy typing ...
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 May 12
Hmmmm ... I guess that you dodged the bullet on that one, especially since not only is he already married on myLot but also you would have to try to keep remembering who he is as he changes clothes so often. On the other hand, it would always be like you had a new lover rather than a husband with all the changes, so maybe that wouldn't be such a bad thing after all!
On the other hand, it would always be like you had a new lover rather than a husband with all the changes, so maybe that wouldn't be such a bad thing after all!2 people like this
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 May 12
Too young for the divorce but I have read stories where divorce was on the mind of the lotter... applied and maybe got it sanctioned... but there was "something" which even that divorce couldnt make the divorcee happy... so returned back again - a rebirth - sometimes maybe!
However some stood and found happiness with the annulment...
I am too young, and also right now madly in love, so my chances of understanding of the whole process is for mere consultations only
btw, I have been reading a lot of cases being filed which do not want a "committed relation" and you think of a re-marriage here
btw, I have been reading a lot of cases being filed which do not want a "committed relation" and you think of a re-marriage here4 people like this
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 May 12
i read all of the above comments and its all so funny. i cant add anything near as funny as these@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 May 12
I was not thinking of divorce from myLot but I was afraid that my myLot husband was divorcing me. I think it is only fair that I have the option of remarrying if my myLot husband divorces or abandons me as I do not want to spend the rest of my life alone on here.
As for the scoundrels that do not want a "committed relationship"
... well, I guess that I will keep that in mind and try to find someone more worthy of the title of my myLot husband if my current husband does decide to divorce and/or abandon me.
As for the scoundrels that do not want a "committed relationship" ... well, I guess that I will keep that in mind and try to find someone more worthy of the title of my myLot husband if my current husband does decide to divorce and/or abandon me.2 people like this
@mario_stevens (6971)
• Malaysia
27 May 12
i went off to the gold mines so i could keep my promises to you for our castle in honolulu...and when i get back, i'm being served myLot papers 
you can keep the purple flowers...i'm getting the cat
you can keep the purple flowers...i'm getting the cat 3 people like this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
27 May 12
Mario, your back!
*HUGE HUGS* How the heck have you been, and what has been keeping you from us for so long?
You can have the cat as long as I get to keep my beautiful purple petals, especially since that darn cat liked to nibble on my leaves while I was trying to sleep.
*HUGE HUGS* How the heck have you been, and what has been keeping you from us for so long?
You can have the cat as long as I get to keep my beautiful purple petals, especially since that darn cat liked to nibble on my leaves while I was trying to sleep.2 people like this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
27 May 12
It is not my fault that my leaves are so tasty!
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@mario_stevens (6971)
• Malaysia
27 May 12
that wasn't the cat...it was me trying to nibble you awake
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
27 May 12
purplealbaster
i am not sure whether I am understanding properly. For divorce in mylot just delete the member from our friends list. if you want temporary divorce then do not delete friendship but make notifications not required.
pl clarify.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
27 May 12
LOL! That is actually a really good solution, Ravisivan. However, I am not having problems with him, so I do not want to delete him from my friends list, and turning notifiers off for him would not do anything, because he is no longer active on here, which is actually the problem.
I would like it if he were more active here, but if he continues to not be active ... and especially if he decides to cancel his account ... then am I still married to him?
However, I am not having problems with him, so I do not want to delete him from my friends list, and turning notifiers off for him would not do anything, because he is no longer active on here, which is actually the problem. I would like it if he were more active here, but if he continues to not be active ... and especially if he decides to cancel his account ... then am I still married to him?5 people like this
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
27 May 12
Geez, I wish it was that easy, just delete a real-life husband from my life.
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
28 May 12
If there wasn't a ceremony and a cake (and I never got an invite,let alone CAKE!
) then I don't think the divorce proceedings should have any formality,either...Of course,if there's a prenup,rugrats,or a threeway involved,things get a little more complicated...is there by any chance a Mylot Lawyer in the house?!
(I LOL'd reading down that first page,btw!)
) then I don't think the divorce proceedings should have any formality,either...Of course,if there's a prenup,rugrats,or a threeway involved,things get a little more complicated...is there by any chance a Mylot Lawyer in the house?!
(I LOL'd reading down that first page,btw!)3 people like this
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
30 May 12
Dang,It seems like I ALWAYS miss out on the good parties...
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 May 12
ROTFLMAO - I am very glad that we could make you laugh, even if I am on the brink of an annulment or pending divorce!
