What would you say to someone who broke your heart?

United States
May 29, 2012 8:30am CST
Have you found love after having your heart broken into a million pieces? It's funny how when you're ready to move on with your life, that's when an ex decides they want to come back into the picture. If you were completely in love with this ex and they tossed you away, what would you say to them now that you have found another love?
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17 responses
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 May 12
My husband, has made my heart broken into pieces. And occurs twice, and it still makes my broken heart, my heart is sick, when I hear name of another woman, called by my husband. But, no I do, but to accept it. Until now, I'm still with my husband. though, my heart was in pieces.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 May 12
I did not say anything. I do not comment anything.
• United States
29 May 12
Is it your cultural beliefs that make you stay, is it your children?
• United States
29 May 12
Why is it do you stay with him, when he hurts you so much?
@wolveren (1586)
• Cebu, Philippines
30 May 12
My wife left me for someone else. She came back and said she wanted me back. I told her that chapter of my life with you in it is all is closed book. Let's have it remain that way. I'm happy with my life now. Yes I was madly in love with her. I gave her a lot of chances in the past. After all I did for her. She blew it. I forgave her and that is history. But I ain't doing it all over again. I'm happy with other women.
@wolveren (1586)
• Cebu, Philippines
30 May 12
Yeah I couldn't dwell on it forever. She wanted release and she got it. I didn't want to stand in the way of her dreams. She still comes back for a visit though. hehe.
• United States
30 May 12
It's a shame when it's a marriage involved, but you did what you had to do.
• United States
31 May 12
Hey! You're supposed to cut them off completely. No visits! LOL.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
30 May 12
What would I say to someone who broke my heart? "You break it you buy it." I've had this happen before where an x ditched me and then came back claiming to be still in love with me. The lesson I learned was once an X always an X. If someone leaves you move on and don't ever look back. When they show up one day just say "who are you?" And then sick your dogs on them.
• United States
30 May 12
No. I didn't really do that. I just stopped talking to them. No last good bye or anything. Just stopped.
• United States
30 May 12
LOL. Have you ever sicked your dog on an ex? I kind of like that response, wish I had a dog.
• United States
30 May 12
Thats the best move, the biggest mistake you can make is to let them know you still think about them.
@sheen13 (567)
• India
29 May 12
Well, till now I've not got to be in such a situation but if anytime I find myself in such a situation, I will definitely make sure that I do not return back to my ex regardless of how much ever I loved him. This is because I believe that once you give somebody a chance and that person doesn't prove to be worth something, then he doesn't deserve any other chance. I will say him to find another girl and stay happy with her because I have found my true love. I know it will be difficult but I will try my best to say him such a thing. But I will also tell him later on that we can remain friends.
@sheen13 (567)
• India
30 May 12
Umm... yea you are absolutely right! How can we stay friends with our ex. It will certainly create problems. It may create huge misunderstandings with our partner. I was being so stupid. It will be the best choice to walk away!
• United States
30 May 12
See you were strong till you suggested the friend part. You can't be friends with an ex, not as long as you are in a relationship with someone else. You leave yourself open to a lot of trouble. It's better to just walk away completely.
• United States
1 Jun 12
It always is, because if you ex was selfish enough to think he could just come back and you would accept him without any hesitation, he's probably selfish enough to try and sabotage your relationship.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
29 May 12
I am one of those people who can say that I have never really and truly had my heart broken by anyone. Although I have had relationships that didn't work out, the longest and most prominent one being a marriage that ended in divorce after 24 years, I was never broken-hearted. Although I wish no ill will on my ex, given the opportunity, I would never go back with him. I am very happily married right now and love my life just the way it is. Even though I have a history with my past relationships I don't feel that there is anything I would go back to. The only significant thing about my past is that it brought me to the present, where I now live.
• United States
29 May 12
How could you not be brokenhearted about a marriage that lasted 24 years. I can understand having no regrets, but you weren't sad when it ended?
• United States
30 May 12
Ok, I can see how you would feel that way. I guess if anything this experience made you stronger, because you were able to leave when you had to. I have a friend who is dealing with an abusive husband, because she too thinks that you have to stick it out through the hard times in a marriage. I've seen how it's changed her, but she still endures.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
30 May 12
Every experience in life teaches us something and therefore makes us stronger. There were a lot of reasons why I didn't leave, too much detail to get into on a site such as this one, but it happens that you stay for whatever reasons, good or bad. One never really fully understands the situation until they are in it themselves, and even then it's hard to understand why we do the things we do. In retrospect I can say that I should have left earlier and even I don't FULLY understand why I didn't. It's easy for me (or others) to say that your friend should leave but we are not in her shoes therefore cannot possibly fully understand it. We can observe, see changes as you mentioned but will probably never know why she endures. In fact, she probably cannot fully understand why she endures. I hope for her sake though that she finds a solution, either by leaving, getting counselling, whatever.
• United States
29 May 12
What a great question. I have a long story where that answer lies. In the end though I really think if you would have asked that yesterday (figuratively) I would have said that i would drop my current bf to be with the heart breaker. Recently though I'm feeling better about my current relationship. Thank God! Sometimes though, i wish I could go back to when i was with him and things were wonderful. That will never happen and it's hard to except.
• United States
29 May 12
Living in the past is never a good thing. It will never be the way it was again, and it's best to move on to a new beginning.
• United States
29 May 12
I try. i am doing well i think :) just have a relaps every now and then.
• United States
29 May 12
I know how you feel. There was a woman I cared for deeply, and I think of her often, but I know in my heart I could never go back to her.
30 May 12
I think If someone've broken your heart, they do not deserve your love. If you have found another love then you should let your ex know, that you've move on. It's always good to be honest even though they've broken your heart.
