Have You Ever Broken Anything When You Have Been Angry..
By Janey1966
@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
May 30, 2012 11:08am CST
...like that naff ornament your in-laws bought you some years ago?
Believe me, when the neighbours were making all that noise last week I did actually throw a tantrum in the kitchen and I was THAT FAR from hurling my naff dolphin ornament over our dividing wall. Instead I just banged about a bit..you know, bashing the cutlery in the drawer, that kind of thing. Mind you, those same neighbours (I think) have moved out so I guess they didn't want to live next door to a lunatic!
At the time I had to "say sorry" to the cat as she jumped a mile when I was er..throwing my considerable weight around!
Do you ever hurl things across the room if you're angry? I once chucked my specs case over in the direction of where John sits when Carlos Teves of Manchester City scored an off-side goal against Blackpool a couple of years ago. Fortunately, he wasn't sitting there at the time!
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@psychoartist (756)
• United States
31 May 12
yes, and now i regret it. we are missing a lot of antique glassware that we once had because i began tantruming during one of our arguments...and the neighbors seemed to give us lots of glances in that neighborhood...the thing is they were things that were irreplaceable. i got some cuts on my feet and all, but that healed, but the regret won't.
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
31 May 12
I haven't got anything of real value other than electronic goods. The ornaments we have aren't that valuable although if I broke a crystal vase Mum donated to me (that I bought, ironically) I wouldn't be too happy. It's in the kitchen too so it's a good job I didn't eye it up and chuck it across the room..I'd be picking up the pieces now over a week later if I had done.
Shame about your antique glassware.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16759)
• China
31 May 12
Everyone has a moment to lose their temper.You don't seem to be a hot-blooded person.Maybe the neighbour stretched your patience to the limit.This time,you took them down a peg.I remember I thrown the bowls and smashed them to fragments once I blew my top.Generally speaking, I seldom fly into a temper.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
31 May 12
No, I cannot imagine you throwing anything during a tantrum. You sound quite controlled to me, in a non-aggressive way, which is great!
Usually, I don't throw things like that or bash things about...but I felt it necessary on this occasion.
At least the neighbours have since moved out..obviously scared of me!
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 Sep 12
Very true. Their replacements are even quieter than me so I've not had to er..throw my weight around..thankfully!
@changjiangzhibin89 (16759)
• China
1 Jun 12
What I said about that is true.I am not as good as you imagined,thanks a lot!Perhaps you really scared your neighbour into moving out .They have only themself to thank!
@BarBaraPrz (47274)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
31 May 12
The only thing I've broken when angry is my right great toe...
It was after a visit to IKEA...
@BarBaraPrz (47274)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
1 Jun 12
We had planned a busy day, starting at IKEA and going on from there. But it wasn't open yet when we got there, so we had to go somewhere else and come back. The items I wanted (magazine cases) would have been near the exit, but the way the store was set up was to go in, then go upstairs, then come back downstairs to that section. And when we got there, they were sold out...
At that time of my life, I did not have as good control of my temper as I do now. So I kicked the display, which happened to be firmly anchored. Also, I forgot I was wearing open-toed shoes...
Trying to put together their stuff is another matter. The last of their "instructions" I'd looked at had, right at the start, a pictogram of a fella calling their helpline... and not a word of English (or any other language) other than the thing's stupid cutesy name.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 Sep 12
I think this may be the reason I've only been in an IKEA store ONCE in my life!
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
31 May 12
Were you erecting something from IKEA at the time..which would make sense.
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
5 Jun 12
I have gotten angry to the point I actually kicked a hole in one of my doors. Now there is a hole there and I have to get a new door. I know the feeling and I understand it. What people don't really understand is that sometimes it is not controllable.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 Sep 12
I should try that with the MILS's failed painted door in my hallway.
I do understand how you feel but sometimes we don't know our own strength do we?
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
30 Sep 12
I guess we don't realize how crazy we get when we are angry. I would not break that door if I were you. Think of the money you will have to spend to replace it. I know it sounds funny and stuff, and I know it does release the anger. But it is not worth it.
@itsmamanen (423)
• Philippines
30 May 12
i once threw my cellphone across the wall when i had a fight with my boyfriend several years ago. somebody texted me and he became jealous about it. i got so mad of his issues that i threw it across the wall. the phone was so broken that it can't be repaired anymore. i regret that act because i loved that phone so much.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 May 12
You must've been really mad though! Shame about your phone but I guess you have a new one now?
@itsmamanen (423)
• Philippines
31 May 12
yeah, actually he got me a new and better one. after that incident, we were okay.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
31 May 12
Bashing the cutlery about in the drawer was great, actually, 'cos I knew it wouldn't break! The plates are in the unit above, on the wall, so I'm glad I didn't throw any of those about..I could've done some real damage with those..plus the fact they are from the in-laws..and I don't like them either, so you can imagine what it would've been like if I'd started!!