Now that I think about it, though, I am sure that there was jello and belly shots and brownies and perhaps a few other things at the ceremony, but I do not remember any cake ... unless brownies count as cake, which I do not think that they should. As for your invite, I am sure that I sent it to your e-mail, so perhaps you misfiled it in the spam folder ... and by the way, I don't remember there being any spam at the festivities, either.
As for your invite, I am sure that I sent it to your e-mail, so perhaps you misfiled it in the spam folder ... and by the way, I don't remember there being any spam at the festivities, either.1 person likes this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
30 May 12
If you are already upset, Shep, then I probably should not mention the fact that the actual ceremony involved one of us being shirtless and the other one wearing a bikini while we wrote the Guidelines on each other. I also will not mention which one of us was shirtless and which one was wearing the bikini!
I also will not mention which one of us was shirtless and which one was wearing the bikini!1 person likes this
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 May 12
i read all of the above comments and its all so funny. i cant add anything near as funny as these. you all got me so shook up with laughter i commented in the wrong box. btw, i didnt know you could have a mylot hubby. wish i had one. married 5 times and now in old age cant find anyone.
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@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
27 May 12
I think this bunch can be very funny at times and it really makes for good reading so when I see that they had started a new discussion I just pour me a glass of shine and sit back and enjoy the banter.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 May 12
Bunnybon - There are several people on here that have a "myLot marriage", so hope is not lost for you. Also, myLot marriages and divorces are not nearly as complex nor as costly as offline ones, so you should try it if you find someone. I would just caution you that you should make sure that he is not a scoundrel and that he has honorable intentions before you consent to him taking your hand in myLot marriage - and definitely avoid like the plague any suitors on here in wheelchairs.
Manley - I thought you were going to give me a call when that batch of shine was done. Pour some into one of them thar mason jars, pass one over thisaway and lets have some fun!
Thesids - I definitely have to agree with you on your comment about age, the mind and marriage. *thumbsup*
Manley - I thought you were going to give me a call when that batch of shine was done. Pour some into one of them thar mason jars, pass one over thisaway and lets have some fun!
Thesids - I definitely have to agree with you on your comment about age, the mind and marriage. *thumbsup*1 person likes this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
22 Jan 16
You charge fees, but are you legally licensed to perform these services?
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
22 Jan 16
@purplealabaster ...well, I have to be honest. I am from India, and we pay bribes and get everything including those licenses. But on the flip side...we can pay bribe and get divorce or annulment on your terms. 
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@allknowing (137552)
• India
28 May 12
Would you be kind enough to please let me know your definition of:
1. myLot marriage
2. myLot annulment
3. myLot divorce
4. Abandoning by the myLot husband
I will certainly enlighten you on all these matters after I hear from you.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 May 12
I think that the definitions of these things are fairly straightforward, but I will give it a try. A myLot marriage is a marriage on myLot. Similarly, a myLot divorce is getting divorced from your myLot husband or wife. As for a myLot annulment, I have never been entirely sure what an annulment was, and I am not any clearer on it now than I was before.
Abandoning by the myLot husband is when said husband no longer is active on the site. I do not mean an absence of a few days or a few weeks but more like months and maybe even a year. I think the ultimate form of abandonment by a myLot spouse would be if he or she cancelled his or her account and did not return within a short period of time.
So, what is your enlightenment?
Abandoning by the myLot husband is when said husband no longer is active on the site. I do not mean an absence of a few days or a few weeks but more like months and maybe even a year. I think the ultimate form of abandonment by a myLot spouse would be if he or she cancelled his or her account and did not return within a short period of time.
So, what is your enlightenment?1 person likes this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
30 May 12
I am a "traditional" sort of girl, so it is definitely marriage to the user and not to myLot itself as myLot would most likely fall into the "inanimate object" category, and that sort of marriage is definitely taboo here.
So, you have several marriages, but you follow rules with each - I think that is logical and a very good practice. Please tell me what these rules are and under what circumstances would you get a divorce from one of your partners on here? Also, what would you consider as abandonment, which would surely be grounds for a divorce, from one of your myLot spouses?
, so it is definitely marriage to the user and not to myLot itself as myLot would most likely fall into the "inanimate object" category, and that sort of marriage is definitely taboo here.