• United States
30 May 12
I know, but sometimes you just feel the need to rub it in their face that they gave you up like a dummy.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
That's how ironic life is. My heart has been broken not once, not twice but many times. I always tried my best to forget and move on with my life. I tell myself that if say it is over, then it has to be that way, no looking back. If that situation you mentioned happened to me, then I would just simply tell him that I am already inlove with somebody else. When I say I am already inlove with someone, it means I no longer love him. I can't manage to love two guys at the same time :D
• United States
1 Jun 12
I think it is possible to love two people at the same time, but when one has accepted you for who you are, where the other rejected you it's easy to choose the person you want to be with.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
31 May 12
Your ex probably left you for someone else who made them happier, yes? (I think of Ted Mosby from How I Met Your Mother, whose former bride-to-be ran out on their wedding to get back together with her ex-husband; and--although he spent a whole episode getting up the courage to confront her & her reunited husband--Ted saw how happy the two were together and was happy for them.) You should both look at each other's entire situation and agree on what you should do. Make sure she's happy, and your own happiness will arrive when it should. (Be her friend, truly. If you're truly her friend, you want what is best for her. If that's you (and you would be better for her than for your new love), break-off the new love and get back together! If you're not what's best for her (whether it's because of you preferring your new love or because of her finding someone better than you), help her get back with whoever IS best for her!)
• United States
31 May 12
I'm not a very nice person. If someone hurts me, I usually want them to be alone for the rest of their life. I know that sounds messed up, but I do give people warnings. Don't get involved with me if you're gonna hurt me later. I'll do everything possible to make you regret it.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
30 May 12
I never go back to a person who broke my heart. They did break our heart already then i am not sure they won't do it the second time. I used to be in that situation, that guy did break my heart and he wanna be back after a while, he told many things and sorry a lots about it ...i was swing with his talk because that time i still have feeling with him...but i take time to think it carefully and i decided to leave him forever, no contact anymore, my feeling is gone after that also. I am pleased with that decision.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
1 Jun 12
I know...we are all human being...that's why...
• United States
30 May 12
It's not always easy to be strong. I've had to think things over a few times myself.
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 May 12
This happened to me one time. My ex came back wanting another chance. By the time he came I was happily married with children. The ex was married and then divorced so I guess he thought I was going to jump back to him because he was available...not. He met my husband and kids, he looked pretty upset. I told him this is what you could have had with me but you lost that chance a long time ago. I felt bad in a way saying it but he hurt me and I never got the chance to show him what he missed until that point. In another way it felt good standing up for myself.
• United States
30 May 12
Sometimes you just got to stick your tongue out and give the a big rasberry. They deserve it for thinking so highly of themselves.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
30 May 12
"May you rot in hell." I have this ex who betrayed me after giving me "thousands" of promises. I never believed in those promises but it still hurt somehow. I gave him the second chance which he didn't use carefully. Even his best friend calls him stupid (I'm close with his best friend until now). This ex used to send me messages on facebook begging for forgiveness but I just couldn't. I may not be angry with him anymore but I still can't forgive him. I haven't found another love yet, but I'm glad I wasn't ended up with him.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
31 May 12
Thank you!
• United States
30 May 12
LOL. That's how you do it. If they went back on every promise, and left you when you should have meant the world to them, then they deserve no less that, "May you rot in Hell!"..
@swapmind (355)
• Australia
30 May 12
people who walked out of your life by choice should not be taken back by their choice else you are paving a way for exploitation.Relationship sustain if and only if both have an equal urge to give it life and respect each-others feelings.people who hurt you once will hurt you again for sure sometime later.So don't authorize them to do so.
• United States
30 May 12
Yes once you give someone the power to hurt you over and over again, the fault doesn't lie with them it lies with you for not respecting yourself more.
30 May 12
Well,if someone broke my heart,i will not beat him,i will say for him to find a better one,because if he chose to leave i will let him go.the injured will make us stronger,so when you hurt,please do not be afraid,to adjust your mood,perhaps happiness is waiting for you at next second,best wishes for you ,my friend.
• United States
30 May 12
I always say, that if you have had your heart broken, you can't be afraid to keep trying to find love. Even if you meet a 100 people who take you for granted time and time again, once you meet the person who doesn't take you for granted, then it's worth all the effort.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
29 May 12
Never give all your heart to a person. - Because the person may throw it away 1 day.The perils of relationship.
It really depends how much u love your ex and how was the breakup .Some breakup are very bad and many bad words and hurting words are exchange and such , there is no point of return. Some give another chance , however it will be toughfer now 2nd chance, however , if u have already new love , then it is very hard.Will u throw your new love away and break that person heart into million pieces like your ex did to u?
• United States
29 May 12
If you leave a person your with to get back with your ex, you are the biggest fool in the world. The ex just needs to take a walk and keep it moving.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
29 May 12
"Thank you for all the memories and for the love, but I found a better one which truly deserves my love. Goodluck" These will be the words I would utter if I have the chance to talk to my exs. Yeah, I admit I've been dumped and hurt for a couple of times but now I can say that I finally found my one true love. I love her for so many reasons. We have fights, but we make it a point that we fix things.
• United States
29 May 12
You sound like a person who deserves everything he has and more. I never will understand how someone can think they can toss you away, and then try to come back .
@aritahime (221)
• Indonesia
29 May 12
I've never been in that situation before, but I've ever imagined it before. lol. In my imagination I will never let him back into my life. When he tried to do that, then I will just hatefully stare at him from head to toe, back to the head, and back to the toe, and leave him. I think that will be a great feeling to leave someone who already leave me in the past. :p
• United States
29 May 12
That's a reasonable reaction, except whats with all the staring, it sounds like you would be trying to get a good mental picture before you left.