@GemmaR (8517)
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31 May 12
I will admit that I used to have anger issues, and I would often throw things at the wall when I was angry. The reason I did this was because if I didn't take my anger out on an object, then I was worried that I was going to hit the person who I was arguing with, and I would never want to hurt another person no matter how much they had happened to annoy me at the time. But then I got help for my anger, and I have learned how to get rid of those feelings now. I can't remember the last time that I broke anything, and I am very glad that this is the case because I feel a lot better this way.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
31 May 12
How do you control your anger now? Or don't you get angry in the first place? I'm full of admiration my friend and I'm so glad you feel a lot better, as you say.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
I once had a quarrel with my younger brother who was bigger than me physically and I really got so mad that I wasn't even know what I was doing. I threw a small upholstered chair at him but I did not intend to hit him directly of course but just wanting to throw something at him. It didn't hit him but it hit our glass table and broke into pieces. I was so shocked and so was him and so the fight ended and we both cried thinking what our parents are gonna do to us. I was older, so I was guessing I will be the one to be told I was wrong. Well I was so I took all their words and apologize to my brother. That was the only worst thing I can remember breaking something at home and I regretted that. That was so evil of me to throw things at someone
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 Sep 12
I think 'evil' is a bit strong but, of course you're thinking that the chair could've hit your brother, right?
I once threw my specs case at my brother (the thing had a metal bit sticking out of it) and THAT bit landed right on his arm..a bandaged arm due to his broken collar-bone.
It WOULD have to land there. The poor lad was in agony and I DID feel bad about causing him even more pain than he was in already.
@universe2o6 (356)
• Brazil
31 May 12
I have done this a lot... I got this bad habit from y mom. She is a very stressed person with almost 0% patience and she loses it very quickley. I already broke a gameboy, back in 2000, I was just 10 years old and had just lost a pokemon match. Well, now I consider myself much more mature and the value of things has gotten larger, with the fact that now i work, make my own money and buy my own things.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
31 May 12
Wow, breaking a Gameboy when you were 10..that takes some doing! Seriously though, you're right..once you start paying for these things yourself you start to find out the true value of them.
Good for you.
@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
30 May 12
Yes, I am guilty and should be imprisoned. Not for breaking some things but for getting angry with uncontrolled emotion. I had broken computer sets, television, important valuables, but most of all, I have broken people's hearts and God's law. I am a work in the process, undergoing some purifying so that one of these days, I can have self control. I don't like myself in this area.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Yes, before I throw things when I am angry and I regret it so much. I realized the throwing/broken things just because your angry and upset is not proper attitude instead your wasting lots of things without any reason. The reason why I dont want to break anything when I am angry because of the things around me inside our house are came from my husband who works hard to just to buy it and all of them has unforgettable memories to us as husband and wife.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 Sep 12
You could try the cutlery..that won't break (only joking) lol.
@yimsiupang (237)
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31 May 12
Well,autually speacking,i have ever broken something when i feel angry and disappointed,but i do not want to do that again,calm down and deal with problem just is the most wisest,do you agree with me ?
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
31 May 12
I do..and, I am - usually like that. I tend to calm down before I can inflict any damage. I really was sooo angry that day though and the neighbours have gone so I guess it worked in a perverse kinda way!
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
31 May 12
Hmmm, I can't recall ever doing such a thing as this that you describe. I tend to have impeccable self control, even under the most adverse conditions, such as when my mate throws tantrums. There have been times when my mate has thrown such a tantrum that I feared for my life, and yet, I showed steely reserve akin to that of David Farragut at the Battle of Mobile Bay.
Mind you, I have had close calls when I've wanted to bash some lovely trinket against the wall and smash it to bits, but I've been able to control this urge thus far.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
31 May 12
You're right - you DO have impeccable self-control. Good for you!
@nonersays (3335)
• United States
30 May 12
I usually manage to avoid throwing anything breakable. I've thrown a book across the room a couple of times. I often bang and rattle louder than I have to in the kitchen when I'm angry though.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 May 12
Yeah, sometimes I did it but still under control. If I want to throw things I will make sure I will not going break them. It will be wasted if I am breaking it myself. Most of the time it just small and tiny things...or I just punch my pillow to let out the anger~(^^)
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 May 12
I've often thought about sweeping all my perfume bottles off my dressing-table but it would cost too much cash to replace them all..so I stop myself.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
30 May 12
Well to be very honest, i have never broken anything out of anger or disappointment. For i believe that we should rather have control over our anger and sorrow and rather not vent our anger and disappointment over the objects. Breaking things would not only aggravate our anger but could also hurt the feelings of our near and dear ones. Those pertaining to these habits should try to first control their anger and take time to make things get normal.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 May 12
I was on my own at the time of the "utensil bashing incident" but I take your point..it's much better to calm down and think about things objectively before letting fly!