So, you have several marriages, but you follow rules with each - I think that is logical and a very good practice. Please tell me what these rules are and under what circumstances would you get a divorce from one of your partners on here? Also, what would you consider as abandonment, which would surely be grounds for a divorce, from one of your myLot spouses?1 person likes this
@allknowing (137552)
• India
30 May 12
I think you know the rules and also the freedom that we have here to divorce, separate, marry, and so on. It is between two people. You either continue with the marriage, or leave them alone if they get on your nerves and that's the way I go about.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 May 12
LOL! Perhaps he did, and I wonder whether or not myLot would have to give up its copyright privileges if this was proven to be true!
On the other hand, this really does not help with my dilemma as I do not have more than one myLot husband ... and he assures me that he does not have more than one myLot wife. Do you think that I have grounds for a divorce based on abandonment, especially if he decides to cancel his account and not create a new one within a set amount of time?
On the other hand, this really does not help with my dilemma as I do not have more than one myLot husband ... and he assures me that he does not have more than one myLot wife. Do you think that I have grounds for a divorce based on abandonment, especially if he decides to cancel his account and not create a new one within a set amount of time?1 person likes this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
30 May 12
I think that desertion and abandonment are basically the same thing, although each area/region might use different terminology. In addition, I not only believe in remarriage after divorce (as it has definitely been proven to exist) but also I would consider it if I had the right offer from the right person. Why, does that factor into whether or not I might have grounds for a divorce?
) but also I would consider it if I had the right offer from the right person. Why, does that factor into whether or not I might have grounds for a divorce?1 person likes this
@Orson_Kart (6827)
• United Kingdom
2 Jun 12
I wasn't aware you could have a mylot marriage which didn't compromise any offline marriages. I can't even imagine what the advantages could be?
However, if you check out my profile you will see I have been friending the sexiest and most desirable female members of mylot. So far I have about four of them, and if (in a moment of madness) I should decide I want a bride, I know just where to look.
Let me know if you are now available and I will check if you are one of my four.....just in case I feel the need.
I can't even imagine what the advantages could be?
However, if you check out my profile you will see I have been friending the sexiest and most desirable female members of mylot. So far I have about four of them, and if (in a moment of madness) I should decide I want a bride, I know just where to look.
Let me know if you are now available and I will check if you are one of my four.....just in case I feel the need. 3 people like this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
1 Jul 12
I do not see why a myLot marriage would compromise an offline marriage, although I guess that there might be instances where it would. Perhaps people that are concerned with this should not entertain the idea of a myLot marriage ... or they should make sure that they are ready to ruin their offline marriage if they do.
And what do you mean "I will check if you are one of my four"?! Why wouldn't I be one of your four? Are my beautiful blooms not fragrant enough for you or do you just not like my colorful wardrobe ... perhaps if I changed to a different color bloom I would be more attractive in your eyes?
And what do you mean "I will check if you are one of my four"?! Why wouldn't I be one of your four? Are my beautiful blooms not fragrant enough for you or do you just not like my colorful wardrobe ... perhaps if I changed to a different color bloom I would be more attractive in your eyes?2 people like this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
22 Jan 16
@Orson_Kart I am not sure where it is coming into view, but there has been a lot of activity on it today.
Hey, if you are still that acrobatic at your age, then I suspect you are doing something right, which is probably why people are interested.
Hey, if you are still that acrobatic at your age, then I suspect you are doing something right, which is probably why people are interested.1 person likes this
@Orson_Kart (6827)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 16
@purplealabaster How has this come back into view after all these years?
I am trying desperately to remember who the four were/are. One thing I do know is, I am still collecting, ready to choose when the time comes. But who in their right mind would want an aging acrobat?
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@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
27 May 12
I haven't thought of mylot marriages may be because I don't want to think of it. There were numerous times in my previous stints with mylot that I have some selected friends where we always (I mean always) respond to each others' discussions. I didn't think of it as a marriage. Now that my previous stints had been deleted or deactivated, I lost all those things. You may term this as abandonment but I think it's not the case. For the one who just became inactive, it may not be conclusive to say that he abandoned you. It may be that he's just busy with some personal things. Anyhow, may you find the solutions to your mylot marriages, divorces and annulments. Deletion is not the same as being divorced. At least "The Lamb" will be the judge.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 May 12
I think that if he deletes his account on myLot, then that should be considered a divorce, because obviously he does not intend to come back here and interact in the future. On the other hand, if he is like "Lambie", then he will cancel one account and immediately be back with another, which I think is a different story as he has not really left but more like "changed clothes".
If "The Lamb" is the judge, on the other hand, then I think perhaps I should start thinking of ways to bribe him to be on my side!
If "The Lamb" is the judge, on the other hand, then I think perhaps I should start thinking of ways to bribe him to be on my side!1 person likes this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
22 Jan 16
You have to make amends for the one-liners? Why, did they produce children or something?
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
22 Jan 16
@vandana7 But if they did all that, then why would HE have to be the one to make amends?
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
22 Jan 16
@purplealabaster ..even worse...they got pregnant by somebody else and made him pay the bills...bcoz he decided to marry...on wrong date. That is why arranged marriages are always better.
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@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
27 May 12
Sorry to hear that you are having these issues. My advice to you would be to find some shine and sit and contemplate the out come of your actions. Or if you like just have a party and forget about the husband(s) for a few hours.
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@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
30 May 12
I want you to know that my Mason Jars do not darn, that is left up to me. Hand me that next pair of Argarle socks please.
I thought the party was already going pretty good. Remember though, it may not help your Mylot-marriage to get back on track.
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@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
30 May 12
What you mean last pair, I only got one pair. If you look close you might notice that I don't wear them in the warm weather, save them for when the snow flies. You better hand them shorts over so we can get that hole fixed, don't want your bum-bum hanging out now do we? Hubby must have gotten into the shine closet cause there seems to be several jars missing.
We can check out under that old Oak out back
that is where most drunks end up at.
We can try but I don't know much parting we can do with just the two of us. One thing for sure won't need much shine.
We can check out under that old Oak out back that is where most drunks end up at.
We can try but I don't know much parting we can do with just the two of us. One thing for sure won't need much shine.3 people like this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 May 12
LOL! I like your suggestion about the shine, but someone still has not offered to share any, even though I admonished him a previous response box about his obvious transgression in this area and the steps that he could take to correct the situation.
Now pass me the darn mason jar and let's get this party started!
Now pass me the darn mason jar and let's get this party started!
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jan 16
I think we have all entered the Twilight Zone.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Jan 16
@purplealabaster ...But much of the zone is established at twilight. Hmm.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
26 Jan 16
@celticeagle *hears Twilight Zone theme song playing in the background* This reminds me of "things that make you go hmmmm" ... 
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
25 Jan 16
No, this is better, because the "myLot zone" pays you for your alternate reality!
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
25 Jan 16
Having a myLot torrid affair does sound like a good idea, especially if it helps keep me occupied and pass the time until my myLot husband comes back to me. I was actually hoping that this discussion would entice Val to come back, which it did, even if he didn't stay long.1 person likes this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
25 Jan 16
@rebelann Oh yes, he not only read it but also responded on it in quite a few places.
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@rebelann (112959)
• El Paso, Texas
25 Jan 16
You mean he read all this @purplealabaster ?
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@happytobehereagain (390)
•
26 Aug 15
And I was like ooopss Am I lost in Mylot world?. Haha this is three years ago but this is the first time I knew about this thing on here oh well maybe because I was divorced with Mylot three years ago?.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
26 Aug 15
@happytobehereagain Maybe it has learned its lesson and is more willing to work things out this time.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
26 Aug 15
LOL - I guess that divorcing myLot is a whole new spin on the topic! It seems that you have reconciled, though, and it is good to have you back.
It seems that you have reconciled, though, and it is good to have you back.2 people like this
@happytobehereagain (390)
•
26 Aug 15
@purplealabaster Well I should say Mylotting is sweeter the second time around
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
26 Aug 15
I was "married" to someone on here (it was a running joke between us), but he left for greener pastures (better money-making sites). I heard from him once in a while after he left, but I haven't talked to him in about two years now.
I hadn't even thought about the children ... who would have custody, what the visitation would be, child support ... and here I thought that the virtual marriage part was complicated.
I hadn't even thought about the children ... who would have custody, what the visitation would be, child support ... and here I thought that the virtual marriage part was complicated.1 person likes this
@DaddyEvil (137461)
• United States
26 Nov 15
Okay, I have been reading this "discussion" and it makes very little sense to me! WTH are you all talking about? Is this some old timer myLot crap?
If it is, WOW! You guys really were lamer than I thought!
! WTH are you all talking about? Is this some old timer myLot crap?
If it is, WOW! You guys really were lamer than I thought!1 person likes this
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
28 Nov 15
Well, you are a newcomer here, so you do not know the history and family trees of the people on here. There have been marriages and babies and divorces and ... well, let us just say that we did not need to watch soap operas, because we could just come on here for our daily dose of drama and intrigue, etc.
My myLot husband is Val ( @valkerion ), but he has not been active on here for many years, even before myLot stopped paying.2 people like this
